r/GrindrStories

I met this guy about two months ago. We had car sex the first time we met, and it was something special. I'm also grading that on a curve, as car sex can be limited, especially in a sedan. It didn't feel limited...

Snuck him into my room the next time, and we completely forgot we were supposed to be quiet. The way he opened up for me, I just knew he was as excited as I was. I mean, we're both sitting there trying not to go over the edge just yet.

I meet him for a nice way-too-early breakfast, and even that was amazing. Then the third time we crack is at his place, when nobody else is home. God damnit, to have that man spread eagle on his own bed... 🤤

The slow, the fast, the gentle, the rough... He can go through those phases right with me. So eager to please, and he looks really good when he's pleased.

I'm just a little scared rn because this is starting to turn into a lil more than just FWB. I know I wanna keep seeing him. At first I knew I didn't want anything serious. But now I'm picturing it, and I can't stop. I think I really like him, and idk what that means

Hey gang — bit of a random one.

I'm trying to get a feel for how often people have gone to a Grindr hookup and realised something was seriously wrong before it was too late.

Fake guy. Different person at the address. Someone waiting to rob you. A group waiting instead of one guy. Something just felt wrong and you got the fuck out of there.

We've had a disturbing run of cases down here in New Zealand recently involving guys being lured through dating apps and then attacked or robbed. Literally in the news every month, if not more.

And apparently Kiwis aren't particularly good at the escaping part.

Which is ironic considering we're named after a flightless bird.

So I'm curious:

Has anyone here realised a Grindr meetup was actually a setup and managed to get out before anything happened?

We see the cases that end horribly, but what about the ones that don't?

What tipped you off?

And how close did you get before you realised?

I know my man has a grindr. I saw a link on his old iPhone for forgotten passwords on chrome. He now has android. I’m not sure if he still uses it and I need help to catch him or find his profile. How do I do that???

Egypt, Saudi, Morocco etc?

Don't say vpn please be specific. How do you connect etc.

My first time using grinder was my first time actually doing something like this.

I started talking to this 20 year Mexican twink. I'm white average body, and I'm packing. He was very slim hairless, had a six pack, overall very attractive by all means.

He messaged me and he was very polite and kind and kept telling me that he thought I was attractive and I told him that he was attractive., like I mentioned this was my first time using the app to hook up. So I responded and spoke with him. The funny thing is he spoke Spanish and I don't speak Spanish. I took Spanish in high school but my Spanish is not good lol. Regardless he convinced me to go to his house, as he lived alone and nearby. I arrived at his house it was probably 11pm when I arrived? I told him I was going to shower and he said he would too. Google translate came in clutch lol. Anyway I made it to his house he was outside waiting for me. It was already dark out. He looked exactly like his pictures so I was content that I didn't get catfishes. He was very attractive. He quietly walked me through his living room, believe he said he has a roommate?

We made it to the back of the house to his room. He walked me to his bed and I took my shoes off and he immediately immediately started holding me and we started kissing, and he we moved to the bed. He took off all his clothes and I took off mine. He was laying down and I was on Top of him. His hands were feeling my whole body. It felt amazing. I did the same back. As we kissed he was talking to me in Spanish, so I didn't understand what he was saying but it was soothing lol. I kissed him from his neck all the way down to his sexy cock. I loved how clean he was and good he smelled. I sucked his cock slowly and hearing him moan was incredibly sexy. He had me turn around and do 69 so he was sucking me at the same time. This was the first time and it was so hot. I told sorry that I'm so new to this. He kept comforting me and telling me it's okay. Honestly very cute of him that he cared. He then turn me around and got on top of me and began sucking me off. He was very excited and was doing it wayyy to fast that it was hurting so I told him slow despacito! And he did. I think he understood primera bez! He was soft and gentle. Anyway this was the most surprising part he lifted my legs up ate my ass for a couple of minutes and he seriously sticks it in my ass no lube. I moaned in pain and he pulled out immediately. He kept saying sorry. I told him we need lube and we didn't have any. So I said it OK but I'm not used to that! I told him we need Lube and slowly! So we continue to suck off each other. I was so nervous I was having a hard time Cumming! We both lay down try to give each other hand jobs but that wasn't going to do it for me. So I ultimately turned him around had him lay down and I was slowly and passionately sucking his. Who knew how gentle you have to be with your teeth lol. He was moaning so sexy he kept telling me if I wanted his leche? Lol I honestly was afraid because I wasn't about to take it in my mouth just yet but I let him cum by me master bating him with my hand and licking the frenum of his dick. I was expecting his cum to taste awful but it tastes just as good as his precum, so I licked some off his dick and it was too much for him so he wiped his stomach with a rag. He turned me around and he finished me off on my stomach as well and lick me clean. When we finished he told me he loved my smile and I told him I love his body. Thankfully he spoke a little bit of English. Using Google Translate well if you wanted to be friends with benefits I told him I would see. It is just so much to take in. Even though we didn't do everything it was still one of the most sexiest things I've ever done. Anyone have a similar story from their first time? I'm glad I found the right first person for a casual hookup.

I think after adding deleting adding this app numerous times, I stand by my thought: it is for whatever reason, full of time wasters. No one ever meets. Communication capacity of most users is like 1/10 with 1 being no skills

While my best man, Alex, was taking a shower yesterday morning, his date quietly left the apartment and stole Alex's watch, cash, and jewelry.

Alex tried contacting him via Grindr and WhatsApp to ask what had happened, but instead received a stream of insults, calling him things like "a drunk sl**, an ugly, fat pig, and a sore loser," among others. Shortly afterward, the guy blocked Alex on every channel. Unfortunately, Alex doesn't have any screenshots of the conversation, the profile, or the phone number.

As you can imagine, Alex was devastated when he called me yesterday. He had met this person several times before, and they were even planning a weekend road trip together. Knowing Alex for over 30 years, I suspect he had already started imagining a future together. He needed someone to listen, so I didn't press him for more details. I've never heard Alex cry before, so this was a very upsetting and unfamiliar situation for me as well.

This happened yesterday in Zurich, Switzerland.

Two questions come to mind:

1. How can we warn the Grindr community about this person to help prevent the same thing from happening to others?
2. Is there any way to obtain this individual's information—perhaps through Grindr—so Alex can pursue legal action?

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Disclaimer: I'm a straight guy with zero experience using Grindr, so I have no idea what information remains accessible after someone blocks you. Also, I didnt dig into the information Alex could potentially have. I'm simply angry that someone took advantage of my friend and want to help him figure out what, if anything, can be done.

So I’m texting this guy, and we eventually traded snaps. He’s hesitant to meet since he’s never been with a guy. After some time he tells me he needs to see nudes of me also calling me on snap. I’m assuming he’s from my area since he knows some locations. Definitely regretting this but he wanted me to send videos of myself just because he wanted to make sure. He sends me a phony address and when I check he’s blocked me on snap. After some searching turns out he was using a fake profile of someone else. His location of his Grindr account is turned on and I moved closer to his neighborhood.

I’m bad at telling stories but can you spoof on Grindr?

I’m afraid he’s gonna do something with my photos and videos

Gente, vi um cara que o achei um gato total. Entretanto, tava lá na bio: "não gosto de afeminado, foi mal". Tipo "???" o que será que é afeminado? Eu sei o que é afeminado, mas tipo, o que será que significa afeminado na percepção do pessoal do grindr.
Será se eu sou afeminado? eu não acho. Eu não uso maquiagem e nem nada considerado feminino. Eu tenho o jeito "afeminado"? sim, tenho! Eu tenho muito trejeito, dá pra notar que sou gay de longe. Entretanto, coisa de homem, eu faço — menos jogar bola kkkk. Entretanto, outras atividades ditas como "masculinas", eu sou muito bem capaz de fazer. Não somente isso, eu já até servi, participei do serviço militar obrigatório. Não foi exército, foi marinha, é bem mais leve em todos os sentidos mas eu tankaria o exército. Eu, no meio daquele monte de macho, eu era o único viado e me dei bem com todo mundo ali. Tinha até outros viados, mas eu era o "mais mais", eu chamava muita atenção por conta da minha personalidade excêntrica e contraditória. Eu ficava engrossando a voz lá do nada(inclusive, minha voz grossa é ótima, desenvolvi lá) e todo mundo rachava o bico porque era muito aleatório e repentino, falando fino e do nada falava grosso? ninguém espera, e é muito engraçado
"ATENÇÃO, PELOTÃO!!! SEGUNDO PELOTÃO!!! SENTIDO!!!"

Mano, quando eu fui xerife, meu pelotão pagou que nem condenado, dd. Juro.

I have been on dozens of hookups (like one every ~3 weeks) over the past 4 years I've used the app. I have had exactly two encounters with people who either advertised themselves as bisexual, or whom I found out were bi/bi-adjacent.

I've also had three hookups go poorly in all this time, and two of them were those "bi" guys I mentioned. For both of them, they just couldn't finish or even stay hard the entire time. And I'm not a bad-looking guy either. I'm young (26), athletic and personable and I keep myself clean. Almost everyone I've been with has "finished", genuinely enjoyed it and many wanted to see me again at some point.

Anyways, so one of these guys claiming to be "bisexual" actually took out his phone while I was doing the deed and started watching FtM porn. I tried to finish him for like 15 minutes and eventually he just had to jerk it to the porn. Yeah it was awkward and dreadful, and left me feeling insecure.

I think a lot of these guys, especially the younger ones in their early/mid 20s, think they're bi-curious when really they've just fetishized an orientation. Then when the real deal shows up they find out they're not as into it as they were into the porn of it.

So now I just 'pass' on anyone with "straight" or "bi" in their bio. Is this wrong of me? I know there are real bisexual men who feel strong enough about both sexes that they can have fun either way. I just don't want to take the chance that I'll get another encounter like that.