u/TheHollowOak

For the funny...

I recently applied and should have an interview by next week.

I know the shirts are ALWAYS worn, but are Jeans usually okay? Only pants I own are Jeans... Well fitted, loose, solid color, no holes, and in good condition.

Also are belts required?? I have a severe trauma with belts, don't even own one and go into a panic attack when handling a belt. (A canvas D ring belt would be tolerable but not a classic leather belt)

Are gray sneakers allowed? Those are the only shoes I own that are closed toed and work appropriate. Obviously can't get a black pair until I have the money for them.

Asking just to know.

I closed my account for personal reasons and wanting to know if it would be possible to go back in the future. Preferably a fresh account...

Please no hate in replies!

There's a guy I've known for some years who my mom's "adopted" and calls her favorite other kid. He pretty much claimed me as a younger sister and he's become the older brother I never had, he just feels like home and someone to lean on in hard times and like the family I never knew I needed.

Yesterday my mom made a major decision and strongly requested I tell NO ONE not even him even though he'd be one of the first she'd go to. Same day he gave me a ride home from somewhere which has been frequent for a while and we usually talk about whatever. From food, the weather, something random or funny, sometimes something serious, he tells me about a girl he likes and whatever random stuff we end up talking about. Once we literally had a 30 minute conversation and debate about food combos. He also loves to make fun my food allergies and exaggerats by saying I'm allergic to oxygen.

When I was with him yesterday and we were talking about probably 10 different things I had the other things in my mind but was trying to hold it together since it was requested to say absolutely nothing. Today it all happened and my mom reached out to him to help us. As soon as she called him he knew exactly what was going on. He helped us out and I talked to him about everything and he said he could just feel it yesterday when I was around him and just knew something wasn't right. I don't even have to speak and he just knows and is usually accurate. Kinda too accurate... He told me that and said. "I know yall way to well to not know when something ain't right and you were not yourself yesterday and I could just sense what you were thinking about"

Hes a pain sometimes and a bit rough but doesn't mean any harm and has never given me the slightest reason to not trust him. Hes family and that's that. One time when we were talking I said "we're basically like family" and his response was "we're not LIKE family we ARE family". Everything between us is 100% sibling like. No other feelings just a sibling type bond which we both value more then anything.

I've only met my uncle 7 times since I was old enough to remember. I'm 21 now and the earliest I remember seeing him I was only 5.

Hes a few years older than my mom and has a family of his own over 500 miles away with an extremely busy life with his wife and 2 daughters (a preteen and a teen).

Each time I've seen him he just feels like home. Very pleasant and wonderful to be around. I was always very shy and extremely slow to warming up to people especially men but never had that problem with him. Ironically we have so much in common down to weird habits, personality, speech patterns and engery. So that helps.

Saw him twice a month apart recently due to family emergency and realized how amazing he is to be around and really gonna wish to have him around even more but no telling when I'll see him again. Could be months or years... He just feels like family in the strongest way possible.

Not to be weird or anything but he's one of the nicest and kindest people I've EVER been around. Very very respectful, calm, gentle, silly, a little quirky, and super genius. He can speak and sing in multiple languages fluently, does all kinds of card tricks and magic tricks, artistic, great with technology and very sharp memory.

Yesterday I was with my mom and we had car troubles so of course her first person to contact was my stepdad. His car has always been a bit unclean but never chocking bad or reaking in smells. He got a new car a couple months ago, at first it had no smell ZERO smells, just clean until he put vent air fresheners in it and now its awful. I couldn't breathe so whatever forget that im never getting in it again.

Never thought I'd be comparing smells I hate. Id rather smell skunk all day then his car. At least its all natural... I could still smell it on my cloths the next day and I wasn't even in there for 2 minutes. I've ridden with a friend who vapes in his vehicle and even that's NOTHING compared to that car yesterday.

He thought I was overreacting and whatever but it was literally choking and gagging me the second the doors shut and the air started blowing. But now we know why he stinks all the time.

How do people think its acceptable and pleasant to have those smells in their space 😭 IT STINKS SOOOO BAD

(Both in our 20s. He's mid and I'm early)

About 3 years ago I met a guy and he basically became family, my mom "adopted" him and considers him her bonus kid and loves him A LOT.

He pretty much claimed me as a sister and I accepted it, he has a bunch of siblings but never talks to them and I have 3 older step sisters who I want absolutely zero contact with because of reasons. And awkward part is he knew them in school so he knows why I don't want them around. Because of all that we kinda just filled in the empty sibling spot for each other.

He occasionally drinks (used to be a problem and led to outburst of violence but he got it under control early), sometimes but rarely gambles and vapes. 3 things I strongly avoid people who do but he still made his way into my life despite being a doer of those things. I love him very very very much but absolutely zero non-platonic feelings. I feel safer around him then many other people, never once doubted him and would trust him with anything. At this point I don't ever see myself removing him from my life.

He doesn't communicate well especially over text he never responds and forgets about it, refuses to ask for help, gets very emotional and sensitive when he's comfortable around someone but kinda gives the silent treatment when hes irritated or anything but tries to act like nothings wrong. Things are going on right now and his own words to me were "the whole world's crumbling and I don't know what to do". He wanted to talk but didn't know how, at the same time he was upset at another guy, was tired so he was grumpy and irritated which made it harder but even in that hes still kind and respectful and comfortable to be around. And it deeply hurts to not be able to help but I'm completely unable to because of things I'm dealing with but my family offered to help him out.

One time we were talking and I said "at this point we're like family" and his response was "we're not LIKE family we ARE family". That hit hard

Whatever feelings I have for him aren't romantic or sexual at all but I deeply love him in a way that I've never felt. It feels fully platonic but a very deep love in a family way.