u/Wasteofdevotion

He’s fully obsessed with my “tummy” as he calls it. He asks for pics, asks how it’s feeling—help. I’ve know him for a few years.

It’s like some sort of kink for him. He’s attracted to my stomach specifically. Didn’t talk for a year and the first thing he asked was how’s your tummy. What do I make of this? Is it like hot or weird I dunno.

Went on a date not too long ago but I’m feeling confused. He isn’t the first to have a thing for my stomach. I don’t get the hype. I’m just some random skinny girl.

Would you like it?

I think I have a hard time when in personal romantic leaning relationships to think of them as hot, specifically about the body. At times I make myself search for signs that I find them sexually attractive. I think chemistry plays a big role and it takes me an awfully long time to consider someone as a person I wanna get to know in a more romantic “intimate-like” context—however if I sit and try and think of their physicality it presents itself like a list;

tall, skinny, mild muscle mass etc

I do think I have some internal capacity to say I’m attracted to the soul and being of this person, but hot…? I dunno. I can to some degree think sexual things but it’s vague and not like how everyone else imagines with realistic depth. Occasionally its stronger, but not my focus, It’s all connection built and the reality feels extremely far fetched like I’m not sure if I want their body in mine.

Thoughts from my maybe to be family here 😮‍💨✊

Let’s be real a moment, I understand the whole I’m on fire because of chemistry—but hot? How do you know you really think someone’s hot? What is “they’re hot” or is it like one of those things where it’s a physical attraction thing. Am I just asexual or sum lol

These little flirting cues confuse me in the work place. Working on something together and then resting arms on the table where forearms are touching without moving is like shy flirting right because of the setting? Why else could that even happen? Comfort? Why stay there touching?

I wanna know, has anyone been in similar situations? Where you looked or listened to your crush and realised ‘wait, we’re in different life stages, can this even work?’ And what was the outcome?