r/ODDSupport

I need some guidance on helping my 16 year old with ODD. I recently had to send him to a military school because I have tried for years to help him. He has had therapists and meds, but it's not helping so I had to resort to the military school. I received a call a few days ago that he is still very defiant and talking back. He also eggs others on. They told me he had 8 days to improve or they would have to let him go. If he doesn't straighten out there, what, if anything can I do. I'm a single mom of 2 other boys. please help. thank you

I have an 8 year old daughter, and a 3.5 year old son. I am a single parent, who's only break is work (and it's in healthcare)... I am at my wits end with my son. He is unbearable to be around.. I hate weekends because I'm constantly getting angry, snapping, yelling and crying. I don't want to be around him. I regret even keeping him at this point.

He has gotten progressively worse the last few months.. but he is very violent and does not listen AT ALL. He throws and breaks things, scratches and hits/kicks to the point of bruising and drawing blood (me and his sister). He screams at me, and when I get down to his level and try to talk to him he straight up laughs in my face and has spit before. My daughter was never like this. I don't know where he has learned this behaviour. He is better when I am not around, and mostly ok at daycare. It makes me feel like he would be better off if I just walked away.

Dr insists he's not autistic, and he does not have ADHD. I have tried everything under the table to try and help/fix this but absolutely nothing is working. Getting him out of the house for anything does not work either. He is equally bad outside of the home. I am the crazy lady breaking down in public because her kid is out of control. I have never been like this. I'm just so tired and fed up and feeling hopeless.