r/HereForABro

I'm having a horrible time.

My very long term relationship is in horrible shape because of my insecurities and my procrastination.

I have a stem PhD and I'm unemployed after having felt a deep sense of belonging for that world.

I'll have to leave the city where I lived for 10+ years and found my first true friends because I've lost my job.

I'm the fattest I've ever been and I can't manage to lose weight despite my efforts.

Please, make me feel less alone, or make me smile, I truly need it.

Kisses everyone

My name is Leandro Gabriel Cabañola, but almost everyone calls me Lea.

I am 42 years old, and I am from Argentina.

I am the husband of Elizabeth and the proud father of two wonderful children, Mora and Zacarías. If I had to describe myself in one sentence, I would say that I am a family man. They are the reason I get up every morning and the motivation that keeps me moving forward, even when life becomes difficult.

I work in the monitoring field, a job that has taught me responsibility, attention to detail, and the importance of staying alert. But my life is about much more than work. I enjoy learning, exploring new ideas, and talking about a wide range of topics—from technology and science to history, photography, movies, fragrances, and the deeper meaning behind life's experiences.

My faith is at the center of who I am. I believe in God and strive to walk with Him every day. I am far from perfect. I have my own struggles, doubts, and difficult seasons, just like anyone else. But I have learned that true strength is not about never falling—it's about getting back up, trusting that God is still at work even when I cannot understand everything.

One thing that has shaped me over the years is loneliness. I wouldn't say I'm a man who has friends. I know many people, and many people know me, but true friendship has been rare in my life. I have always tried to be there for others whenever they needed someone, yet when I needed support myself, there was often no one beside me. That experience has been painful, but it has also taught me resilience and has drawn me closer to God.

Even so, I have not allowed that to make me bitter. I still choose to care, to help, and to believe that genuine relationships exist. I value honesty, loyalty, and meaningful conversations far more than popularity or large social circles.

Like any husband and father, I have dreams, worries, and goals. I want to build a better future for my family, improve my health, continue learning, grow as a man, and leave behind a legacy that my children can be proud of.

If I had to say what truly defines me, it wouldn't be my job, my achievements, or even my failures. What defines me is my determination to keep moving forward, even through hardship, trusting that every new day is another opportunity to become a better man than I was yesterday.

This is my story… and I believe the best chapters have yet to be written.

I'm getting married next month, and instead of feeling excited, I've been feeling completely heartbroken.
Before I got engaged, my friendships with my groomsmen were great. We spent a lot of time together, and I was genuinely excited to have them standing beside me on one of the biggest days of my life.
Since asking them to be my groomsmen, though, I've ended up doing almost everything on my own.
Only one groomsman came to my engagement party. Nobody came to any of the wedding rehearsals, and I received little to no communication about it. My bachelor party is next week, and I had to plan and organize the entire thing myself because nobody else stepped in to help.
On top of that, only one person sent money for the bachelor trip, but they later had to back out. I ended up using the money I'd saved for the trip to cover a payment for our honeymoon that was due, so now I'm seriously considering cancelling the bachelor trip altogether.
What makes all of this even harder is that I've also had a falling out with my parents. I'm an only child, and they've told me they won't be coming to my wedding. I was already struggling with that, so going through all of this with my wedding party has been incredibly painful.
I never imagined I'd feel this alone during what should be one of the happiest times of my life. Instead of enjoying the lead-up to my wedding, I've been stressed, disappointed, and honestly just trying to keep everything together.
I mainly wanted to get this off my chest because it's been weighing on me for a long time. Thanks for reading.
If anyone wants to help me keep my bachelor trip alive, I'd be incredibly grateful, but even just reading this means a lot.

Hey all I’m boutta end a 4 year relationship with my partner, we have been through it all and I can’t do it anymore. I’m trying to build myself up but I’m really struggling to do it. If anyone has some words of wisdom or can help talk me through this. I would appreciate it. Someone to fall back on would be great too. Im going to lose all my friends in this breakup too so im going to be really lonely. After it all dies down and ur in SFL id be down to hang and get back out there with my bros. Something real, emotional, and fun.

A few days after an innocent man lost his life the hype will remain for a few days and then people will forget may Ketan Aggarwal rest in peace but today i wrote on this platform not just talking about this one crime against men but how a system is being built to target men and in past few years a lot of cases have happened from Atul Subhash to man in blue in drum . From use of false sexual assault accusations and getting away with that ( Shilpa Shinde) or be it siya goyal and wnat saddens me that Indian judiciary is worse than a spineless scum bag when it comes to men they turn a blind eye .

What is even more scary is the fact that i have seen women support such heinous crimes ( Kashish Kapoor , Priyanka Deshmukh and many more can be seen justifying such crimes )

And indian legal system and judiciary is per say against men they have men have no protection under sexual assaults , no protection in divorce cases or domestic violence (which actually happens with men ) no prenups to safe guards ones assets in divorce , very few to no rights in children custody, adoption laws are stricter for men than women ( Single Man cannot adopt a girl child but Single Women can adopt a child irrespective of gender ) , There is a national commission for women to safeguard them against crimes but there is no national commission for men to protect them from crimes .

Also irrespective of gender criminals can be of any gender and Victims can be of any gender either. It's not about men vs women it's about a system that only sees men as criminals and women as innocent

All of this really made me think that do men actually have anyone they can trust on or talk their hearts out without judgement or have a safe space where they will not be called misogynist just for having standards or having a choice and they are many men who are sexually exploited in early stages in there lives but can't speak about it . This gave me an idea of founding a brotherhood if we stand with each other as united we can build a community which is free from such biases and where justice is served without gender bias

I'm in my early 20s, dropped out of college twice, and now I'm back studying again. I feel like I can actually do it this time. The only problem is, while I'm more stable than ever, more capable than ever...I'm more depressed than ever.

I have some online friends, one being my best friend, and when I'm chatting with them I feel kinda ok. But the countless hours I spend alone and isolated are getting to me. I lost my car to an accident, and my parents spent the insurance money on bills. I live in the middle of nowhere and have no way of actually working for a car since both parents work full time, so I have no ride and live too far out to ask the one friend I have irl here.

I feel stuck and lonely. I've tried making new friends and dating with apps and online, with some luck, but my being on an inconsistent online job and no way of actually meeting up with people. I feel alone. I don't know how to make friends or meet anyone.

I think a good portion of my depression is literally chemical imbalance, I have some mental health stuff, but I'm sure a lot of it is that I spend weeks without leaving the house. I also get severe panic attacks just being in a car, plus being slightly agoraphobic. So I just kinda feel like "well shit...Welp, time to bed rot".

I'm not really sure what i'm looking for out of this post..advice maybe, possibly just support. Idk. I just needed to get it off my chest somehow. It makes me feel better to type it out and see what I'm actually feeling.

Hey everyone, I (M 31) hope this is the right place to post, (not too familair with reddit) .I’ve lived in the US for +7 years. This country has given me opportunities, work, and a life, and even helped me wife and I cover a delicate dental surgery she needed through a gofund me) I have nothing but gratitude. I’ve also seen firsthand how obesity hits hard here, and how medical bills crush people when health falls apart. Cancer runs in my family. That was my wake-up call: I’d rather focus on eating better and moving now than pay for it with surgeries and prescriptions later.

Here’s my personal situation: I’m 60+ lbs overweight. I’ve known it for years. I’ve “started Monday” a hundred times. This time is different because it’s personal. My wife has been training herself for 15 years. Her sister is a physiotherapist. This year they finally decided to start a small club together - just for women at first. In 8 years together I’ve never seen my wife this motivated about something that’s truly hers. It makes her happy. And it works - they’ve already had a few women get real results, not just weight loss but actual habit changes. 4 days ago I asked my guy friends to join me in a group chat like hers to hold each other accountable and change habits. I figured if we did it together as a group, we’d stick to it. Spoiler: they didn’t take it seriously. Jokes, skipping days, zero follow-through. That stung and honestly I don't want to be one of those times that I'm commited and I give up days later. It has happened multiple times.

So I’m doing it anyways. It's just sad they did not take it seriously and it is a Me group with people ignoring messages. I feel powerless because nor my body nor my idea with my friends can seem to help her goal. This country has given me a lot. Feels right to give something back. This isn’t about selling anything, I just want to support her stuff and also change my health for the good. I'd appreciate some help. Also if my case is similar to yours in terms of health you are welcome to join. It’s just a small group for guys who need a push to take the first step. Post your meals, move a bit, check in daily. NO PICTURES of yourself if you dont feel like it. That’s it. My wife and her sister share tips because they know the stuff, but you don’t owe them anything. Use them, use another coach, or just use the group for 30 days and leave. We’re on Day 4, but you can still jump in. Or we restart from today if a few of us want to. I just need 2-3 guys who are tired of going solo.

Hey bros, this is a follow up to something I posted a few days ago on here but with new info.

So, My ex and I were together for two years. In April, I tried to leave because I was exhausted and unhappy, but she repeatedly contacted me until I agreed to hear her out. She convinced me to give us another chance, then broke up with me anyway. Two days later she was calling me nonstop, using No Caller ID, emailing me, and even contacting family members to get my attention. Against the advice of everyone in my life, I gave her another chance.

For the next two months she repeatedly told me she loved me, missed me, wanted a future with me, and that it was "me or no one." I was honest that I had gone on a few dates while we were apart because I didn't know if we'd ever reconcile, but I eventually stopped pursuing anyone else because I wanted to focus on rebuilding things with her.

A few days ago she admitted she's been seeing someone else after 10 minutes before saying the opposite and this entire time saying it was not happening. Then later said hearing about my dating experiences helped her move on. What hurts is spending months being told I was the only person she wanted while she was apparently moving in a different direction the entire time. Also that a relationship of two years I poured everything I had into, she just threw out of the window like trash in a way, choosing to latch onto someone new than work on us and address the things we needed to. She just comfort and easiness over a life with someone who gave her chance after chance to mature and be better. Me, who pushed her to always be better.

The craziest part is that even after all of this, she's still repeatedly tried to contact me. Days of no caller id calls but yesterday none. Reposts on TikTok that speak to longing and yearning for a lover who left. I thought I sent some messages but she told me today on the phone they didn’t go through so I resent. I sent the two that were kinder and sweeter and loving. One was a poem I posted earlier in the sub. The first which i didn’t send until the end of our call was me pointing out all the messed up things she’s done to me.

The reason for this post is now she called me this morning because in a moment of weakness I called for a split second overnight. After a whole week to process everything and reevaluate everything on her end, nothing had changed. It was the same coldness, the same lack of accountability for anything she had done wrong. I tried explaining how I felt calmly, but it just didn’t get through to her. So I spoke more emotionally and pointed out how messed up everything was—how she could do this, how she could say all those things for so long and then act this way, how she could tell me she loved me and then turn around and do this.

But she didn’t want to hear it. She deflected. She kept pointing to the ways I had hurt her, when the reality is that no amount of hurt I caused could compare to this. I never lied to her the way she lied to me. No hurt could amount to this. And no lack of accountability like i saw today. I can’t believe this person I loved can treat me this way, even after days to reconsider. In her story im the villain but i just wanted to make this work, set boundaries, address how to be better. But she didn’t truly want that I guess. As soon as i started saying how I felt and how bad it all was she basically ran off the phone, saying she had work.

The weird part of all this is how she says originally “you don’t have to block me” “at the end of the call saying, I can call you later if you want”. Like what? On top of all that apparently this new person knows about me and is just ok with all this. My mind feels like it’s in a blender.