How can I get my mom to try new things
My mom (f45) and I (f19) have had a tumultuous relationship to say the least. However in the last year or so before I left for college we had gotten closer. I realized that I was leaving her with two toddlers to raise with no help from her incompetant husband and my heart broke:( She pays the bills and takes on all the emotional support for her family and his. She has nothing outside of her kids and evn though I feel bad theres only so much I can relate to. I twll her to try therapy, get hobbies, take herself to dinner etc. but shes too scared/embarrassed to do it herself for some reason. I buy her cute clothes, makeup and jewelry but she always says when she loses weight or when we move to a house. I dont want to make her uncomfortable but having nothing outside of a loser husband, children who have to live their own lives and a family that just takes everything is my worst nightmare. Any advice on how to push her to try these things? Were in the nyc area so if theres any facebook groups etc:)