My siblings and I inherited a house from my mother to be divided by 4. The house is 4 bed 3 bath 2 acres of land with a 2 bed mobile home and a gigantic block building. One of my sisters moved into the house in February 2025 saying she was going to buy it it’s been almost 2 years and they call and tell me to go by the lawyers office and sign the papers, I went Monday. She is trying to buy the house for 100k the house is valued at 220k. My2 other siblings have signed I haven’t talked to my 2 sisters in 2 years and now they are mad at me. I feel like if my mom would have wanted one of us to have the house she would have left it to that one. AITAH??

For context her two daughters are getting everything in the will (my mother and aunt) its going to be split evenly 50/50 between the two of them which sounds fair on paper until I gave it thought.

My grandma stopped driving in 2017 due to many reasons and a lot to do with age so my mom started driving her everywhere beginning in 2017 and of course still doing it in 2026, this is doctor appointments, hair appointments, groceries and a dozen other places that she takes her to every few days, gas adds up and so does time. She had a brain aneurism in 2019 and thankfully came out great with a 10% chance of survival but this sudden change made my mom practically become the caregiver of my grandma for 6+ months which of course she never had a problem with that, it’s her mother. In 2020 my mom lost her husband of 35 years to a very sudden health condition and was still tasked with taking constant care of my grandma, no rest for the weary. Grandma broke her hip in the fall of 2024 and my mom was tasked with caregiving and all work around the house and it’s still something she has to do today to some extent. On top of everything I listed my mom has to work 4 12 hour shifts (she’s picking up days and commute is an hour so more like 14 hour days) to afford her own basic amenities with her being a widowed mother.

My aunt is a “digital nomad” who owns her own business that has practically no work that she needs to do because her employees do it all, I’ve asked her and normal work weeks for her are 5 hours a week of just meetings on the laptop. She travels around the world 330 days of the year with her also successful husband who does his own thing digitally too. His family lives states away from ours so in that 1 month of not traveling for them 2 of the weeks are spent with his family and 2 are spent with ours, my aunt stays at our grandmas for those two weeks and helps her around the house and had the audacity recently to call my mom and ask her to drive my grandmother to places because she was “busy that day”.

My mom hasn’t been able to live her own life for the better part of 10 years, she LOVES flying and went through rigorous training and memorization to become a flight attendant, I thought she was turning a new leaf and cried tears of joy that day back in 2016, it was a major airline with less than 1% acceptance rate and she was forced to quit to take care of her mother after only being there for less than a year. Over these last 10 years I’ve noticed my moms hair thinning from stress, doctor appointments for depression medication only because I was nosey (she never told me about it) and working a job she hates and gets bullied at by younger trashy employees. My aunt very recently announced a 5 year cruise she’ll be going on which was the reason I’m even making this post, my mom is shy and never one to speak up for herself so I’m asking Reddit, is this something I leave alone or have a talk with my grandma about.

I’m looking for some objective outside opinions because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable.
My mum has 5 children (3 don’t have contact with her due to her behaviour) I’m the youngest (30F) and my brother is 32M. Her townhouse is essentially her only significant asset. She’s financially struggling and owes my brother around $20k. He says he can’t keep lending her money so he’s buying the townhouse.

It’s worth roughly $600–650k as is, higher estimate is 800k although it needs some work. He’s buying it for somewhere around **$**500k, and they’ve already had legal advice and are proceeding.

I understand that she owes my brother 20k and he should get that back, what I struggle with is that Mum initially offered me $5k, plus some of my grandfather’s inheritance which I believe I’m entitled to anyway and may never receive (he hates my mum and she didn’t receive anything from her mother either). The 5k offer felt insulting.

I’m a single F30 with no assets, living on one nursing income. I’ve spent years studying and making significant financial sacrifices to build a stable future. My brother is in a different financial position with investment properties, 2 income streams and works as a buyers agent.

I also think he needs to implement boundaries and not accept that he will be financially responsible for her indefinitely. My brother can’t be expected to keep lending her money but equally she needs to take responsibility for living within her means. Buying the house may solve the immediate problem, but it shouldn’t be a case of if I don’t buy the house I have to fund her life (she receives a pension, is 70yo, owns her home, barely leaves her suburb).

My mum has also always talked about how devastated she was when her parents sold their family home to her sister and gave her nothing. So it feels particularly hurtful that I’m now potentially in a similar position.
My brother has also said, “You’re lucky I’m working with you on this,” which really upset me. I’m his little sister, not someone he should be negotiating against.

They’ve now offered me around 40k for a deposit for a home but that doesn’t seem fair given the instant equity he’d receive and up to 300k in profit from selling.

There’s also a lot of history here. I’m the youngest of five and my relationship with Mum has involved significant childhood trauma. I’ve often felt like I’ve had to be the parent by helping her practically, emotionally and financially, unfortunately my brother is still under her spell. I think part of what hurts is seeing friends whose parents help them build their futures, while I feel like I’m being left with almost nothing. If I were a mother with one major asset, I’d want to help my children where I could.

What would you do in this situation? Is it reasonable for me to ask for a more transparent and equitable arrangement or am I being entitled by feeling that it isn’t fair given the potential benefit my brother is receiving?

My mother's side has ancestral( grandfather) property which belongs to all kids.. Including my mother and her sister as well...

It's been there for the past 35 years.. Now the brothers (uncles) have decided to sell it off and cut off my mother and her sister off it so they can have a bigger share... Both my mother and aunty live in a different state and all uncles live in the state where the property is...

The property papers has the names of my mother and aunty on it? Can they sell it without thier consent? And can they cut them out completely?

They are counting on my family not coming there and fighting the case there... As they can make it difficult for us there.

Advise and course of action is much appreciated

Any further questions, drop a comment.

About 6 years ago when I was 18 my dad (who is divorced on bad terms from my mum) told me that my mother owed me $40,000 from money that my nana's boyfriend left to me when he died in 2009. He also left $40,000 to each of my other 3 siblings. At first I did not believe him but he told me to confront my mother about it and so I did. She confirmed it and told me that she would start the process to pay me the money. Me and my mum are not on good terms and she had never mentioned this money to me before.

Apparantly my mother had invested this $40,000 and my siblings money into building the house that we lived in.

My question is, if my mother invested the $40,000 into the house that has since gone up in value over the 10 years we have lived in it, would I be entitled to more money? The house was worth about 1.2 millon when it was first build and by the time the inhertance money was given to me the house was worth about 1.8-2 million.

Am I potentially entitled to more money?

So my mom has been getting scammed for a couple years now. In October 2025 my dad passes away from stage 4 colon cancer. My dad always worked and provided for me and my mom. He has helped me raise my 3 children as well because their dad is scum. Anyway, when he passed we got some money and I let my mom put it in her savings to keep it safe. She promised me she would keep it there in case she needed it or the kids needed something. She was broke by December but I never said anything because I was grieving and trying to get through life.

My mom and I share a cell phone plan and we split the bill. So my mom promised me she would pay her half of the cell phone bill and she didn’t. I’ve paid the full bill 3 months in a row and I told her I could no longer afford to do that. She messages me yesterday and tell me her home phone and internet are disconnected. So I went over there after work and exploded. I’ve tried talking to her nicely about giving her money away and getting scammed but she doesn’t seem to care. I took her phone and demanded to see her bank statements and she wouldn’t show them to me. I found out she’s let the home owners insurance go and has took out personal loans to keep giving to these scammers. I’m done with it, I can’t keep worrying. The house she lives in is my house, but it’s in a life estate. She can live there until she passes if she wants to. But she doesn’t ever stay there, she will stay there during the day but go spend the night at her sisters. I told her sister what was happening and she confronted her. My mom stopped going over there. Idk what to do. If she isn’t going to live there why not let me have it so I don’t have to pay rent. Why not give all your money to me instead of scammers, why watch your child struggle and your grandchildren.

She’s been scammed out of like 40k that I know of. I told her she could either let me help her and get her out of this situation or she could choose the scammer. She’s not spoke to me in almost a month. It’s like she doesn’t care. She would rather choose this fantasy than have her own family.

Hi all. As we know in this day and age, boomers are not passing down anything to their children and hoarding onto generational wealth for life. And typically if they do pass anything down, they then proceed to downsize their life. Well this is a situation for you. My parents live in a wonderful home (technically two-family) home and they've owned it for 30+ years. Beautiful neighborhood and close to NYC. It's not huge in size but has double everything being a former 2 family home. We've been utilizing it as a one family the past few years. If you been on the Northeast, you know what I'm talking about! Not huge but definitely an great and stable property in the suburbs of NYC metro. Because its in this area, property value is VERY high.

For years, my siblings and I who are now grown adults and working have been wanting to keep the home in the family. Ideal situation would be our parents to let it be part of the family as its technically our only asset from them. But, they also want to move to a bigger house.. they've been wanting to move to the south for awhile now and want to sell this current home for a mansion in the south. (Keep in mind, none of their children will live there with them and we have no appeal for the south as most of our life is here in the Northeast and NYC area.) They can get a great value for selling and even have some money left over after by buying new house in the south.

With houses in the south being cheaper than that in the north - our siblings are trying to convince our parents to let us buy them the new "cheaper" house and keep our current one as an inheritance. We don't want to keep it for money sake but for obvious sentimental values, potential property value down the line, and life-association with this home!

Is this stupid of us?! If our parents sell this current home, then buy a huge mansion in middle of nowhere Texas where no one wants to move or live, then we are stuck with that burden of a home down the line. It feels less of a burden for us to just give them money to buy their new home and that's it..

Or buy the house from them at a lower cost compared to a local investor etc, and then let them use that money to buy the house... but at the same time parents will want the $$$ thats these local investors are offering (thats where the boomer mentality steps in)

I know this isn't too well written out but I wanted to get people's opinions on this..

I know its our parents and they can do what they want, but we're telling them, if we lose the house, we really lose all our potential of general wealth etc lol.

(and also it is a cultural thing but we'd be more than glad to help them buy a new house rather than sell this current one off. love my parents and want to see them get what they want but dont want us to miss out on potential "heirloooms" )

TLDR: Parents want to sell house to buy new larger house for themselves in south, but we rather buy them a new home so we can inherit the current one and not lose it's value!

When my mother called me into the kitchen, I knew immediately that something was wrong.
She was sitting at the table with both hands wrapped around a cup of coffee she hadn't touched. My older brother, Daniel, was beside her, scrolling through his phone.
"Sit down," Mom said.
I did.
She took a breath. "We've been talking about your inheritance."
My stomach tightened.
A few weeks earlier, my grandmother had died and left me $200,000. It wasn't a fortune to me, but it was enough to change my life. I had planned to pay off my student loans, put a down payment on a small house, and finally stop living paycheck to paycheck.
"What about it?" I asked.
Mom looked at Daniel.
Then she looked back at me.
"Your brother thinks you should give it to him."
I actually laughed because I thought she was joking.
Daniel didn't.
"He has a family," Mom continued. "He's the firstborn. Grandma always loved him, and honestly, he deserves it more."
I stared at her.
"Mom, Grandma left it to me."
"I know."
"She specifically wrote my name."
"I know that too."
"Then why are we having this conversation?"
Mom sighed as though I were the unreasonable one.
"Because you're younger. You have more time to build your life. Daniel has responsibilities."
Daniel finally put his phone down.
"I'm not saying you don't deserve anything," he said. "I'm just saying it makes more sense for me to have it."
"Why?"
He shrugged.
"Because I'm the oldest."
I looked at him, waiting for the punchline.
There wasn't one.
For my entire childhood, Daniel had been the golden child. His mistakes were "learning experiences." Mine were disappointments. When he dropped out of college, Mom called it finding himself. When I got a B instead of an A, she asked what had happened to my work ethic.
Daniel got help buying his first car.
I bought mine with money from a summer job.
Daniel's wedding was a family event that Mom spent months planning.
When I graduated, Mom forgot to attend the ceremony.
Still, somehow, I had convinced myself that none of it mattered.
Until that moment.
I pushed my chair back.
"No."
Mom blinked.
"What?"
"No. I'm not giving Daniel my inheritance."
Her face hardened.
"You don't have to be selfish."
"I'm not being selfish. I'm keeping the money Grandma intentionally left me."
Daniel shook his head.
"You always make everything about yourself."
I almost smiled.
"That's interesting coming from you."
Mom stood.
"Your brother was born first. He has always had more responsibilities."
"And I've always had fewer rights?"
Silence.
That was the first time I'd ever said it out loud.
Mom's expression changed.
For a second, I thought she might finally understand.
Instead, she said, "If you refuse, don't expect this family to forget it."
I looked at Daniel.
Then at my mother.
"That's okay."
I walked out.
That night, I opened Grandma's will again.
There it was, in black and white:
To my granddaughter, for the future she chooses for herself.
Not Daniel.
Not my mother.
Me.
I cried that night—not because I felt guilty, but because I finally understood something I'd spent years avoiding.
Grandma hadn't just left me money.
She had left me permission.
Permission to stop apologizing for having something good happen to me.
I used part of the inheritance to pay off my debts. I put the rest toward a modest house.
Months later, Mom called.
"We need to talk."
I almost didn't answer.
She said Daniel had lost his job.
I waited.
"Can you help him?"
I looked around my new living room.
At the little house Grandma had unknowingly helped me buy.
At the life I'd finally started building.
"Mom," I said quietly, "I already did."
"What do you mean?"
"I helped myself."
She didn't respond.
Neither did I.
For the first time in my life, I didn't feel like the second child.
I felt like my own person.
And for once, that was enough.

I have booked a lawyer for later on this week but unsure whether I have any grounds to pursue this horrible situation.
My uncle was diagnosed with vascular dementia and during this time his defacto partner shut me (his niece) and the rest of his family out , she was blocking contact as he became unable to communicate in his vulnerable state.
As he got worst his affairs were taken over by state trustees as there was no POA in place , during this time she was investigated by state trustees for severe financial abuse , it went to vcat but nothing was resolved she in fact did not turn up to the hearing and did not give any explanation as to the missing funds from his accounts.
Unfortunately my uncle passed away about 3 weeks ago , an absolutely horrible time as she told us we were not welcome at his funeral .
Another action motivated by her fear and greed .
My understanding now is that state trustees have passed things over to her for probate , being his ‘defacto’ , The family knows that my uncle did not want her to be full beneficiary of his estate , but he did not have a will .Have we any recourse ? Or should I leave it alone ?

(Uk) Basically I am 20yrs old and my grandma (my mother’s, mum) passed away recently and in her will she stated that I was to inherit £3000, as do my brothers and cousins. She said she will put it in my savings (which I have no access to) so I can put it towards a house in the future because that’s apparently what her mum (my grandma) told me to do with the money or on something more “worthwhile”

So I have asked her to send me £600 odd, out of inheritance in my savings account she had made and set up for me when I would be too young to have a bank account myself, to spend it on a new double bed to upgrade from my old worn single bed and just some extra small costs such as clothing items. She is out right saying no and saying “That is not what the money was left to you for.” Yet in my opinion a new bigger bed is quite worthwhile and long lasting especially when I could transfer this new bed into my new home in 5+ years time.

She is only reacting like this cause she thinks I have poor financial decisions and can’t save it either. There is no where in the will that states I am to recieve the inheritance money at 21 or 25 etc so surely I should legally be allowed to have access to this £3000 right now? I understand she might think I have bad financial choices but then again Im not asking to use the whole £3000 in go? I just would like £600 ish out of it for a new bed a mattress MAINLY, but then a bit of extra for underwear that I desperately need and also the “unnecessary” clothing items. How can get my inheritance money if I have no access to my mums bank account, which has my savings account with the £3000 in?

My mother died recently after a significant period of physical and cognitive decline.

For context, my parents had an older estate plan that essentially divided things between my sibling and me. My father died several years ago. After that, my mother was free to change her estate plan, and I completely understand that she had the legal right to do so if that was genuinely what she wanted.

The part I’m struggling with is what happened near the end of her life.

In her last several months, she was extremely frail, used a wheelchair, had major memory problems, and had very limited ability to use a phone or have extended conversations. I could still have basic conversations with her, and she could say things like “I love you,” so I’m not claiming she understood absolutely nothing. But her functioning was clearly very diminished.

People who were seeing her regularly described periods when she seemed only minimally aware, including within about a week of when new estate documents were signed.

A few months before she died, while she was already on hospice, a new will was signed leaving everything essentially to my sibling and specifically excluding me. A broad power of attorney naming that sibling was signed around the same time.

The timing is a major concern for me. There had been years after my father died, and significant time after my mother later moved and purchased another home, when she could have changed her will. Instead, this major change happened during the period when her physical and cognitive condition had become especially poor.

I did not know these documents existed until near the end of her life.

There are also circumstances surrounding how the documents came about that concern me, particularly given how dependent she was on other people at that point. I’m deliberately leaving some details out because I may speak with an attorney and don’t want to put every piece of evidence online.

At the same time, there are facts that cut the other way.

My mother and I had periods of conflict, and years earlier she had expressed anger toward me and apparently made comments about leaving everything to my sibling. So I cannot honestly say that disinheriting me was something she never would have wanted. People are allowed to change their minds, including for reasons their children think are unfair.

That is what makes this difficult.

If the new will reflects a competent, independent decision she genuinely made, I would accept it. What bothers me is whether she was capable of understanding what she was signing at that point and whether the decision was actually reached independently.

There is enough money/property involved that this is not trivial, but it also is not some enormous multimillion-dollar estate. Litigation could obviously consume a significant portion of whatever I might recover.

I’m less interested in internet legal advice than in people’s practical reactions:

If you were in this position, would you investigate/challenge it, or would you walk away?

For anyone who has contested an estate: was getting answers worth the money, stress, and family fallout? What made you decide there was enough smoke to justify looking further?

Hi

Throw away account for obvious reasons.

My father passed away earlier this year, my mother passed away a few years earlier. As he was the last parent, I now find myself in an unfamiliar situation of dealing with IHT but no information to understand my position and responsibility.

My father was born in Pakistan and came to the UK in the late 70's. He had land ownership, property and rental income in Pakistan at the time of his passing. In the UK he lived in a property alone that has his name one jointly with my brother, and money in UK bank accounts.

I have three older siblings (two brothers and sister) and a younger sister. My older sister married a cousin from Pakistan who is very tight with my brothers.

Before she passed mother said (in front of all my siblings) that my share of any inheritance should come from the UK house and bank monies only, the wealth in Pakistan to be split between my siblings.

I have not been made aware if any of my siblings has come forward to become an executor of the estate. If someone has taken the role I have not been informed of any decisions.

• The house my father lived in was joint name with an older brother. my other brother claims it was my father's in name only and he made the money for the other 50% so really it is his. My sister has moved into the house without any formal discussion/agreement with me and looking to buy from my brothers. I assume they are avoid this being considered part of the estate.
• I have been made aware that last year my brother tried to convince my dad to remove money from the banks so not subject to IHT. He claimed my dad did not want to do it, but then I heard from my older sister she accompanied him to bank and multiple smaller amount withdrawals were made. These withdrawals would have been different to the regular pattern in previous years. My older sister then asked me to come to the house to get my share, which I declined.
• My brother likely sorted out my fathers affairs and has probably never declared any oversees assets. He is in private discussions with people in Pakistan to sell of and redistribute any assets to avoid being caught.
• My older brother had a Pakistan based joint bank account with my father which I have account/sort number to. I don't this this has been declared to the UK and I think he has taken full control of this.
• The family of my brother-in-law ran (still run likely) businesses from a building my father paid and owned. I don't know where this income is going and what has happened with past income. I doubt it was declared by my brother previously and now been hidden.

I have

• reported situation to HMRC via online submission and not been contacted yet.
• spoke to the local Sheriff Court indicating meddling of estate without an executor and I've been told they can't to anything and only deal with process. I read online they can assign an executor but no one has contacted me
• spoke to someone at the local police station and they say it's a civil matter and I need to get a lawyer but not do anything else.

I am concerned that all three siblings are taking matters into their own control and may drag my name into the mess, or act against me with combined testimony that I arranged meddling.

What else can I do to

• highlight what I believe to be fraudulent behaviour, theft and tax avoidance.
• protect myself from being associated with actions.

Any help much appreciated

Dear Reddit

a sad tale, english is not my first language, please bare with my spelling and grammar errors.

Me, M38, my half siblings are a lot older, in their 60s and 50, and grew up in a different zeitgeist. My dad divorced from their Mom, and in that time divorce was uncommon and from what I can tell it was messy. My father has never said a negative word about his ex-wife.

My Mom and Dad meet a few years after and she has always considered those kids as her own. She also had a kid from previous marriage in the same age. I was born a lot later.

Because of the age gap my siblings have been more like older uncles/aunties but always been around for family occasions. I consider myself a only child because I have always lived alone with my parents.

My older siblings have a very different life style, corporate jobs, expensive cars, huge houses... different intressts. They have money. We have our differences and in temperament and life choices, but had fun at Christmans and birthdays etc. Close, maybe not so much? But good company. A baseline of trust and understanding.

A year ago things started to get weird., my siblings would visit my parents without telling me, ( I live in the same city as my parents but the siblings do not). And I noticed stress and depression in both my parents. My parents are old, 94 and 84, but in good health ( atm!). Suddenly they were tired and non active... My father secluded himself for days in bed... I asked whats wrong but they did not want to involve me. I let it be... hoping it would pass by... I could see they were suffering and not themselves.

A few weeks goes by, and my half siblings asks if they can visit me, they said they had something important to tell me. It turns out my half siblings have been asking for documents from the authorities about how my parents will and testament. Its legal in my country, but its coincided bad manners to investigate. They said they were upset that the will was unfair and proceed to pitch how they were being mistreated, and to be fair, me being my parents child would mean I would inherit them both, but my half-siblings with dad would inherit my dad only. In a legal sense its non of their business, or anyone else... in a moral sense I guess they had a point. Or so I thought at the time.. They presented a 10 page document with diagrams, and text on how they thought my parents should change their will. They even consulted lawyers... It would mean my mom would have less to live by in case my dad dies before her. It means her two kids ( me included) would get less.

Here is whats been eating me, the half siblings proceed to persuade me that my Mother was manipulating our father to make a will that was intentional unfair. And that she from the start has been a gold digger, and hording her own funds. They persuaded me that my Dad was being gas-light into misstreating his own kids. I have been very angry with myself, because I started to doubt my own judgement... I asked myself, maybe they were right..? After the half siblings left I was emotionally drained, stressed out and chocked. Destabilised.

The day after I spoke to my parents, they wanted to protect me from this fight, and told my half-siblings not to involve me. My Mom and Dad explained how their will is no ones business, and that their marriage and will was planned to guarantee their financial safety should one of them pass away. The standard stuff, and planned in their marige and updated through their life. They could not see any logic in the half siblings narrative and feelt very sorry.

They had seen the document my half siblings showed., and could share why it was based on wrong assumptions and, the most important thing of all, they are married and make their arrangemangs, should they want to change its their decision and no one else. This they said many times to the siblings.

I mentioned that I would be ok to abstain part of my inheritance if it meant keeping my siblings satisfied. My parents thought this a nice gesture but ultimately not my place to have an opinion about.

That should be the end of it. But my so called half siblings press on, they have not given up or asked for forgivnes.

Both my parents have been so hurt and stressed out by this, and my siblings call my dad regularly to give their opinions... I have feelt stressed and ashamed having these people in my close family who could be so ruthless. Its set me up for a depression ...

I feel like a line has been crossed, and that my siblings intentionally caused harm to my parents and me. I am not sure how I can forgive them. I am ashamed to share a surname with them. They tried manipulated me , and have hurt my Mom and my Dad so much. I don´t see why anyone would want to hurt their father, especially a man so old. No one hurts my mom and dad and keeps my respect.

I can´t see how anyone can expect me to trust them again. For the sake of my dear old Father I will be civil.

The half-siblings have taken initiative for a meet up, but I am very hesitant. It feels and smells like a trap, another round of pushing their agenda. Nothing good can come from it.

So dear Reddit - Am I at fault for feeling estranged from these people? Am I wrong? Am I right? Run? Go? Lawyer up?

Yours
Cupcake

My father died suddenly and unexpectedly in February of this year. My father always told us that he was leaving us his Roth IRA and was so proud to be able to give that to us. My siblings and I were listed as beneficiaries for the IRA account so we withdrew the money. Fast forward to this month, we find out we are being sued by his wife, according to the North Carolina 15-year marriage rule.
The only assets my father owned were his car, his 401k, his Elvis memorabilia collection, jewelry, and several musical instruments. His wife began giving items away before she filed the will. The will left everything to her but stated nothing about the IRA account. The only items she gave us (which she left out in the driveway like trash) were photos, a few clothing items, very low quality Elvis items, a coffee mug, and gifts we had given him. She also made sure to include a random broken table and my nephew’s toilet training seat. To my knowledge, nothing has been inventoried.
His wife owned the house. She was the breadwinner. Her assets far outweigh his. Do we have any chance with this case?

Location: North Carolina

Imagine the level of evil that a son would pit his parents against each other as they are dying while knowing it will kill them faster so he can cash in…

My mother is honestly pretty stupid, I’ll admit, and falls for my brother’s really bad advice a lot over the years. Not sure why she’s so obtuse but she’s always fallen into his traps. Being greedy and bad with money probably doesn’t help.

Our parents divorced when we were very young and it was a very intense separation and divorce. I don’t defend either of them for their bad behavior but at some point they verbally agreed to go their separate ways and dad would not pay child support and leave us alone until we were older. His penalty was not modifying the support order immediately and taking my mother at her word. My mother’s word is about as concrete as melted butter. My opinion has always been that he owed the money regardless of their verbal agreement but it was not my say in their financial affairs.

50 years later after finding out he had a stroke and was also diagnosed with cancer she decided to file suit against him to pit her children against him by creating an argument thinking he wouldn’t pay…but he did agree to pay to settle a 50 year argument over her not following through with their agreement.

When he agreed to pay she now is asking for even more money causing him now to have to fight it out in court while battling cancer because my brother keeps stoking the flames. This has caused me to end my relationship with my mother and brother permanently as I have worked hard to get this settled once and for all.

My brother knows this will kill them both as our mother also is dealing with strokes and has had heart issues including a heart attack and he will get to cash in much sooner. He has had nothing to do with the family until recently as mom has aged and he has to put up with her for a very short period of time now, even less since he has stoked this court battle that will surely speed things up for him.

All I can do is watch the fight and watch both my parents litigate each other into dust because my brother is that level of evil. I always said growing up I must have been the guy in a previous life that sold gas to the nozzis to get my brother as my twin in this life. He has only grown more evil over time.

Not sure what I’m asking here but more of a vent session to warn people of the level of evil that lurks quietly for decades in a family.

My brother has repeatedly told me, at least a dozen times, that he won’t be truly happy and have peace until my mother has passed away. They fought verbally a lot, and he was always angry about something that she has done or said.

After she passed away last month, he tried to show emotion and acted like he was tearful and really missed his mom and went out of his way to do things to honor her.

Am I missing something? I really question the fact that he even loves my mom at all. Her death has not made him happier and definitely has not given him peace. I am really troubled about this.

He is angry, and his lashed out that me multiple times. He even seized about $2500 in her assets and won’t give them back, even though I am the executor of the estate. He has really made a mockery out of the will and trust process.

Do you really think he had any love for my mom? Or was it I’ll just a show?

I live in Oklahoma and we have some hillbilly probate courts. After my dad died in 2020 my grandmother, my dad’s mom, asked me if she could take care of dad’s estate. That woman raised me, her and papa. She is the only lady that I’ve ever met, and I’ve never disrespected her or went against her wishes or opinions. I said yeah sure grandma if you feel up to it I totally understand. That’s fine with me. That was January 2020 after dad died. Well grandma got sick around June or so and she had me come over and said she can’t handle it. I said okay what do you want to do? She said can you take of this? I worked in oilfield air conditioning service on the drilling locations in a 500 mile radius from Oklahoma City. I said I can definitely get it handled. I kinda waited a few months before I hired a probate attorney because I just wanted to make sure grandma wasn’t gonna change her mind again. December of 2020 is when I hired an Oklahoma State probate attorney. Almost a year later after dad died someone finally hired a probate attorney. My attorney got on the ball and got my rights as the only surviving heir to my dad’s estate signed off by the judge. We had dad’s house inspected and put up for sale and by the first week of February we had it sold. I was driving back to Oklahoma from the Permian and my attorney called and said all you gotta do now is sign paperwork to sale the house. I get back to OKC and I rested a few days and before I got to the attorneys office grandma calls. My aunt , grandmas daughter was taking care of grandmas health and welfare at home. For the last 7 years. Grandma said can you come see me before you go to your attorneys office. So I went over there and grandma and my aunt were both setting at her dining room table and proceeded on asking me about my marriage. I said I’m working on getting a divorce i just wanted to get this done for you first so you wouldn’t have to worry about it anymore. She said well I don’t want her to end up with any of your dad’s estate. I said okay neither do I. She said I talked to an attorney and if you sign over your rights as the heir over to me I’ll hold onto everything that’s owed to you from your dads estate until after your divorce is final and then I’ll write you a check for whatever it is. I asked her a few questions and my aunt popped off, it’s not like we are trying to rip you off. I said I couldn’t ever imagine a day where my grandmother would rip me off. I said yes grandma I’ll sign over my rights as my dad’s only heir over to you and if that’s what’s gonna make this part feel safe with you that’s a wonderful plan. I called my attorney and I said you’re gonna have to listen to me. I just signed over my rights is the heir over to my grandma and I explained to my attorney why. She said Shannon the house is sold. All you gotta do is the paperwork. I said I appreciate your hard work on this , however this is how grandma wants to do this final part and I will not be disagreeing with a woman that’s raised me buried her 15 yo daughter from a car crash, buried her husband my papa, and a year ago buries her only son , my dad. That woman has been kidnapped, raped, and robbed and held hostage in her car for 15 hours and always has a smile on her face when I walk in the door. She is a woman of faith that’s been tested in the horrific circumstances. Telling her no will never happen from this guy. Her only grandson her only grandchild. August of 2021 grandma dies. She was set free. I called my attorney and said grandma died we need to put me back as the heir for the third time. We did that and the distribution of the estate funds had already been signed off by the judge. I was just simply someone that’s name was on the probate bank account because grandma died. December was the final court date and everything was final. All of the funds went into my grandmas trust. February of 2022 I got my divorce granted. I called my aunt and showed her my paperwork the judge signed off on granting me the divorce. She hasn’t given me anything that I was supposed to get in the verbal agreement she was present in and heard and also made the smart ass remark it’s not like we are trying to rip you off. I said you’re serious? You’re gonna disrespect grandma like this by holding my inheritance hostage from my dad’s estate from me? I said when papa died I didn’t come at you for your inheritance from your parents. You’re not gonna carry through with what grandma and I both agreed on? You set there the entire meeting. I still haven’t got shit from her that’s inherently mine. I got a divorce and probate was over and that’s all grandma required of me to make this right. I have a question about my grandmothers and papas trust. Since my dad died and his sister ended up with all of the their trust. Since I’m my dad’s only child and he wasn’t married should I be rewarded his portion of his parents trust or does she just get to take everything from everyone that died? I’m wanting to do whatever is right. If I need to fight her for my dad’s portion I feel like I need to be because I’m part of the family as well. Her going back on what grandma and I agreed on is something God is gonna have handle. Because she thinks that she entitled to all this inheritance because she took care of grandma. If that’s how you need to look at it to fall asleep at night then whatever. Something here just isn’t lining up
Or making a damn bit of sense. She will not answer a single question I have about Grandma and papas trust.

One aunty took loan from my mother. She told she will return it within 1 week, now it has been more than 4 years now we are asking their family to pay off the debts. They are telling us they will only pay half the amount because they have paid the internet. According to them the total amount shouldn't be paid paid because they paid us internet. And it was their idea to take the loan and pay interest. 😭😭😭

To start with… My cousin passed away after his long fight with cancer... He left me his house and he also left behind two minor children and I'm their guardian now. His wife passed away after giving birth to the second kid…

The house is wrecked and I’d even say it’s partially destroyed. No windows in some rooms and a huge debt to the electricity company. It's been sitting empty for months…

The guardianship court says I have to sell the property. It's my legal duty as the kids' guardian to liquidate the asset and protect their interests

I called a couple of realtors and they walked through the house. They said it's unsellable through a traditional listing. Needs too much work and it means too much debt and too many additional issues

I found EazyHouseSale and I see that they buy problem properties as-is for cash and promise a fast close

It sounds like the only option. But what if I sell for way below market value? What if the kids come after me later for not getting a fair price? What if the court says I failed in my duty?

I don't want to make a decision that hurts these kids. But I also don't know what else to do…

Sister refuses to sign for Spanish probate,

Our farther passed away 20 years ago Murcia region Spain. He left a will leaving a paid off flat and a bank account, I was not privy to the full balance amount. To go 3 children. My sister had access to the account and transferred €15000 each to me and my brother (British) my brother has said he has no intention of ever going to Spain so will settle to 20k and not contest the will. I have kept up with maintenance paid all bills and taxes up to date over this time. Around 50k

We had a lawyer to handle the probate back in the day, but my sister refused to sign for probate. This leaves me with a problem as we can't start the inheritance process. Lawyer stated nothing they could do.

20 years on, surly there must be a way round this. Flat value is around €110.000 I would prefer not going down a legal route of at all if possible. Any advice will be welcome.