r/HerpesSupportHub

I currently am having my first outbreak of herpes. I am in so much pain and cannot stop crying. At first I thought I had infected razor burn, then I had a uti followed by what I thought was a yeast infection and then the sores. They’ve shown up all over my labia, outer labia, even underneath and on the clitoris.

The thought of peeing makes me bawl my eyes out. It hurts so badly, like shards of glass. The only way I can pee is if I pee in the bath and even that burns. I can barely walk, or even lay in bed comfortably. I’ve been trying to keep it dry but I don’t understand how because there is soooo much watery discharge that keeps seeping out and when it does it stings the ulcers.

Ive been having lukewarm baths, applying a cold compress and taking ibuprofen to help ease the pain and itching. The first two days of applying an ice pack really helped me to get a little relief and maybe a couple of hours of sleep and now nothing will help. I’ve been lying in bed trying to sleep for hours and the pain won’t allow me to get any rest. I can’t believe this is my reality right now and that it will stick with me forever.

I have been with my boyfriend for one year and have never had an outbreak before after intimacy with him. And before that my last sexual partner was a year previous. I’m so confused about how this could have happened. I never thought this would be something I would experience. I feel so hopeless right now and all I want is to have a good nights sleep. I’m worried about how this will affect my sex life with my boyfriend moving forward too. He was really understanding when I spoke to him about it on the phone and said he would get tested again but from what I understand it’s not common for it to show up in a blood test.

If anyone could please give me any tips on how you were able to get quick relief and a wink of sleep that would be awesome.

I’ve always been a super depressed girl. I turned 25 yesterday and recently got diagnosed with ghsv1. I got it from someone who says they’ve never had a cold sore in their life and didn’t have one present at the time but refused to get tested and told me mine was a false positive. I’ve had it for 4 months and have had 3 outbreaks. I feel like my life is over. I’ve never been a super sexual person but I feel like my freedom in that aspect of my life is gone. It’s hard to believe someone will love me with this and I’m too scared to disclose because I live in a small town where everything gets around fast and hsv is not very common here. I’m NOT SAYING I DONT DISCLOSE. IM JUST SAYING I HAVE RESTRAINED FROM ANY EMOTIONAL OR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS. I’m trying to accept just being alone for the rest of my life because I’m too afraid to tell anyone and would feel a major guilt if I passed it. Everything I read says ghsv1 doesn’t have many outbreaks after the initial one but that’s just not the case for me. I got an outbreak when I shaved. I got my initial outbreak. I got an outbreak when I used a dildo and I got an outbreak when I used my vibrator. It seems like anything touching that area causes one. My life is OVER. I have put a downpayment down for an SOT. But seriously will there be a cure in the close future? My mental health is declining rapidly. I had been celebate for almost 2 years before this and just regret ever having sex again. And the first time I did I contracted oral herpes on my genitals. I know the comments are coming that it’s really not that big of a deal and I applaud everyone who has accepted it and gotten through it but for me??? I can’t deal with this. It’s always been my biggest fear and now it’s true. Since contracting this virus though it has been eye opening. I have learned it’s mostly stigma. Although I have had a lot of outbreaks in this short time , they are more annoying than life changing and aren’t super big outbreaks. Idk man …. I just don’t want to be here for this. I fully believe there is a cure and I refuse to go to therapy or take medication and give the government exactly what they want. I feel like a cure hasn’t came out because they don’t want it cured and they want people to still spend money on these silly treatments. Do they not understand not everyone takes antivirals but EVERYONE would buy the cure no matter how expensive.. I would spend my last on it.

Hi guys, need your help . I am stressed out as i got to know that i have hsv-1 as i recently got cold sores and its incurable. So i have few questions, if anybody know and can help me . I would appreciate alot.

1. i have heard that while we have cold sores , we cant be intimate with our partner and i understand that. But once i am completely healed , like no visible cold sore . Can i still kiss my husband like usual 😔 . Feels like my love life is gona change due to this as i dont wana transfer anything to him especially genitals hsv.

2. even if i dont have cold sore , we cant anymore engage in oral sex as their is still chance ,he can get it from my mouth?

So it means , if we eliminate oral sex , and use condom will it be fine. Can ut prevent him from getting genital hsv.

3. what precautions can we take and still enjoy our love life as usual . My husband is very supportive and he doesn't care and just loves me . But i dont him to suffer . Please help me . How can i prevent any genital hsv as i just have hsv-1 from cold sores but i dont wana give him anything on his genitals or anything very serious.

I hope everything gets fine soon 🙏

I’m struggling with telling people I have this disease that I’m dating I find it embarrassing how do you let someone you like when you are dating or talking to?

I’m curious to know what people living with this tell people who don’t have it?