r/ChristianSingles

A man writes me the following. Red flags? Green flags? Thoughts…

(I literally have no idea what to say to this person who I just started talking with online)

It is good that you want to submit to your future husband and respect him. I think one concern I have is that, yes you say you think you could respect me or listen to me, but I think in my experience it's been where you kind of unload your reasoning and expect me to match up. Like I think in a marriage, it's good that a wife would be receptive to her husbands leadership without much friction. Like it's important for a husband to love his wife as himself and to guide her, but like...authority is authority. We should follow christ without much questioning or quarreling, so it is to be for other relationships - slave and master, husband and wife. That sounds tyranical but i'm not trying to sound that way.

Im a real passionate person. I would love a genuine relationship with a girl and there are times i’d get that opportunity and we’d date but i would move real fast and end up either burning out or it just wouldn’t work out because i would realize later that i was never truly ready to be in a relationship in the first place but because i was so eager for one I would get into a relationship… there’s this girl i met and she seems really close to God like a genuine daughter to God. She has great wisdom and seems really close to Jesus. I told her she was pretty and introduced myself to her. We talked and then exchanged instagrams and we’ve been texting for about two weeks. There are times where I second guess it because though we do talk and all… a lot of times im the main one initiating the convo. Ive prayed about it and asked God for advice. I dont know if im tripping about it because in the past things have came fast when it comes to girls but because she is a child of God im being forced to take it slow because the Bible says love is patient. Anyone got some advice or similar experiences that could help?