r/OpinionsMatter2Me

I have been working for B-Dubs for 2 years. I have never had a problem with my coworkers except the one young woman. She used to be a server and then moved back to HOH. Now she does more work than she should be doing. We work the opening shift and she holds back on her dishes she uses to setup in the morning. She has to run them through the dishwasher. I do janitor twice a week and do prep 3 days a week. We have another janitor for the other 5 days. Instead of letting the janitor do the dishes brought back from the servers she has to do them. If you are doing them she tells you to get out of the way and you are doing it wrong. I pick on her to annoy her enough so she gives up her dishes so I can do them.

Today I did janitor and just got back from mopping the dining room. I was emptying the mop bucket and she was coming by with the shredded chicken and buffalo sauce in a large bowl that wasn't mixed yet. She tells me to get out of her way. I snapped at her. I told her she could wait until I was done. I told her she needed to stop treating people like this. That one day she might end up like I did. I was homeless for 2 years.

I was a manager at Long John Silver's and have been in food service for 20 years. I am 46 years old and I have seen it all. I used to work hard like that doing other people's job and it got me nowhere. I was even talked to by managers about doing their job when it wasn't mine. It is one thing to help someone out when they are getting slammed it's another thing taking work from them when the place is dead and they are running out of work to do. I left 40 minutes early because she wouldn't give me her dishes. One of these days she is going to take on too much and it's going to overstress her. I have been there. Her sister doesn't do anything about it so not my problem. I hope other B-Dubs are doing better.

My friend's daughter has gotten herself into a bad life. She was in an open marriage and is now divorced. When she has her daughter she doesn't pay her attention. She gives her to her mom and goes out with one of her boyfriends. She evidently blows her money because she asks for money from her mom and me which we don't have because we are both on a tight budget. She works a 12 hour shift as a caregiver. We all live at a trailer court and don't have to pay for water and sewage because there is a well and septic tank. She is a nice person though. I have known her for like 20 years and she needs help.

About a month ago she posted on Facebook about how angry she was because people were abandoning her. She is right though. She has brought it on herself but I feel sorry for her. Then today I saw a post about any church recommendations. My first thought was like no way am I taking her to church with me. Then her mom and a friend of her's mentioned the church I go to. I commented about my church and gave her the hours of the first and second service. I also messaged her about a program we have the second service the first 3 weeks of every month.

Now here's the thing I am wondering if I did was right. She does Uber to make some extra money. I haven't been letting her use my car because of the high mileage, her mom has to use it now because their car is getting repaired and they do Door Dash and I just see that she's going downhill because she's at the point she's going to lose her daughter. Then I saw on Facebook about finding a church and it made me think she's trying to do better with her life. She did tell me she had been watching it on TV for a few months but that's not the same. I did it a couple weeks when I was sick for my church and it just wasn't the same. I decided to let her use my car to do Uber tonight to get some money to help her daughter because she is already watching it on TV and she is looking for a church. I hope that if she goes to a church it changes her. This church started out at the YMCA and now has 2 churches which the one I go to was a donation. This was close to 20 years ago.

I can sympathize with her because I have been through my dark days. My faith in God saved my life and church got me back on the right path. I am a better person now than I was before then. I hope she learns from this and her and her daughter can have a better life.