r/GayBrosOver50

Greetings, gents! Hope you're well. I'm a 52yo easygoing cis queer fella interested in good conversations and cultivating a few friendships. I've been keeping up with the group for a few months and commenting here and there, but this is my first post.

Really enjoy wholehearted conversations and getting to know people, and I’m a big fan of common threads, deep dives, and fellas with wit and insight. I’m equally at home in a National Park, an art museum, or at a ballgame. Open to exploring philosophy and spirituality, and find that Whitman, Emerson, and the Transcendentalists offer quite a bit. Love a good poem by Andrea Gibson or Wendell Berry. Music interests run the gamut, but I’m particularly enjoying Noah Reid, Ruthie Foster, and Adeem the Artist these days.

I don’t have a gaming console or a Discord account, though I enjoy board and card games like Scrabble, Chess, Phase 10, and crosswords and other word games. If it matters, I’m a teddy bear type who enjoys the gym and always welcomes a good hike or ramble. I enjoy DIY projects and am learning more about gardening and landscape design. I’m currently in the Mid-Atlantic, but find myself increasingly open to a change of climate and context.

I think good friendships are rooted in what friends can share and explore together more than being just like each other. If you’re interested and a good communicator, feel free to reach out and introduce yourself. Thanks for reading, and cheers!

"Be not dishearten'd -- Affection shall solve the problems of Freedom yet; those who love each other shall become invincible." -Whitman

Hey all, I just need to rant for a moment because I have no one else to talk to about this for the moment, and I feel like I'm going to go insane if I don't.

My husband and I met about a decade ago and married 5+ years ago. Since we're older, both in our 50s, I expected there to be health issues cropping up simply due to time and age.

For the last couple of years, it's been me. I have a chronic condition that was out of control for a bit, but now it's back under control. When it was raging, it led to hospitalizations and surgery.

I apologize for being vague. My husband is on Reddit, and I'm not sure what subs he's in, and I don't want to stress him more.

A couple of years ago, he began to have issues too. Nothing major, just the normal aging pains. He kept having minor issues, though, so his doc ran some bloodwork. It came back off, but not bad. His doc sent him to a specialist, though, just as a precaution.

Today he got one of the test results showing that some of his bloodwork is off, indicating a serious possible problem. I keep reminding myself it's the only test we have results for at this point. There are more to come.

His family has a history with this particular problem and what this test could potentially be pointing at. He's at work currently. I'm home alone and I am trying to keep myself together.

I feel so ... everything. I waited almost my entire life for this man. He is the love of my life. I know I'm catastrophizing. It's just one test, but jesus-fucking-tapdancing-christ can I get a break? I can't do this without him. He's my home. He makes me feel safe and loved, more than I ever have in my fucking life.

I'm so scared of what this could mean. I know it's only one test, but I'm spiraling. Fucking hell.

So, if I wanted to go the dating app route to find a boyfriend or serious relationship, what do you suggest?

Not Grindr or Sniffies or Skruff, those are really just for hook ups, and have their place...

I mean like "my weird interests align with your weird interests, let's be friends" kind of, maybe more than banging?