r/GayBrosOver50

Hello all!

I’m in my 40s now and I’ve started thinking a bit about life in my 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. I’m particularly worried about health-related things.

So I’m curious about your experiences. What do you wish you’d known in your 40s? If you could give your 45-year-old self some advice, what would it be?

I’m thinking about things like lifestyle, where you live, recovery, joints, sleep, flexibility, exercise, diet, mental health, staying connected, sex, libido, body image, relationships, money, etc.

Any and all advice would be very much appreciated.

PS: For context, I’m married (to a man), live in the UK and Ireland and have access to excellent healthcare. I’m overweight and inactive and know I need to work on both, but I’m also AuDHD, which doesn’t help. I was diagnosed later in life, so I’m still trying to understand the gravity of it. Executive function, sticking to a routine and impulse control have always been a struggle for me, even with medication.

56yo, average guy.. As I get older I get hornier. I keep getting it up by guys much younger than I am and with a physique I can only dream of. I have had so many broken bones and health issues that I am admired from the neck up. I describe myself as skeleton with a gut. I get mixed messages on how to handle this. I am not looking for daddy issue twinks. Those around my age just never move forward with anything. I am confused on how to find those my age that agree and understand that life happens and not some sort of abnormal "gym bro" that simply got a better end of mysterious stick. What is the best approach to ask "Why are you contacting me?" without sounding like a susicsuius older man?

Hey everyone! 👋
We’re a gay couple living in Lubbock, Texas. We’re both professionals, in our 40s and 50s, and have built a pretty good life here.
We’re not really the party or club type. We’re more into cooking at home, movie nights, good food, traveling, and just hanging out and having good conversations. We do love traveling and exploring new places whenever we get the chance.
We’d love to meet another queer couple or some queer folks who are also looking to make genuine friends and spend some time together. Could be as simple as grabbing dinner, cooking together, watching a movie, going out for coffee, or just hanging out and getting to know each other.
Not looking for anything complicated, just hoping to meet some nice, like-minded people around our age and build some friendships.
Feel free to say hi or send us a message if you’re in the Lubbock area! 🙂