r/DemiGirl

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Name/pronoun change help

So I(17yro demigirl) just recently, within the past couple of months, changed my name and pronouns when I realized I am a Demigirl. I have come out to my friends and a teacher at school but not my parents. 

I am also bisexual which my parents know. I officially came out as bi to them this past Christmas but they knew before that I was gay because I have had two girlfriends in the past.

When I realized I was a demigirl I knew right away that I was going to change my pronouns to She/They from She/Her. I also knew I wanted to change my name but it took me a few days to figure out what I wanted to change it to. So far all of my friends have supported me and my teacher. 

My parents however do not support non-cis people but they all said they’ll support me no matter what. My mother is a teacher and works with a nonbinary teacher who uses either she/they or they/them I am not 100% sure. There was one day my mom came home and started to complain about this teacher and how “it” wasn’t a good person and that “it” was a “he-woman”

I was sitting at the table with my parents while they were talking about this and they know damn well that I have a lot of non-cis friends. They were saying some other super rude things about his nonbinary teacher purely because they are nonbinary. 

So I know that my parents only support half of me but I feel trapped in my own body because I can’t tell them. I turn 18 in a couple of months so hopefully if I don’t tell them now I can tell them then and I can have a safe spot for me to stay set up if it’s needed. But I don’t know what to do right now and it’s driving me insane. It’s also not the fact that they use she pronouns for me because it’s one of the pronouns I use, it’s the fact that I can’t tell them and I know if I do they won’t use the name that I feel fits me. 

I’ve always gone by a nickname but they always have called me my legal name. Now it feels like neither of those names fit me and I only want to use the name I chose because I feel like it fits me better. 

If anyone has any advice on what to do it would be greatly appreciated. I posted a similar post in another sub but I feel like it might go better here. 

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u/Past-Education-2567 — 1 day ago

how do I know if i'm demigirl

I don't know if i've phrased it correctly but i can't figure it out

if I had to do describe the way I feel (using a weird analogy)

if men are trees and women are flowers I would be an herb I guess??

or whatever's kinda like a flower but also not a flower

advice would be appreciated

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u/yourlocalturkeydino — 11 days ago