r/LGBTAustralia

Hello everyone,

I 24 F am moving to Australia for my masters from a pretty homophobic country .I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian like i don't have any experience with women but like I don't have experience with men either .

I just don't know how to start building a community and like being open about it .One of the main reasons for doing a masters in australia was so I could be open and figure myself out but I'm worried I might be too nervous to actually do it.

I would appreciate any advice and support.

As a fat woman of colour, dating is next to impossible in this country. It’s so hard to be anyone’s type. I literally dream about moving away and being with other black lesbians who actually understand me. Australia has me completely exhausted. Not to mention our dating scene is bad beyond belief.

This queer scene has never had much appeal to me because I’m so distanced from it. I can barely relate to any of the queer people I see in our media. And for fucksake, can at least one of them be fat 😭 like Jesus I know I’m not the only one. I’m just so tired of having no one around me that I can relate to. The fat queer experience is not for the faint of heart and it’s taking everything inside of me not to go ballistic.

I would love to move away, to a bigger city and a different country where women would actually be attracted to me. I wish I could go to a bar and talk to girls who have had crushes on fat black women before me. I want to be normal and fit in. I want to be someone’s usual type. And most importantly, I want to be around PUSSY OBSESSED LESBIANS. That can’t be too much to ask.

I feel like I’m pushing it with every person that I have a crush on because I know I’m so far detached from what they’re used to desiring. It’s gotten quite boring, actually. Being rejected so many times because I’m not attractive to them. I know that for someone, I will be irresistible. But why can’t I find that person here? In the country that’s my home?

I’m genuinely shocked nobody has tried to motorboat me. When I went to New York last year, I was in high fucking demand for the first time in my life! It was liberating to know that I was actually attractive. But coming home has been ridiculously hard. Not only was I desired, but I looked like everyone walking around the streets. I heard accents around that reflected my families. I long for belonging.

Bottom line is, I know that in my future I’ll have a beautiful black wife and a beautiful black family. That’s if this loneliness doesn’t kill me first. What if I don’t make it out of this country?

Wondering if any other fat lesbians of colour can relate? Or if any Aussie lesbians want to chat about the lack of lesbian representation in our country.

How do you find relationships or fun?

Hi everyone,

I’m writing to you today not as a developer trying to sell something, but as someone who has experienced what unconditional love and loyalty truly mean in our community. For 18 years, I shared a beautiful life with my partner until I cared for him at home through a long, severe illness, right up to his very last breath. He passed away in my arms. Those moments changed me forever and showed me just how incredibly precious genuine, honest time together really is.

We actually met online all those years ago. When I finally tried to reconnect and network digitally after my time of grief, I was absolutely shocked. The world of mainstream apps has become superficial, anonymous, and flooded with bots, fake profiles, and romance scammers who completely destroy trust.

I couldn’t just sit back and accept that. So, as a solo developer, I poured my heart into building GayHearts a true "safe space" and ecosystem built by the community, for the community. It’s a place where we can finally feel safe again, thanks to mandatory video verification, ensuring the person you’re talking to is 100% real. A place for dating, making genuine friendships, and true community life.

Why I need your help today: The app is completely finished and ready to protect our community. However, Google has a strict rule: before I am allowed to release it publicly on the Play Store for everyone, a closed group of 20 people must test the app for 14 days.

Right now, I am still looking for exactly 12 pioneers.

I would be incredibly grateful if I could find those 12 people here to help me cross this final finish line. You wouldn’t just be helping me you are the key to making this app available to everyone in the store. Only with your help can we open the doors to this safe space so the whole community can benefit from it.

What does "testing" actually mean and what do I need from you? Don’t worry, you don’t need to do any technical bug hunting. For Google, "testing" simply means having the app installed on your phone and opening it every now and then. That’s literally it.

Because Google requires a closed testing group, I can only grant you access if I manually add your email address to the developer console. Therefore, please send me a quick DM (Direct Message) with the email address you use for your Google Play Store account. I will then add you to the list right away and send you the private download link.

As a huge thank you: Everyone who helps me in this final sprint will receive lifetime Pioneer Status (meaning all future premium features will be completely free for you, forever).

I am doing all of this entirely on my own and out of deep conviction. If you’d like to be one of the 12 pathfinders to help bring this safe haven to life, please drop me a message.

Thank you so much to the mods for allowing me to share this, and thank you all for helping me make this passion project a reality for our community.

Warm regards,

Sven