Why are some guys unable to take a NO with grace and move on?
Let me start by saying this post is not about bragging. I’m genuinely trying to understand some guys mentality. Any insight is highly appreciated.
I’m 31 years old and a top (in case it helps). Looks wise I would say I’m a solid 7. Middle of the pack at best.
Lately I have been running into a persistent issue. Some guys don’t know how to take a no for an answer and literally don’t have self-esteem or sense of pride or respect for themselves at all. I’m an asshole and an abrasive jerk ngl but there’s two things I have very clear : I just need to be told no once and I’ll never speak to you again and I don’t go out of my way to attack people.
I never initiate or text to these guys. Hell I don’t even remember their names. I’m gonna refer to 3 in particular:
Guy # 1 : we fucked like 3 years ago once. After that he has being consistently hitting me up every couple of months to either hang out or fuck. He’s cute but he’s a parasitic leach (younger mentality, “I deserve to be given everything I want because I’m cute and I have a pink tight hole”), doesn’t drive, doesn’t have a job and at some point he became an escort plus he has a bitchy personality mean twink type. I have made it clear multiple times I’m not interested in him. Well he keeps coming back at it until he gets mad and starts to spill venom about my looks (gray hair because it’s my genetic heritage for bad or good) and the fact I live with my parents (mind you: I solely pay for the roof all my family lives in and I rake home 100K per year and I just got to this country 10 years ago without even knowing the language).
Guy # 2 : we had one night stand couple of years ago. He stroke me as weird so I never went back for seconds. At some point he moved to my neighborhood and it’s constantly hitting me up after I repeatedly told him I’m not interested. Recently he went from “ugly little duck” to “swan”. Typical glow up after start going to the gym. Well out of nowhere he opens up with “You have being 31 for 5 years now” … bitch I don’t lie about my age, I lie about calling you the next day. Why would you come out of nowhere being a sour loser to attack someone that has zero interest on you at all and has made you aware of it?
Guy # 3 : we were supposed to go on a date and he canceled last minute. After that he keeps trying to reach out and I politely say to him every time I’m not interested anymore. I’m very respectful of my own persona, you are only allowed to waste my time once. Well he’s having a hard time understanding the concept of “I don’t wanna be your friend or hang out with you and I’m not interested in second chances”.
Now all this guys are 7-8 years younger than me and objectively cute and I’m sure they can do vastly better than me.
If I’m such a bad catch because I still live with my parents at 31 and I look older like two of them pointed out while mocking my gray hair here’s my question for them:
Why do you keep crawling back and denigrating yourself when you have being clearly told NO repeatedly several times? Where’s your pride and sense of respect for yourself?
Maybe is a cultural thing. Where I come from I was taught when I was a kid that you don’t give your time to people that reject you and that you just move on when things don’t go your way.
Sorry for the long post. I needed to rant somewhere.