r/Pakistan20s30s

The parents have asked that the girl and guy should talk and it's better to get to know each other. Girl's family hasnt met up with the guy cause he's abroad. They did take the girl's number so the guy can contact. Haven't had contact yet. But the girl got to know from the person who introduced the families that the guy is completely dependent on his parents to make this decision for him. Which feels weird to the girl as she'd like someone who is interested in her.
The guy's family seems to have a really good bond with each other and the parents, like friends.
What are the reasons someone wouldn't wanna choose for themselves in today day and age? And is it a bad thing?

I genuinely believe a lot of men fall in love with peaceful women… then slowly create chaos because they get bored of stability.

They’ll say they love soft girls and want peace not drama but the second things become healthy and calm suddenly they start moving weird.

Dry replies.

Random distance.

Unnecessary attitude.

Following random girls.

Testing boundaries.

Starting arguments over nothing.

Acting mysterious for no reason.

And then when the girl finally reacts emotionally after being pushed for weeks, suddenly it’s..see? this is why I hate drama.

Like no sir 😭

You planted confusion seeds and now you’re shocked a forest grew.

Some men are so used to emotional turbulence that healthy affection feels boring unless they constantly provoke something.

A peaceful woman is not entertainment.

You cannot keep shaking the relationship just to feel something.

Everyone says they want deep connection, real love, genuine friendships… but the second vulnerability appears, people panic and hide behind irony, dry texts, nonchalant behavior, or fake busyness. We’ve become a generation that overshares online but struggles to say i missed yo directly. Nobody wants to look too attached. Nobody wants to look too caring. Nobody wants to risk being the one who feels more So now everyone sits there craving closeness while acting emotionally unavailable like it’s some kind of survival skill.

A man can openly say he wants a certain type of woman and people call him confident or say he knows his worth. But the second a woman says she wants emotional maturity, effort, stability, attraction, or basic consistency, suddenly she’s too demanding, materialistic, or hard to please.

Men’s preferences are treated like logic.

Women’s standards are treated like arrogance.

And somehow society still wonders why so many girls stay quiet about what they actually want.

Sometimes university genuinely feels like paying lakhs in fees just to come home and study the actual topic from Y++Tube.

Professor enters class, reads the same outdated slides in the lowest energy possible, ignores questions, gives a 70-slide PDF, then disappears until exams. Meanwhile students are learning entire concepts at 2 AM from some random Indian uncle on Y++Tube with a marker and shaky camera quality.

And somehow that one Y++Tube video explains more in 12 minutes than a whole semester.

At this point universities are charging for attendance, stress, and portal passwords.