The text that set my guilt free
I have been NC with my mother since the end of April. The peace I feel since doing so has been incredible but I also was dealing with the occasional guilt. Well August 4th was my moms birthday and I did not reach out however my dad wished her a happy birthday as he always has (even though they’ve been divorced over 20 years and don’t talk otherwise). Well since he texted happy birthday she saw her opportunity to try and create a flying monkey. My dad shut it down but he did share with me what she said. Initially I was annoyed with him because I had said I don’t want to hear about her, but once I saw the text I was so happy he did. This is what I needed to see. She doesn’t care about me, she doesn’t care that she hurt me and she doesn’t care why I went NC. All she cares about are my children and she will never change.
And if anyone is wondering about her relationship with my son that she is going on and on about…well he hasn’t asked ONCE about her. He is fortunate to have 5 other incredible grandparents who he has gotten to spend time with multiple times this summer. Family is very important to me, and that’s why I will continue to protect mine from the family that hurt me.
Ever since reading that text I think about her and my guilt less than ever and it’s been even more freeing than the initial NC.
Just wanted to share with a community who gets it ❤️