r/ChristianSingles

25f never dated. Serving actively in church and from 19yo had guys approach me/ask me out. Problem is I’ve never saw them that way and rejected them right from the side politely whilst maintaining our friendship.

Don’t have any guys I like at this church I’m in currently. Have always actively served in all the churches I went to. Right now I don’t have any desire to church hunt again, as I’ve done that and was an exhausting and spiritually tiring journey. Only two years into my church. But I do want to get married and have kids one day.

Had a situationship with a guy but we didn’t work out.

How active should I be? I don’t feel or have a desire to specifically go to other churches for the sake of checking out guys. Feels disingenuous and awkward to explain why I’m at a church for extended period of time when I’ve got a home church I’m enjoying and not planning to leave.

Thanks.

Single dad/grandpa looking for my best friend and future wife.

I'm not very good at introductions since I don't really talk about myself unless someone asks. It's probably because I am a big introvert. So, if you want to know something; don't hesitate to ask.

I was saved back in 1993 at the Carmen concert that came to Phoenix. Since then, I have been working on my faith in God. Recently, God has shown me that I need to have patience and trust in His timing and plan. Someone once told me that I am in God's waiting room while He works in my life. So, I lean into Him and read more of God's word as I am in the waiting room.

My journey has been a rough one, but I know God has brought me through every valley.

I've lived in the heat of AZ for my entire life. My family is here and so I haven't had any reason to move out of state.

In my personal time, I like to watch movies/TV shows. Usually I go for more sci-fi/fantasy/action/romance genres. I like to camp up north when I am able to. I like to hike and ride my bicycle when the temps allow. I like to read more fantasy books than non-fiction to help escape from the days worries. I also like to build Lego sets and one day hope to build a Lego city. I also play video games when I don't have more serious tasks to handle.

I'm looking for a woman who puts God first in her life. She has to rely on Him in all aspects of her life, just as I have learned that myself. She has to be a caring soul and have a loving heart. I don't care if she has children, but if they are like my children, I know they will want to meet me before they "approve" her dating me.

Since I am 50 I normally date 35 to 55 year old. I don't mind talking to anyone out of that range since I know God will bring the right woman at the right time and her age won't be the factor, but her heart for Him will be.

Relocation is up for discussion. Like I said, I've been here my entire life and don't mind talking about moving for the right woman. Obviously, less distance means more in person dates. Whereas more distance will mean less. Either way, that can be worked out in the future.

I'm 5'9" with a bit of a belly at 210lbs. Years of drinking Coke has taken it's affect and I am getting into better shape. I was at 249lbs in 2019 and have been able to trim it down.

If you've read this far, thank you for taking the time to read about me. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask me.

Ryan.

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I’m a 26M and I’m looking for genuine advice on how to choose the right life partner in today’s world.

Dating, relationships, and expectations seem very different in 2026 compared to what previous generations experienced. With social media, career priorities, financial pressures, and changing values, I’m finding it difficult to know what qualities I should prioritize and what red flags I shouldn’t ignore.
For those who are happily married or in healthy long-term relationships, what advice would you give someone my age? If you could go back and choose your life partner again, what would you do differently?

I’m looking for practical, real-life advice rather than idealistic answers.

Also, this journey can feel a bit lonely at times. If anyone is interested in studying the Bible together, learning, and encouraging each other in faith, feel free to send me a DM. I’d love to connect with like-minded people.

I've had same-sex attraction my entire life but until now I've just ignored and denied it and I've prayed and prayed for it to go away but it will never go away. In high school right now it really sucks never dating anyone or doing anything romantic whatsoever. I don't really see a path forward in my life where I don't fall into extreme hopelessness, loneliness, and no idea what to do with my life.

Many straight Christians like to say it's just a choice or they brush it off or don't know how to help. I'm alone and don't have friends either. I've tried for so long to make good friends that I actually feel comfortable with but they all fail or hurt me or I end up catching feelings for them and it ends in a horrible mess. The only person I am decently good friends with I just really don't want to talk about this with because I don't feel comfortable with her at all and we'll probably drift apart after high school anyway.

If you're straight, you don't think about how much of your life revolves around the fact that you're attracted to the opposite sex. It allows you to have a companion for life, have kids and start a family, feel loved and accepted and provided for. After a long day of work you can come home and spend time with your family, plan vacations together, do stuff together, have intimacy and romance, etc. Almost everything meaningful in your life is because of that.

If I follow the Bible on this, it's not just "don't have gay sex" or "don't get married to a man" but it inevitably means that I will:

- Live alone, which would be torture for me and my literal biggest fear
- Have no kids and no family
- Spend the vast majority of my time outside of work alone, because I don't and won't even have any friends and even if I do they'll be married and be having kids and can't spend time with me 24/7 so i wouldn't feel supported at all.
- I'll be surrounded by no family on my deathbed, and die alone - I'll never get to go on vacations and explore the world because I'll be alone - I'll die a virgin and never even kiss someone - I can't be provided for or have someone to help me if I get sick or injured. - I have to pay and buy things all on my own

Loneliness is the worst thing for me, I don't think it will even be worth living anymore once my family dies or I don't see them often, or when the friends I do have or even ever have get married and don't have time to spend with me

As for God, I've prayed and tried so many times for him to give me discernment but I just don't understand why he would make me this way. Honestly there's just no point to life anymore

First of all, this isn’t about shaming or condemning any of my brothers or sisters in Christ. All are forgiven and new creations in the Lord. But sometimes the consequences past life experiences can have an impact upon our lives after becoming Christians. Can a person who has had multiple sexual experiences or relationships in their past be a faithful and devoted husband or wife and not compare their spouses to past partners or desire past partners?