r/FlirtingOrFriendly

Hello, I'm a female (25Y). I recently joined a new workplace, it's been about 4 months. For context, I don't have any major work experience. Before joining here, I had worked for 6 months at a different organization in the similar work profile. As someone who's very new to the industry, I'm trying to be on good terms with all my colleagues (all of them have more experience than me) so that I can learn as much as I can. There is a colleague of mine (Male, 28Y), who joined a couple of months before me. So basically, he gave me a lot of tips and tricks into navigating the work environment here during my training (I didn't take a lot of them though, because they contradicted my way of dealing things). He's been flirting with me lately and initially I didn't take it seriously, I took it as a banter because we had had an argument after which the banter had started (banters were all in good spirit). I'm someone who laughs very easily, which could come off as reciprocation or blushing. So I'm afraid he thinks that I'm flirting back. It's getting kind of uncomfortable for me because he's openly flirting a lot now and I people in my lab have started to notice and I've sensed them teasing him about it as well but I'm not too sure about it. Lately, even my work friend (Senior, but joined together, female) has started to tease me about it even after multiple communication that I'm not comfortable with her teasing me. Also, I'm not sure but I think I also heard others talk about his supposed girlfriend/fiance in another city whom he visits often.

I really need to do something to stop this behavior but very subtly. I don't want to openly say anything since this is the workplace and I don't really know what to do in this situation. I've been casually trying to say things that are not in his favour so he could get a hint but idk if he caught the hint or no. He also asked to hangout during the long weekend, to visit his place and go to the beach but I straight up refused saying I want to stay home and rest. He's also been insisting on picking me up and dropping from and to the work but I'm not comfortable with that.. he's dropped me home twice but I don't want this to continue. Please give suggestions.

Does no body chat at night, I can't sleep let talk

I have a coworker been friend for years lately seems like more. With the weather changing she always wears dresses..every time she come in and chat she sits in chair facing me and always fixes her dress... but I feel like she does this to see if I look and get my reaction.

Okay, some of you may have seen my previous (now deleted post) about my coworker who is double my age (50 M, 25 F).

Now, this guy has been kind of flirtatious with me, and asked me to a one-on-one lunch. And I can’t lie, I am into him. He’s nice, he’s funny, he’s very similar to myself in many ways— but the most likely scenario is that he just enjoys flirting with the (not to be presumptuous but) hot young thing at work.

The thing is, the whole one-on-one lunch thing really gave me vibes that he might genuinely be into me. He was acting nervous when he’s usually a very social, charismatic guy. He invited me when no one else was around. He also misheard me say “so and so recommended that place” and was immediately like “so and so is coming too?” and as we were walking to our cars he went dead silent when my other coworker crossed our paths. He only confirmed that we were meeting as he drove past my car and rolled down the window.

Then, during the actual lunch, he asked me if my sister’s husband was older than her (?) and the conversation veered closer to “what are you like as a person” than “what are you like as a coworker.”

I definitely was not sure about the vibes so the day after, when he made two excuses to talk to me, I was rather cold/not open. However I turned it around and initiated conversation.

After that we’ve had numerous flirty exchanges where he will come into my room and chat, play with his hair, and avoid any actual work related topic like the plague. He called me a “good stepmother” once and then said we were like a divorced couple bc I have to move my room next year.

Also, he had a broken ankle for a while and could not stand for long periods. However, when I went to ask for an extra screw for my broken tables, he hobbled all the way across campus for a screwdriver thing and fixed all my tables for me. And winked at me or whatever.

This week I saw him clearly check me out as I walked over to him and his friend. He popped into a room I was having a meeting in to make a funny quip. He came and lingered in my classroom without even greeting me (I’m a teacher) but he just came in to talk to and inquire what my kids were doing. Then, after I told him how tired I was at the end of the day, he asked “why, did you have a date last night?” And I’ve caught him staring at me/mirroring my posture a few times.

The thing is: he does not act nearly as flirty or personal in open social contexts. For instance, in the lunchroom or at after school events.

I just have to wonder if this thing exists only in convenient passing moments, and he doesn’t care about me otherwise, or if he’s worried about the professional or personal implications of us hanging around each other in front of others.

Idk. Maybe he likes the attention. But I can’t say that I was the one to initiate all of this. And I hardly throw myself at him.

Thoughts? I’m very confused.

Update from today: danced by my classroom this morning bc we were doing a song. made the kids laugh.

Later, I was walking by his room and he said “why don’t you tell ms. ____ what you said, let’s see what she says” and had me come do a funny bit to tell off a kid.

I (24F) am recently single and my coworker (24M) seems to be changing his behaviour accordingly.

My coworker and I have worked together for 2 years, I initially saw him as a brother and didn’t find him attractive. Over the last few years I’ve had 2 failed relationships and he has witnessed the carnage. He’s helped me out many times in numerous ways and we share a unique bond.

Recently, I left my boyfriend of 3 months and without me needing to say a word or act an ounce differently, he knew. Checking up on me and being extra playful with jokes and passing touches to keep me grounded and happy. Over the last week or so I’ve noticed his attentiveness has increased, making frequent eye contact, looking from across the room, making conversation and lots of smiles. Today I came to work with freshly dyed hair, (dark brown, winged eyeliner a bit of a contrast from light brown / dirty blonde) my hair hasn’t looked like this since I first started working with him. He stuttered on his first joke which he never does, we had some banter and I pulled out my perfume from my bag to apply. He asks me to spray it on him. WHAD? I said ok so he opens his jacket and lifts his chin. We kept chatting and making jokes until he left the room, I can’t remember what we said but for some reason he wanted to keep my scent.
P.s I catch him staring at my ass a lot lol

TL;DR
My coworker asked me to spray my perfume on them, they’re being extra attentive and I frequently catch them checking me out.

Am I mistaking his acts as a friend taking care of the other? Or is this man trying to be my next match?

GF helps her neighbor in a wheelchair. He flirts with her. The second time I told her I was uncomfortable with the interaction. AITA or my boundaries valid. . She gives him rides to the store and has loaned him money. He just got a huge back pay from social security. AITA ?