r/MethRecovery

I'm in recovery and it no longers governs my life but I connected with this guy and I didn't realize how in active addiction he is and I want to spend time with him but I can't if it's going to get me to be using again , he says he wants to quit but last night I went to his place to jam some blues on guitar together and he was smoking so much I thought I'd have self control but i did some. Now I'm haggard for work again today like the million other times i did this and said I'd never again. Is it possible to be close and intimate with someone if you're in different stages of recovery? I never like anyone and I really like him and we have so much fun and I feel I can help him to stop using as much by just showing him other ways to live. But also I can't let a crush bring me down, I have to be prepared to not spend time together if it's going to be toxic for me. I don't judge where anyone is at but I also need to be realistic and not go backwards in my journey. I'm upset he gave me drugs, I went in truly not wanting to use I know my life is amazing when im not using I'm doing so well but I really have feelings for him and it feels really good to have intimacy because physical touch is really hard for me idk I'm awkward and autistic and in the process of rebuilding my confidence after 5 years of meth. I want to still see him just have concrete boundaries and be prepared to let go if he's not ready to get off meth. advice ?

I am 36 years old, a single mom to one amazing person, and I've been a functioning methamphetamine addict for almost 16 years.

I started in 2010 when I was just turning 18, it was the beginning of my senior year of highschool. Once I started doing meth it's almost as if I never stopped. Of course I had dry spells and the times I couldn't get high in jail for 3 months and the whole 9 months and 120 days it took to make my son and give birth and breast feed him the first 3 months out. Aside from times like that I have literally been high on meth daily for over a decade.

Before my kid, coming off of dope/ice was easy. As long as I wasn't employed I would just crash at my bfff family house and sleep and eat for 2 weeks and I was kinda alright as long as it wasn't near me to tempt me I was gonna be okay. No responsibilities, no job and nothing I had to do for anyone else type shit. I could function greater with each passing day of sobriety. But not now.

Now times are much different than they were 16 years ago, very different. The shits getting harder to get. And I don't mean find I mean get because that's always a whole ordeal and risk now. No one wants to sell it anymore for real and the ones who do have it don't want to share it with you or get you any even with your money and a finders fee. It's a whole deal just to re-up your personal stash anymore.

Besides that the product itself has changed so much over the years. From powder that would roll for days to shards that make you sweat profusely while not moving and it evaporates way faster than it used to and doesn't seem to last as long. People tell me I'm smoking too much or more often and I need to just chill but no man it's the dope. It's weak as fuck and don't roll in a bowl as long as it used to by a large margin. I'm telling ya.

Every time I run out I think this dry spell won't be difficult. It's meth, you don't get physically dependent on meth. Right? The first day has passes of not having any I become so sleepy and lethargic physically and mentally. I will sleep all day because that's all I want to do. All I care to do. I don't pick up my phone as much because there's nothing to do on it that I care about now that I'm not high. TV shows, forget about it, no interest in them either. I just want to sleep. I know I don't need it because I can feel it in my eyes. They hurt after sleeping too much sometimes. I'm not tired at all, I'm just literally bored and disinterested in all things anymore and would rather sleep and dream because it's easier than making myself do something I previously enjoyed doing high sober.

It's pure anhedonic hell for me. My mind wants to feel that dopamine hit I got crafting while high or shopping high and my body could not care less. It's a very weird type of boredom that only getting high remedies now. If I run out I can go a day or two before I start looking for something else to replace it. Liquors are a favorite but it's not good for me at all. Im gonna fuck up and lose my job if I drink before work or during which I have done many times. I'm not interested in weed when I'm sober off meth either and that really sucks. I like it when I'm high on clear but not when I'm a brain dead lazy humunculous slob because it literally makes the discomfort of that state worse. Yay let's get lazier.

I work full-time and going to work sober or not on meth is fucking miserable torture. My mind feels like shit, I'm sleepy and bored and the time seems to just drag on all day. Realizing I'm out of my stash and having to go to work kills me. I try to avoid that as much as I can but the scarcity of it around here and the way people are nowadays make it impossible to smoke a bowl before a shift unless it's my own. I often call out on days I'm stone cold sober because I cannot bring myself to submit to the pains of customer service for hours on end. It makes me want to drink cleaner in the bathroom just to make myself vomit so they will send me home thinking I'm sick so I won't feel so shitty about leaving because I'm jonesing.

I don't want to do anything when I'm sober. I don't do what I need to do when I'm sober and the shit piles up from avoiding them until it weighs on me like doom. I can't function sober anymore. And I keep trying to make the functioning addict thing work but I'm completely sober so I avoid all my responsibilities and fall into anhedonic despair and crippling anxiety. I'm not even half a person when I'm going through that and I don't want it to affect my kid but God I gotta rot for weeks to get off this shit I bet.

I got paid Wednesday and I called out of work because the re-up plans were taking longer (big surprise) and the waiting game was gonna go into overtime and I was absolutely feining and over being at the middle person's place that reaks like cat piss, do some shots of liquor to calm me down and they weren't working and I couldn't imagine being at work playing the waiting game feeling like I was because that's a hell of it's own.

I waited all damn day on getting my paycheck and to score. After all day dude shows up gets my money and this chicks who knows him and I wanted a couple balls so I wouldn't have to run out so quickly and go through this bullshit some more sooner than I had liked to. I sent 155$ dude is gone for 2 more hours then finally shows up but doesn't have all of it. Says we get a quarter now and the rest in just a little while. I take my sack and leave because my buddy is gonna get the other for me later that night. I find out tonight it never came and dudes being weird so now I'm out of dope and money. I did get a small sack that I am nursing the shit out of but I don't look forward to having to do the dance again in a week.

I am so sick and tired of this cycle man. This shit was fun when it was fun but now..I don't even know what I'm doing this for. I can't stay high on it forever. It's always gonna be like this and I can't keep this up much longer. Should I go ahead and strategically take my paid vacation so I can start my process of getting clean?

Anybody here that did meth for over a decade and suffered with the anhedonia and lethargy during getting clean actually make it through it? I want to quit so badly but I believe I've become dependent on it and I need to know how long I'll feel that way or if it goes away after a certain point.