r/IVFAfterSuccess

A week ago today, I lost my baby boy at 20 weeks due to incompetence cervix and bulging membrane ( baby was perfect and there were no issues).We decided on a D&E due to not wanting to go through the trauma of birthing/labor and seeing our dead baby.

This was my second IVF transfer and pregnancy - our daughter who is now 14 months was our first IVF transfer. D&E recovery is going well physically, minimal pain and I barely bleed with panty liners.

My two week follow up appointment is next week, so I’m hoping to hear good news about the state of my uterus and getting cleared.

But now I’m having thoughts about when I can get pregnant again. My body is telling me soon, but I know that I need and should wait to let it heal and replenish before going for another transfer. I was thinking about if everything is going well with my body and my period stabilizes with birth control that we could try for our third transfer December of next year (so 14 months after d&e)

Has anyone else gone through a similar situation and was successful with a FET after a second trimester loss?

I am in a same sex relationship and we had a baby boy in March and although I do love him - I really wasn’t ready. My mother passed away just before I decided to do IVF and I spent her inheritance money for IVF. I wasn’t thinking about what I was doing. I felt like everything I done was rushed and now he is here I have realized I am not ready for motherhood and I am not ready to be a mother.

I should be grateful that it worked on our first try but I’m just filled with dread and regret that I didn’t listen to others when they asked me if I was sure I was making the right decision. I should’ve thought carefully about if this is what I really wanted.

I feel sick to my stomach every day and I just want to die because I can’t look after him, I can’t even look after myself.
I’m in no position financially and I have only been able to keep part time jobs my whole life.

I think about killing myself every day because I can’t live with the guilt and shame. I should be happy I’ve got a lovely little boy but I’m not. He doesn’t deserve this. He deserves a mother who wants him.

Almost 39, first transfer 4AA ended in pregnancy but early loss - I have one 5AB left in the freezer, am looking for positive stories from people’s second transfers! I only have one left so really willing this one on!!! Thanks in advance

I’m 34, my husband is 35, and we have unexplained infertility. My hormone tests and HSG were normal (AMH ~6), and his semen analysis was normal. We’ve had six unsuccessful IUIs and a previous spontaneous pregnancy that ended in miscarriage.
Our two ICSI cycles:
Cycle 1: 18 retrieved → 13 mature → 7 fertilized → 5 blasts → 1 euploid
Cycle 2: 21 retrieved → 18 mature → 6 reported fertilized → 2 blasts, PGT-A pending: D6 4AB from 3PN and D7 4AA from 2PN.
Both used Gonal-F 150 IU and a Lupron trigger. Menopur was 75→150 IU in cycle 1 versus 150 IU throughout cycle 2. Birth control pretreatment was 26 versus 17 days, with a two-day break before stimulation both times.
Before cycle 3, I’m asking about splitting the eggs between conventional IVF and ICSI and reviewing whether the unfertilized eggs degenerated after ICSI or remained intact.
Has anyone with similar results improved after:
Switching to conventional IVF or split IVF/ICSI?
Sperm DNA fragmentation testing, ZyMot, or AOA?
Changes to stimulation, trigger, or birth control pretreatment?
Also, has anyone around my age had a D7 4AA blast from 2PN tested? I’d appreciate hearing your PGT-A results, knowing individual outcomes vary.
What else would you ask your team? Thank you!

Hello all,

I started testing with home pregnancy tests on day 6 post transfer, today is day 8 post transfer. It was a 5-day blastocyst rated 4BB, made from an egg frozen 4 years ago.

The home pregnancy test today was negative. The beta test is tomorrow. Is there still any hope?