34F, single for 4 years. Does anyone else just miss having a partner to do life with?
I’m 34F, single, and generally pretty happy with my life. I have a good career, my own place, friends, hobbies, and I enjoy my independence. But sometimes I really wish I had someone to do life with.
It’s not even necessarily about marriage or kids anymore. It’s the everyday little things. For example, I recently paid someone $100 to assemble furniture and thought, damn, it would be nice to have a man around to help with this stuff. 😂 Or someone to take out the trash, split household responsibilities, run errands with, or even split this ridiculous California AC bill lol
Obviously, I can do all these things myself. I’ve been doing them for years. I just miss having a partner, someone to share the mundane parts of life with, not just the exciting ones.
For context, I was with my ex for 10 years and engaged at 30. About six months before our wedding, I found out he was unfaithful and ended the engagement. So being single wasn’t exactly how I imagined my 30s going.
I’ve dated over the past four years, but nothing has really worked out. It seems like whenever I get to the three-month mark and bring up wanting something serious, I hear some variation of “I’m not ready for a relationship.” At that point, I usually walk away because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time, including my own.
I’m not miserable being single, and I’m definitely not looking for someone just to pay bills or do chores. I genuinely want companionship, partnership, and someone to build a life with, problem solve and just deal with life together.
For those who have been single for a while, do you ever feel this way? How do you deal with those moments when you enjoy your life but still wish you had someone to share it with?