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What happens to an Indian family's identity after 6 generations abroad?
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What happens to an Indian family's identity after 6 generations abroad?

Most Indian families living overseas are only one or two generations into their journey. But 180 years ago, thousands of Indians moved to Trinidad, giving us a rare look at what actually happens to a family's culture over six generations.

The history reveals that while everyday languages faded over time, the identity didn't disappear; it evolved. In 1936, an Indian family started serving curried channa on fried bara, creating "doubles," which became Trinidad’s national breakfast. Folk songs blended with local rhythms to form Chutney music, and Diwali grew into a national holiday.

However, the story also carries a warning. Today, many sixth-generation descendants have to search through 180-year-old ship manifests in national archives just to learn the name of their ancestral village, simply because family records were never written down.

Culture naturally adapts to new places, but family history, records, and core stories must be intentionally passed down today if you want the next generation to hold onto their roots.

Read the full article here: https://thecapitalbybelong.substack.com/p/what-180-years-in-trinidad-tell-every?r=8fe3vx&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

What is one piece of family history or tradition you are making sure gets passed down?

u/getbelong — 9 days ago
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Indian Women Living Abroad

Hello!

I'm specifically hoping to hear from Indian women who are in a similar position because I feel there are some cultural and practical considerations that may be unique to our experiences.

I'm in my mid-30s, single, originally from India, and have been living abroad for several years. I've built a life that I genuinely enjoy. I have a fulfilling career, meaningful friendships, and love the sense of freedom I have here. One of my biggest passions is Swing dancing, while the dance community is growing in India, it is still relatively niche, and I know that moving back would likely mean giving up a significant part of that passion and lifestyle.

Beyond that, I've come to value the freedom, good work life balannce, independence, safety, cleaner environment, and work-life balance that I have here.

At the same time, my parents are getting older and are on their own (with a few relatives in the same city). My mother's health has become more and more complicated over the last few years and she is now facing a serious health issue which could however potentially resolve by the end of this year (fingers crossed). I am carrying a huge amount of guilt about living so far away. It feels like I'm choosing my own happiness, freedom, and quality of life over being physically present for my parents when they may need me most. I am genuinely hoping that I could get them to live with me here for 4-5 months a year and if they like being here than look into permenantly moving them with me.

What I'm struggling with is:

  • Did anyone decide to move back? If so, how did it work out? do you find your freedom, sense of safety etc. impacted?
  • Did anyone choose to stay abroad? Do you have regrets?
  • Were you able to move your parents where you are? how did that go?

I'd especially love to hear from Indian women who have actually navigated this situation, particularly if your parents had health issues while you were living overseas.

Thank you for reading. ❤️

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u/ChildhoodGullible898 — 13 days ago
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Feeling tensed about life in India

I am 27F married to a great man ( 34) and living quiet a okay life in Bangalore Ours was a love marriage and never have i ever doubted the decision getting married to him...as a husband he is the best. Although, for the past few months I have been constantly feeling a inner sadness regarding my aspirations of settling abroad.I always dreamt of living somewhere in Europe or in Dubai as I believe we can earn more and have a much better quality of life outside.

My husband on the other hand would love to stay here in India so that we are closer to family and can travel back to our hometown under less cost and less time and during any emergencies or times when we feel like visiting our home town..

I am also a person who is very close to my family and would move mountains if anything happens to them or to do anything for them. But , my worries are regarding our future.. can we survive here in India with the lifestyle that we are continuing right now once we have kids ?

I doubt our income... husband earns 1.2 lakhs and me around 60k every month.

Should I drop my plans to move abroad and try and settle here. Any insights from people who are already abroad please let me know what your thoughts are in this case.

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u/Klutzy_Plenty_3277 — 13 days ago