r/InheritanceDrama

I need some opinions on if I am justified in being upset about the inequality I am witnessing during the planning and write up for a will and inheritance between two blood sisters and one stepsister. We are
all three grown adults living on our own. My father went into this 2nd marriage with I would say, at least 2/3 of the wealth. My step mother had 1/3 of the wealth along with 25 acres of land, which is part of 75 acres shared with her two other siblings. When my dad’s parents passed away he gave my step sister $10,000, as well as give my sister and I $10,000 each. Personally I do not feel like my step sister had any right to have any of that inheritance as she never knew either one of them. When her grandparents passed my sister and I did not get a penny from that inheritance. Before my stepmother passed she added my sister and I to inherit 1/3 each of the 25 acres along with her own daughter. I thought that was very kind of her to include us, but then her family including my own freaking dad talked her out of it. I believe my step sister will eventually inherit the other 50 acres from her aunt and uncle as they never had children to pass it along to. I think that is extremely greedy. So now after my step mother passed away, my step sister took her mother’s vehicle, probably her engagement and wedding rings set (worth a whole hell of a lot), $10,000 from MY families inheritance, will get 25 acres and future 50 acres of land, and then 1/3 of everything else. Whatever’s left my sister and I will have to split. Oh and the documents were never changed to remove my sister and I off the land deed so now we are being asked by the family to sign our rights away to the land. Nice right?

Im a caregiver, in turn, I have never seen so many try to butter up my relative or lash out to her about her belongings and assets.

I feel like I’m the only compassionate person that actually gives a shit about her living self. It pains me how her final years on this planet is met with family members size up her house, wanting to know her financials, arguing with my relative about the choices of whom she chose for the will and what my family thinks they deserve.

No one seems to think that when you get heir-ed these items, to me, that is the most honorable, yet worst gift you could ever receive, which means the person you love is no longer alive.

It is infuriating to watch, and I can’t imagine how my relative must feel. Another thing is that people tend to feel a head ache when their family leaves then with “useless junk”. I’m sorry but when does one start living lives for themselves? My relative scooped cow shit, and worked hard so her children could have a strong foundation to be independent; my relative deserves to live for herself, and not for what one day her children would fight over.

It makes me so incredibly sad that people like this exists.

First of all, I want to clarify that if I had to do it all over again, I would care for my mother until her final breath, which is what I have done for the last four years. I have a sister and a brother who live out of state my mom had Alzheimer's disease, and I gave up my life to take care of her. She passed away in January and in her will it states that we all get 1/3 of the inheritance. I guess I'm feeling really angry because of everything I went through and I sacrificed everything and I don't want it to sound like a greedy daughter because I
Am not at all, but it's very difficult for me when my siblings are getting a third of everything, and no one is even saying anything about giving me a little more than what they are receiving. If I hadn't been here she would have had to gone into a home which would have used up her investments and we would have had to sell her home. My brother and sister lived their lives working and going on vacations while I stayed with my mom. My sister did not have the patience to stay with my mom for long periods of time so I felt it better I be the one so I never went anywhere. I understand it's all about what it is in my mom's personal estate plan. I do not expect anything to change. I just need some validation on how I am feeling. Am I wrong ?

Here’s my situation. My Mother passed 3 years ago. She lived a long, healthy, productive life. She did not die suddenly. My sister is executer of my Mom’s will. My sister told me the house to be sold & proceeds to be divided amongst all the siblings. I personally have not seen the will. So here we are, 3 years later, house isn’t sold, it’s empty. My sister has not even contacted a real estate agent to get an estimate what it is worth. Now due to circumstances beyond my control, my current home is being sold - proceeds split between my soon to be ex & myself. I need more money than this to purchase a home. I’ve asked my sister multiple times, please sell the house. I need the money & she is aware of the circumstances leading to this. It’s one excuse after another. I’m to the point where I am tempted to get a lawyer. Isn’t there a limit to how long she can hold on to the assets?

Hello, my mother passed away in 2023 and my brother wanted to keep the house in our names rather than selling.
I live in Colorado but the house is in Ohio. I was fine with arrangement at first considering it needed some repairs and I assumed we would rent or sell later. Shortly after the estate was finalized my brother allowed his 30 yr old daughter to move in during a separation from her husband rent free. Now , 2026 she still lives there for free, divorced and my brother will no longer respond to me regarding my half of ownership. I’ve asked that we charge a reasonable rent to cover expenses and he refuses. I’ve asked my brother numerous times to buy me out. He becomes so upset that unfortunately, we’re currently not on speaking terms. I don’t want to sue my brother. What can I do?
Location: Colorado
House Location: Ohio
Brother Location: Ohio

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I'm looking for objective opinions on a family property dispute.

There are two houses:

House A (where I live): I live there with my wife and child. The house title is under my father's name. The housing loan is entirely under my name, and I pay all the installments. My father refinanced the house using my name . Hence the loan in my name .

House B (where my parents and siblings live): The house title is under my name. The housing loan is also under my name. My brothers are supposed to pay the monthly installments, but because the loan is legally mine, if they pay late I have to cover the payment first to avoid damaging my credit score. They reimburse me later, but I carry all the legal and financial risk.

When both houses were purchased, I was the only one eligible for the loans, so everything was put under my name.

My issue is that because both loans were under my name, I lost the opportunity to buy another property 5+ years ago when prices were much lower. Today, property prices have nearly doubled.

When I raised this with my parents, they kept saying: "You're the eldest, so you should take care of the family." "You're capable. You have a good job."

I replied that my capability isn't the issue. I accepted all the financial liability and risk, and because of that I lost a major investment opportunity.

I then asked for House B to remain legally under my name (it already is), while they continue living there. They refused because they said they live there.

I also pointed out that House A, which I pay for, is under my father's name and they intend to divide it equally among all four siblings in the future. That feels unfair to me.

When I said I would seek legal advice to protect my interests, my parents replied, "If you do this, our relationship is over."

Am I being unreasonable for wanting to protect my legal and financial interests after carrying the liability for both houses for years? Or am I looking at this the wrong way?

Recently, I told her that I wanted the gold coins gifted to my husband and me by my grandparents because one of my bangles had broken and I wanted to exchange the gold and make new jewellery. My sister is also getting married, so I thought it was the right time.
The moment I mentioned it, her expression changed.
I also told her I wanted to exchange a pair of gold earrings that had been gifted to me by her side of the family because I know I’ll never wear them. She immediately said I’d get very little value for them. I explained that I wasn’t selling them—I was exchanging old gold for new jewellery.
My husband then said, “But they have sentimental value.”
I replied, “They were gifted to me, so shouldn’t I be the one to decide what I do with them?”
Then my MIL said something that completely caught me off guard. She said she had always thought the jewellery should be kept so that one day it could be used if we built a family house.
I asked her, “How did you come to that conclusion? Nobody ever asked me.”
To me, advice is one thing. Deciding the purpose of jewellery that was gifted to me is another.
The conversation then turned to the gold coins. She insisted they had been given to her by my father. I corrected her and explained that they were gifted by my grandparents to my husband and me during our wedding, and were only handed to her for safekeeping during the rituals.
At the same time, my husband and I got into an argument. He walked into his parents’ room saying he’d tell his mother to give me the jewellery. I got angry because I don’t believe marital arguments should be taken to parents. The argument escalated, I yelled, and he eventually slammed the door in my face.
When I confronted him, my MIL stepped in and said, “He’s like that when he’s angry.”
I told her I wasn’t asking her to defend him. Just because she accepts that behaviour doesn’t mean I have to.
She then told me that she had also left her parents’ home after marriage and adjusted. I told her that I respect her choices, but I don’t believe I have to compromise on behaviour that I feel is disrespectful.
She also said she thought all my jewellery was with my father because she didn’t know about our locker. My husband and father-in-law both confirmed that they had already told her about it and that my husband is the co-owner of our locker.
Eventually she became very emotional and started crying. By that point I was completely drained and simply said, “You know what, keep the jewellery. I don’t want it anymore.”
I’ll be honest—I wasn’t calm during this conversation. I did yell at my husband, and I regret that. But I genuinely felt hurt that decisions about jewellery gifted to me, and gold coins gifted to both my husband and me, had apparently already been made without anyone asking me.
Am I wrong for believing that gifts given to me should remain my decision, even after marriage? Or is this simply a difference in expectations between generations?

Ok so my mom passed away and the day after I went to plan my mom's funeral. My sister has always bullied me from the time she could bite. She kept telling me to shut up. I finally had enough and told her no and for her to shut up and listen. The next day she came over and took over. Before my mom passed she told me that she didn't want my sis to be a part of anything concerning her death, or her estate. She wanted everything to go to my oldest son who had been there since he was 18. I was there as a caretaker but didn't live there. My mom hadn't signed her new will yet. She and her son stole things that didn't belong to my parents. My stepdad died in 2018. She did tell her hospice care team as well as several family members what she wanted but in Oklahoma there has to be video will or a written will. My oldest son and my youngest son are both special needs and my parents had Adult Guardianship over my oldest son. Both of my special needs sons and I were living with my mom at the time of her death. She wanted everything to go to my oldest son with the exception of her car she wanted that to go to me so I could take both my sons to Drs appointments or whatever. The second day she came in with a police officer and she took videos of both my son's rooms as well as mine saying she had to. She tried to block me in my room so I got loud enough that the police officer came. She has stalked us. Oh before my mom passed my sister would come over and bully my mom and oldest son all the time but my oldest son wouldn't let her. She caused my mom to have multiple hospital stays because of her bullying. What do I do.

I live in Pennsylvania

all of us sibs have inherited property from our parents. i'm the youngest, single, still studying, and freakin' ambitious. so the concern is, i still can't figure out what i want to do with my share of the land for now (but that doesn't mean i'm not interested in keeping it).

i know my sibs well, and sadly, even though people say blood is thicker than water, i can't fully trust all of them cus of the toxic patterns and family dynamics i've seen and experienced growing up.

all of a sudden, one of my sibs became interested in buying my land share. he said he wanted to purchase it cus he has future investment plans and wants to secure more properties for his kids. he also told me i could use the money to pay for my tuition since i'll be enrolling in grad school soon (again, cause i'm ambitious). but... i declined the offer.

his proposed price was such a lowball offer that the money probably wouldn't even last me for one semester. and when i really thought about it, my land would become his forever. his reasoning was that i shouldn't ask for a higher price cus his salary couldn't afford it. he even said that if he had to take out a loan just to meet the price i wanted, there would barely be any cash left in his bank account.

so i asked him, what's the rush in buying it?

i was genuinely confused, and he got pissed, cus, acc. to him, i didn't understand that he was only trying to help me pay for my tuition. but i honestly couldn't understand that reasoning at all cus i've spent my entire life relying on scholarships. it'll be the same for graduate school. i'm not enrolling unless i earn a scholarship. i've always taken my time cus i'm still young. i've never pressured myself, and neither have my parents.

another thing that bothered me was why he was naming a price based only on his own mental estimate instead of getting the property professionally appraised. even my dad was shocked at how low his offer was cus that area has become very valuable over the years. i had to be realistic. once i sold my share, it would belong to him forever, and i wasn't about to give up an inheritance for temporary financial relief.

my sib got furious and started saying hurtful things to me, it felt like gaslighting, manipulation, and guilt-tripping. he also pulled the "i'm older than you" card but i refused to change my mind.

after everything happened, my dad and i had a private conversation. he actually commended me for standing my ground. he told me i did the right thing and that i handled the situation wisely for someone my age. he said my bro has every right to think about his kids' future, but i also have every right to think about my own, esp. when it comes to decisions like this. my dad told me he'll always have my back. i'm also his favorite child, so that probably helped.

i did feel a little guilty for talking back to my bro. but at the same time, it was incredibly liberating! for the first time, i felt like i was finally able to defend myself without allowing anyone to dictate or manipulate my decisions.

my bro even threatened to tell all of our other sibs how "disrespectful" i had been, and he said he'd make sure i'd have no one left on my side. they even have a long-standing family group chat that i've never been included in. but honestly? it didn't bother me at all. i'm the youngest, and i know i'm still the golden child in this family.

for context, there's a huge age gap between me and my sibs. i'm also proud that i'm the only one among us who didn't marry young. after everything our family went through financially, i made a promise to myself that i would never settle for merely surviving. i refuse to believe this is as far as i can go in life. i've taken risks and pursued opportunities that my siblings never did. it's been lonely at times. i've been excluded, mocked, and laughed at. and the most painful part? this is the only inheritance i have left because they had already taken everything else from me before. they took advantage of how young i was back then.

but this time, that will never happen again.

never!

For context, I moved out of home when I was 21 to my maternal grandparents home to get away from a toxic environment with my (now ex) stepfather (that's a whole story in itself i resent my mother for bringing me up in that horrible environment) and moved in with my maternal grandparents.

I had a very peaceful environment for the first time (I honestly should've lived with them when I started high school), then when my grandfather died from cancer, I could tell my grandmother was developing memory problems and diagnosed with dementia 2023.

Going back a bit further my father was also diagnosed with Glioblastoma Brain Cancer in December 2022, I put plans on hold to see the disease through but during this time my mother moved in my grandmothers house to 'help' me with both my grandmother and father (which involved some silent treatments as we often came into conflict with each other and I would've being fine without her, and staying at her apartment instead after she left her alcoholic racist piece of sht partner she had two kids with, my half-brothers.

Fast forward and my Dad passed away August 10th last year, and I recently told my mother about receiving inheritance from him (maybe I should've left that until I moved out but I have booked a holiday for next year god knows I deserve it), now Dad and I also had a very rocky relationship (he was married four times, and gave me a lot of emotional and psychological abuse with that) but he was divorced at his time of passing and worked his arse off all his life only to develop brain cancer a few years before he retired, and he still left me in his will (along with two other half siblings from his fourth marriage I want little to do with) .

He was quite well off, and Mum knows it, she came to me yesterday with a sob story about how the renters for her apartment didn’t pay two weeks in rent, so she is in arrears and she wanted $1,500 from me to cover it.

I immediately got defensive, and asked her honestly “Is this going to be one request of many?” she got flustered and teary and told me her whole story about how hard she worked etc, I basically replied her finances (and her life decisions) are not my problem to solve and that “don’t guilt trip me” she then for some reason put it right back onto me that “I was the one guilting her”(???? Probably because she knows I will be angry with her demanding money which were from the life savings of her ex-husband she had affairs with two other men while still married to him), she said ‘don’t worry about it then’ and stormed off.

In the morning she told me directly “I won’t ask you regarding finances anymore” however a few hours later began huffing and puffing, walking louder than usual, and closing drawers and windows more angrily, cursing under her breath.

She then began not talking to me, not asking if I would like a sandwich if I wanted one for lunch, not responding to me when I told her ‘I’m going for a walk’ in the afternoon, and refusing to tell me that leftovers are for tea in the fridge, she has begun her classic silent treatment, and she wonders why her and I don't have a close relationship anymore if since separating from her partner, she now puts this abuse onto me when she can't solve or be confronted with her problems.

I shut my door last night to give her a message that I will not tolerate this bullshit silent treatment any more and that I am sick of it, if she wants to do this to me then I will give it right back to her.

A few days later Mum still continuing the silent treatment (She started on the 27th). What gives her the f*cking right to demand my fathers money? A man she cheated on twice during their marriage and had two affairs while still married to him, it's disgusting of her entitlement.

I am going to a lawyer tomorrow to cut her out of any share of Dads money and this silent treatment is what triggered me to get going with it, if I were to drop dead now estate law would entitle her to inherit everything as I have no children, everything I have from Dad is going to my paternal cousins.

Location: Texas, USA

My gf is an adult college student with a long, complex history of family shenanigans that have resulted in an abnormal upbringing with her grandparents and other family members, despite her parents generally still being around. She was a kid when her grandparents died, and part of their will was a trust to help with college and her early career.

The big problem with this setup is that her uncle (who is generally unresponsive and lives in a completely different state) is financially responsible for the trust, and her aunt (closeby, but loves to guilt trip my gf and her dad with this and she just kinda sucks from an outside perspective, but that's beside the point) is responsible for her insurance and other things. She's had trouble reaching her uncle when it comes to paying for tuition, getting an apartment, and other important financial issues, and she's trying to involve her aunt in as little as humanly possible for her own sanity and the sake of their relationship.

After a tough day of talking with her about all this, she said she doesn't think there's anything to be done legally about getting control of this trust because it was written into her grandparents' will when she was a child, but I couldn't help myself from asking Reddit. Is there anything that she or her parents can do to gain legal control over this trust?

This is one of my first Reddit posts. I'm not usually one to come to the internet for advice, but I am desperate at this point.

My father passed away in Virginia without a will. He was married at the time of his death, and my brother and I are his only children. We are not the children of his wife.

After he died, my stepmother told us she went to the probate court and was told his estate qualified as a small estate, so it did not have to go through formal probate. Which I only found out about after going to the courthouse and receiving the documents.

I know my father had at least a bank account and money from the sale of his car. I have never received an accounting of what assets existed, how much money there was, or how those assets were distributed (They have not been)

Communication with my stepmother has essentially stopped. She has not provided any documentation or explanation about what happened to my father’s estate. I’m considering sending her a formal demand letter asking for information before deciding whether I need to take legal action.

I'm only 23 my mom passed 6 years ago and I truly just feel lost and concerned that taking legal action will be fiancal difficult. I can't afford a lawyer.

This will be vague but I can answer questions if necessary by DM.

Wanna start by saying everyone in the post is in an incredibly privileged position and we know it and are very grateful for it. We also know how quickly things can fall apart when major medical thing crop up, and we have good evidence to believe that that may become the case for us.

Ok to the situation: H and Z are my parents. They are wonderful and have always been incredibly supportive. They are also thankfully currently pretty healthy. Both in their early to mid 70s. They were smart with their money and now own a good house in a good area debt free, valued at around $700k. My sister, let’s call her SOS, has two kids, Niece NI and nephew NE who I love dearly. SOS and her partner BT own their own home about 3 minutes down the street from H&Z, spend a lot of time at H & Z’s Lived there for a 6 months rent free in the in law apartment with their 2 young and complicated kids when SOS was going through her divorce. their house is valued at about $621k but I don’t know the debt situation and they are aggressively redoing the whole whole thing while living there.

In fairness, I also lived in that in-law apartment for about a year when I was healing from a major surgery, AND I paid rent and got out as soon as I could. I ended up buying a condo in a great area and the value should only go up. The condo is about half an hour away from H&Z (and SOS, BT, NE and NI) we all spend a lot of time together during this time.

Then, I meet my eventual husband M and move in with him about 45 minutes from H&Z but we might as well be on the moon for all the casual dinners we get invited to. We tell them we’re happy to pop over on a weeknight, just let us know! Quickly the people all living at the $700k house have their own routines with each other, and without me or my new partner. (Stick with me).

As I mentioned, SOS is going through a challenging divorce, so M and I agree that ill move in to his place rent free so SOS can move into my condo the weekends she doesn’t have the kids and get a little space from our parents. She gives the impression that payment isn’t an option so fine. They’re family. Ill only lose a few months of potential rent but ill have done a good thing. M and I decide to do the good thing.

And now, to the present: K has come to me telling me that she and H want to leave their house to only one of us, so one of us doesn’t have to buy the other out when my parents pass. This was SOS’s idea, K is just letting me know and now does not want to be involved.

AM I CRAZY OR IS MY SISTER IS JUST ASKING ME TO GIVE UP at least $350k????? And possibly flipping her own house to end up with some kind of windfall??? And then kind of waiting with bated breath for my parents to kick it!?

If you see another way to read it, please let me know. I want to try to be generous in my interpretation but there’s a little voice that’s saying they’re flipping their current house and hoping that that timing will coincide with when my parents will be leaving their house, which to me should NOT BE ANY TIME SOON, BTW. I think they want to age in place for as long as possible, and I hate that we’re even talking about this.

TL;DR: my sister asked our parents to leave their home only to her in their will without any sort of buyout for me, and house is currently worth $700k+. My sister and her partner also already own a home right in the same area that is valued around $621k. Am I missing something that make this not completely f me over????
Thank you!

AITA. My father loaned me $20,000 three years ago to help me relocate for a job. When I offered to pay it back he said no, just deduct it from the inheritance he leaves. Now, this means since the inheritance is split 2 ways between me and my brother, I would pay my brother $10,000 of the $20,000 to keep the inheritance split 50/50. But my brother wants interest and unearned investment income on it. I don’t think it’s fair. Plus he is demanding over $200 K of assets transfer directly to him without payment for my half. AITA?

My sister died, never updated her will and now her estate is going to a physically, financially, and emotionally abusive ex boyfriend. She has told me and her current boyfriend that she wants her estate to go to my children and even had appointments scheduled before she went to the hospital. Is there anything I can do? She was never married. Our dad died less than a year ago and now it looks like half of that will also go to him.
This is in Florida

So my daughter recently graduated from high school and her father who is not really involved texted her to let her know some family members had dropped off cards for her at her grandparents home. For context father lives with parents and has had on and off drug/ alcohol addictions. Anyway we go to pick up cards and one was sealed with card and money inside the other was never sealed just tucked in but no money. How do I go about asking family member that we don’t really have a relationship with if there was money without sounding greedy because I think he may have stole it?

Soo I went to court this week for my "guardianship" to be granted to my Mom, after I was coerced into a psych ward through manipulative and AI driven scams via Spear Phishing texts. I spent five days at a psych ward as retaliation for telling the truth of covert narcissistic abuse, phishing scams via email and texts, exploitation and sextortion via Reddit, pig butchering via one specific person I know who has "creative ways of making money". I told the who truth regarding people using LLM's to start rage baiting via IG, Reddit, dating apps, etc. I also told the truth of my chiropractor violating his HIPPA oath by using a patient to pass a piss test when he got kicked out of sober living, covert stalking via dating apps, installing malware on my phone to read my texts, emails, and monitor my browsing activity. Oh and him using driving his emotional car to harass, intimidate, threaten, and triangulate while causing chaos, drama, confusion, and all kinds of crimes.

I hope the court realizes that the DOJ has been investigating abuse by guardians who abuse their powers. I will be taking meticulous notes. All this was under oath, and nice try with the phone number spoofing running massive spear phishing campaigns in order to steal information, identities, gaslight, manipulate, and covertly abuse others.