r/GirlProblems

Because of my weak mindset, all throughout my life I have been heavily dependent on external motivation like podcasts, quotes, youtube videos. During challenging times, I derive my strength from listening to strangers online. And most often than not, it has worked. But lately since I am heading towards my 30th birthday, it feels wrong, stupid and exhausting at times to not have that inner strength and resilience of my own.

I am kind of tired of continuously seeking external validation or confirmation that I can push through. As I am getting older, I find myself asking, how long will I keep doing this? I want to build a stronger mindset for myself and stop living in constant state of doubt waiting for someone else to tell me what I can or cannot do. But I keep falling back into the same pattern.

Is this normal?

I have an important question and I really need some opinions. Last week, my husband said, “Get ready, we’re going out to eat.” I got ready and was waiting, and when I went out to the balcony, he was on his phone. I got upset, and he said, “I’m talking with my mom.”

About 30 minutes later, he came inside and said, “Let’s go,” and I told him I wasn’t going anymore. I said, “How dare you make me wait like that without letting me know you’d be late or even saying, ‘Give me five minutes.’”

Now he’s telling me that I should apologize because I canceled our date night and that I’m not taking accountability. Is he right? Im really getting crazy and i need to know if I’m wrong or I'm being manipulated