r/ODDSupport

If you even take the time to read this thank you! I am a "daycare provider" for my nephew (4yrs old) by that I mean I watch him and only him, he was kicked out of every daycare that he's been in. He has ODD. My sister in law has me do preschool work with him which I try to do if he cooperates. I'm so sick of having my house destroyed by him if anything is near him nothing is safe. He has thrown things at me, my 14 yr old daughter (stepdaughter technically) my cat, My rats (yes I have pet rats) in last resort I've babysat my stepdaughter's baby sister who is 1yrs old my nephew has kicked things at her thrown things at her. He kicks my walls, punches my walls knocks over my vaccum, floor fans, throws things at me my tv, everything he's thrown boots at my rat cage and punched and kicked at my 14 yr old cat . He dumps big totes of legos then starts throwing them at me.I have made a reward system and bought special toys to earn for "good" days . It doesn't matter when he goes off he breaks them so it's all for nothing. If you say no he just repeats yes or what he wants over and over and over until he either gets what he wants or explodes into a bigger tantrum. I don't take him out of the house because he asks for something and I say no and he runs away from me in stores and has a tantrum or manipulates me into buying it to avoid a tantrum. My SIL and her husband are the only two that can stop the tantrum so I've had to call them throughout their work days to get him to stop. He's gotten more violent lately he hits his head off walls does this body convulsions (it's nothing medical) when hes mad. In past two days he punched me repeatedly in the mouth that he busted my lip, he kicked me in the face yesterday and slapped me in the face. Thrown a remote at me. My SIL told my husband that he is probably got pent up energy that's what he acts that way. So I'm trying to do things with him play outside, "fish", paint, but seriously one small thing go wrong hell breaks loose. His pediatrician diagnosed him with ODD and put him in behavioral therapy.....his therapist is a crock I do more of the talking than she does she wants him to do 10 jumping jacks if he's starting to get mad when he gets mad he goes 0- 100 in a snap he's not going to do that because he shuts down right before a tantrum and you can't get him to do anything. He will not listen to me....he will listen to anyone else but me. I'm ready to breakdown in tears. My husband keeps telling me how to do things but he doesn't deal with him I do! Then when I say I'm tired he continues to ask well do you wanna quit? One I can't quit I have a physical disability so no one will hire me and this is my only source of income, even with what little it does make ( I make what one person on a minimum of 40hrs a week at minimum wage makes in one week I make that for the whole month. Two, where is she going to take him if I don't, everywhere else kicked him out.

Hi. I've posted before about my little guy who is five and my concern about him having ODD. I got a lot of great comments that I am thankful for. A lot of people said it could be, and a lot of people said it sounds more like ADHD which I do not disagree with. Last night i had to pick him up from my mom's house because she picked him up from school. He did not notice he dropped a bowl of fruit on the floor while he was watching a movie. I asked him nicely to pick up the bowl of fruit. He said no, that he was watching a movie. I asked him again. He then asked for my mom to help him clean it up. (She coddles him to no end) And i said no he can do it himself. My son for the first time ever told me he hated me. I was floored. I stayed very calm and explained that is a mean word and he may not speak to me that way. He eventually cleaned up the fruit but kept saying how he did not like me and how he did not like my parents either becuase FOR ONCE they took my side. He kept saying no i'm staying here at nonna's house i'm not leaving. Obviously eventually he got in the car and he started talking to me about how he was mad because I interrupted his movie and thats why he was being mean.

The rest of the night was fine he listened and even cleaned up his playroom when I asked him to. At bedtime I told him again that the word HATE is awful and unacceptable to use. He said mommy I'm so sorry I was just mad and he gave me a hug and a kiss. This morning getting ready for school was totally fine. It is literally like I never know what I am going to get with this kid. His emotions are all over the place and it seems like the littlest things make him so mad. I reached out to his teacher and she said yes he is definitely strong willed and he plays rough and can be difficult but she said she has had students with ODD before and they wrreck the room and throw furniture and scream my son has not showing those behaviors he can be redirected and does his work but i'm just scared that if we do not take care of this one day he will

i also have a friend whose son had ODD and it turned into something cALLed conduct disorder andn he has been in and out of juvenile hall. i'm just scared i want to help my kid but i also don't want to make a big deal out of nothing you know? i don't know what to do......

My daughter (8) was diagnosed ADHD and ODD almost two years ago I thought for some dumbass reason having a diagnosis would help it hasn't trying to explain odd to my family is like trying to explain to a toddler how to make a cake from scratch. They make comments about how they think it's just a made up thing blah blah blah we've tried teaching then about giving options instead of making demand or other things we've learned help someday. We moved to a new school district this year and I kid you not at least once a week we get a ten paragraph message about her and issues. I'm fed up we all are. Husband and I are considering homeschooling this upcoming 3rd grade year as an alternative because of all the issues. He is a stay at home dad we chose this after having so many issues finding child care for her that didn't cost an arm and leg and also to add more structure to get life I am a workaholic plus a student I have ADHD and a lot of days I hate to admit but I can't stand her I have 4 other kids 2 with adhd as well but they are all amazing kids they are honest and very dependable. They also face a lot of issues when it comes to dealing with their little sister. My daughter loves to do school work she is advanced in that department she has always been advanced sometimes it's a bad thing (porn addiction I had no clue there was porn on YouTube) we've placed so many precautions at school last year but this new school just kinda shrugged their shoulders at her diagnosis and I hate that. Anyways ADHD remember (I can't stay on topic to save my life) so what is everyone's thought on homeschooling a child with these conditions

Hi. My son is five. I don’t even know where to begin honestly. Whoever takes time to read this, thank you so much. He was a tough toddler who grew into a tough preschooler. He is extremely smart, charming, friendly and well spoken. But man is he something else……. He just wants to do what he wants to do. He never listens the first time. For example at the grocery store he kept putting his toy boat on the scale and I told him twice to stop and he didn’t listen so I raised my voice. Once you raise your voice at him, he spirals. He’ll double down by becoming extra silly or extra hyperactive which will get him into even more trouble. When we got home from the store I told him he’s not allowed to watch tv because of how he acted at the store. He called me “nasty” so I sent him to his room where he proceddd to roll around on his bed kicking his wall and whining. The good news is he’s able to kind of move on from it on about 10ish minutes but then he’ll just end up doing something again and the cycle repeats. No form of discipline fixes this behavior.

At school he comes home with all his work done but I’m told he has a “strong personality” and he plays rough and doesn’t respect others boundaries when they tell him to stop doing something which worries me a lot. He’ll turn it on the other kid and say, “he’s being mean he doesn’t want to play I’m not your friend anymore!” When in reality the kid doesn’t want to play anymore bc my son is too rough. Again he came upstairs with one of my favorite books wanting to read it (it’s an adult horror book 🙄) I said why do you have that book? He said I wanted it. I said did you ask me? He says no. I say go put it away that’s mommy’s book and he says UGH FINE YOURE SO BORING IM LEAVING YOU UP HERE ALONE. And he storms downstairs to put the book away.

I really never know what I’m going to get when it comes to him day to day. I don’t know if I’m going to get a sweet boy or a moody teenager. He knows he’s not allowed to touch the microwave, does it anyway and will push our hands away when we tell him to stop. I tell him to stop playing with dirty dishes in the sink and he continues. He just doesn’t listen. Can someone help?