Why arent frat guys not calling police when they know a woman is being raped,
Or gang raped? Why dont they do the morally right thing and take action to protect the woman when they know she is nearly unconscious or actually unconscious and being assaulted?
I’m a freshman at a pretty big university but our Greek life isn’t as big. We had ~230 PNMs during fall recruitment this year. Going into it, there was really only one house I wanted. I had genuinely enjoyed every convo I had with them and their philanthropy is super personal for me. I wanted to suicide bid but my Rho Ghama advised me against it so i listed my 2 choices. On bid day (unfortunately) i got a bid from my second house instead. I was super disappointed even though i genuinely liked the girls in the house I received a bid from but I think i was just so attached to my first choice that it was hard imagining myself anywhere else. I talked to a few actives during bid day and they encouraged me to at least give it a chance so i did. I went to our first event and honestly really enjoyed it. I loved spending time with both new and active members and I could really see myself fitting in. The dues are also relatively cheap so that was plus. However I’ve continued having thoughts about dropping and I’m still struggling to figure out if it’s because I don’t see myself in this chapter or because I’m still disappointed over not getting my first choice. I also have the possibility of transferring to an out of state university in the east coast (I’m in the south) but I’m not completely certain. They all have pretty small Greek life but my current chapter doesn’t have a chapter in any of them. I know if I go through initiation I won’t be able to rush again at my new school. On top of that my dues (320) are due this Sunday and I don’t know if I should drop before or pay and see what happens. I feel like I’m going back and forth between my choices so any advice helps.
I passed the interviews of a sorority at my university and got a bid. Later I came to find out a girl I don’t personally like also passed and got a bid from the same sorority. I’ve previously walked near/ along with this girl and her work ethic is awful… she’s also the type of person to trauma dump without knowing you, get mad/super defensive if you call her out of anything, and has been known to start drama.
The sorority at my university is pretty small so it’s a very small group of us that passed the interviews (like in the single digits).
Drama has yet to find me at university and I don’t want to start worrying about it now (im a third year). Should I back out or try to just ignore her since she graduates soon?
Ive recently joined a gender inclusive fraternity, the former president has convinced multiple people to join by being sexual with them including myself. The one person that refused them before bids didn't get a bid and I don't think this is a coincidence. Regardless I know it is against the rules for a member especially an executive member to be active with pnms in that way. They have been causeing a lot of dramma and I am worried for myself and other members and pnms but they graduate this year so I don't know if it is worth reporting.
I graduated from ucla in 2024, and I rushed three separate times. No chapter took me. I usually get told “this chapter isn’t a good fit for you” after the first day. No one gives me feedback about why I was rejected. It’s just frustrating that so many in Greek life encourages everyone to join, but they clearly don’t want most people. Rejection is a part of life, but it sucks to get left out
I understand that fraternities and sororities CAN provide the feeling of “brotherhood” or “sisterhood”, but in my experience and just from witnessing how frat and sorority members act, either towards others or towards their frat members, it seems like those brotherhoods and sisterhoods are extremely fragile. Obviously, I’m saying this with the context of the horrific actions that occurred at that Cornell frat recently, but other than partying, getting drunk and doing drugs, I’ve rarely understood why being a part of these places provides any significant benefit to your college experience. Beyond heinous crimes like what the Cornell 7 did, I’ve already seen fights break out between frat members over insanely petty stuff, I’ve seen frat chairs and org leaders act incredibly rude to random people (one of the frat chairs at a frat at my university, which is pretty small uni in Illinois, was recorded rejecting a girl from coming in because she was a “fat whore”), and I’ve even seen similar things from sorority members, just on a slightly smaller scale.
I already was turned off by frats and sororities because of the brutal hazing I’ve witnessed at some other larger universities, but this Cornell 7 case has kinda solidified my belief that these places are often toxic cesspools.
Maybe I’m wrong and just acting emotionally to one horrific incident, but this is just what I’ve seen in my \~2 years being in college.