r/ChildfreeMuslims

Since the majority views vasectomy and ligation as haram due them being considered permanent (because reversing them has a low chance of success), that leaves us with only IUD, implant, BC pills, and condom.

While these options are still pretty effective, they are not 100% like vasectomy or ligation. So what if you still get pregnant accidentally? What are the odds of that happening?

And would you abort or keep the baby?

This has been really bothering me because it feels like there is always a risk of still getting pregnant, which makes me scared of getting married and having intercourse, although I am, too, tempted by my sexual desires and want to fulfil them in a halal way.

Missing Depth

Not sure if this is the right place for me talk about this and reveal.

I’ve been living alone all my life and as I get older I miss the depth of connection.

I did have friends but it’s not been the same.
They’ve got married and I am not able to relate to them anymore in many ways and the friendships have cracked.

As much as I make efforts to take care of my physical and mental health, life has its ways to take me on a downward spiral.

Of course, not all days are the same.
On some days I feel hopeful and on other days I feel extremely alone.

I’ve gone through some of the most challenging situations which nobody can imagine and I’ve managed to survive through it. I am glad that I am still alive. I am not exaggerating this.

I miss the depth of connection.
I know that I can be a good friend and a partner.
I choose to be childfree.

The emotional void is real.
I have career and financial goals. And it gets very lonely when I go through challenging situations.

I enjoy my alone time.
I prefer to talk less and listen more.
But it gets very lonely.

There’s this constant voice telling me that I am extremely alone and I have nobody.

I think life would be slightly better if I have someone to root for me. It could be from a friend / friends or a partner. Just saying.