r/DatingwithHSV

Disclosure Advice

Im am 18F and got diagnosed with HSV2 today. I have had three partners, one back in November(45M) and a married couple (54M and 51F) about ten days ago. About a week ago I felt some itching, but just brushed it off as chafing. Then the blisters popped up.

Im a biology student in my fourth year, and know the signs of HSV. I went to my OBGYN today and she confirmed it. I know that the virus can lie dormant in your body, but considering this outbreak happening only days after a sexual encounter, I think it was the couple who gave it to me.

Im a little bit worried since I also performed oral sex on both of them, but so far have not noticed any other symptoms. Neither of them appeared to have any sores or blisters, so I don't know if they're in remission or if they're asymptomatic.

How should I tell them about my diagnosis? It feels irresponsible not to tell them, but I don't know how to go about this. Should I just send a text or talk to them in person? I've been playing sick for a week now just to avoid explaining my symptoms. Help????

EDIT: NOT INTERESTED IN MEN.

WLW living in Northern Cali looking for other women around my age with the same diagnosis. Would love to find someone I hit it off with in hopes it will lead to a bestie with benefits.

I tried the apps but theres no one I feel like I really connected with. & Honestly, hella uggos. lol

About me:
Independent, easy going, semi-alt, tattooed cutie with a great sense of humor & a fat ass

Hi, I was diagnosed with Genital herpes simplex virus type 1 over 5 years ago. It was contracted during my long-term relationship with my ex-partner, who has Oral herpes simplex virus type 1. I remember the phone call from my doctor all that time ago and thinking my life was over. Then poof, nearly 6 years later, and I haven’t had an outbreak since. My relationship is over, and I literally forgot I even had Genital herpes simplex virus type 1.
Now I’m back in the dating scene, and I feel like the stigma around this virus is so extreme. I have had successful disclosures even one where the person responded, “Hey, I get cold sores too,” which, statistically speaking, is incredibly common.
I can’t believe the shame I felt before having to disclose. It just seems so unfair.
How is everyone going with their HSV 1 diagnosis and are we breaking down the stigma by talking about it with people?

Kissed this girl with a cold sore on the side of her lip.

And I told her not to go down on me but she did for a second and I told her to stop but now I'm afraid I caught HSV😥