Belinda and Jory vs Neil and Cassandra
I kind of hate how these two relationships were treated in the books. First we have Belinda. She tore Jory's heart out after years of stringing him along (he said she should have ended it earlier cause he's not worth her or something? So he has no self respect). But she finally break up with him when she finds someone better (who is shown to be a sleaze and go after people with low self esteem but that's cause she has low self esteem too so it's okay) and it's treated as a sentimental moment instead of the betrayal and abuse it is.
On the other hand we have Neil who broke up with cass after he had repeatedly asked not to talk about jason and hit a breaking point, upon which time everyone treats him like an idiot and cass says she's hurt despite the fact she's been hurting him for years at that point even after talking about bringing up jason.
My point being there's a pretty clear double standard in which the relationships see the guys as perpetually in the wrong for what they feel or their feelings are downplayed, unless they're Jason, and the girls have this weird you don't deserve the ground I walk on vibes.
The only relationship I actually like is Humphrey and Sofi but even then there's this weird mom vibe in which his discomfort is constantly played for laughs.
They're all very strange dynamics, maybe that's what shirt likes or wants in a relationship but always portraying the men as somehow in the wrong feels gross.