r/PhonesAreBad

It is so weird to me that when people post about horrible or disrespectful things on their SO 's phones they now feel the need to add a disclaimer like "I was using their phone because mine died" and/or "I was on their account because I don't have one we look at funny things with theirs together sometimes". When people mention what they've found on their SO's phones, there are always a barrage of people saying everyone deserves privacy and you should never look through someone else's phone. Im sorry, that is ridiculous and naive. People lie, they cheat, they are a different person in comment sections (not everyone). Some people are dangerous, some have violent fantasies, some are disrespecting you behind your back. Do you need to endlessly go through their phone and read all text messages and open every app? Of course not, but if you have a gut feeling, baby look through that phone. Back in the day people had to leave their homes to have a double life, to have that affair, to talk horribly disrespectful of their SO's. Now its one "click" away.

Dont be a bot and say “they are not” or that it is a coincidence … thats ignorant inside the box thinking. Lets look at the facts on why this is possible or plausible. have been experimenting alot with this. But in the shower i was thinking about how a possible good tik tok video would be showing all the over priced bikes on fb marketplace. (I am ALWAYS on marketplace and this is first time i have ever seen this) i open facebook and the first sponsored video i see is a guy saying “i found another POS bike” with a screen recording if him scrolling on marketplace. It just is not coincidence this has happened on multiple occasions where i am not leaving digital footprint but just thinking and the post is in extremely close correlation to what i was thinking about.

Ok so idk if I’m going insane but I feel like my iPhone can read my thoughts. Let me explain. So I know your phone has certain algorithms when you look something up you start seeing ads on all your different apps about things that you’ve searched up before bc obviously your phone stores and tracks things that you have on it to cater to what you look into, however there’s been so many times when I’ll think of something, not even say it out loud JUST think about it and in the next few hours I’ll see an ad about it. For example, just about 30 min ago I was going through one of my drawers looking for some scissors when I came across a pregnancy test that I had bought months ago. I seen it and just thought to myself “hmmm I forgot I had this here” wtv moved on and went to lay down. 30 min later I’m scrolling on TikTok and I see an ad for a pregnancy test. I don’t remember the last time I seen an ad for that. This is not just a one time thing, I’ve had this happen multiple times but todays the first time in a while this happened again, so I’m just curious am I crazy or does anyone else experience this?

Always found it oddly suspicious that I’ve never dreamed about my phone. As much as we’re around them, I haven’t met anyone who’s said it either.

Edit ✍️

Well, many people apparently have had dreams using their phones. Seems like none of them work though. Anyone had a working one? 😂
Wonder why none work in there 🤔

So i’m 25F and i’ve always used tik tok, instagram facebook etc but recently i’ve deleted everything to try and live in the moment more which has worked amazingly- my mental is better i don’t compare myself and I just generally feel more alive! But the thing that gets me now is I notice how much people actually go on their phones… it’s like they have to constantly distract themselves by putting a screen in front of them every minute of every day. So for example my boyfriend was making a cup of tea yesterday and instead of just standing there looking out the window or thinking about his day or whatever he decided to pull up youtube shorts and just blast a stupid video ruining the peace in the kitchen. I honestly don’t know if i’m just being uptight or whatever but I feel like it’s just so invasive and annoying. Like the only thing I do is check my emails or look through my camera roll now or mostly just sit with my thoughts and collect myself or better yet make a conversation with him if i’m that bored. And it’s not just him it’s like if i’m sat on the train or walking around everyone’s on their phones and it feels like i’m the only one looking around at it… I just feel like we’ve only got one life I don’t want to spend it with my head in a phone and miss it!!!

I hope this is in the correct community for my question. If it’s not, please let me know. I have an iPhone 16 Plus. My live in fiancé has the Galaxy A16 5G. We are on the same phone plan & I am the primary.

He knows all the activity on my phone. If my male friends text or call, he threatens them. Now they don’t text or call. I miss my friends

How does he see everything on my phone & how do I stop it?

We have a one year old son, and I want to start by saying my spouse is very patient, kind, and reliable… I love him and appreciate him so much. He’s a great father when he is present but I feel like he’s always been glued to his phone. Like even before we had our son he was always on his phone, and I find since we’ve had him he is on his phone even more. The first thing he does as soon as he wakes up is play games or just doom scrolls on social media, and then at night because I asked he will spend some quality time with our son but I think he’s tired after work and just wants to decompress but it just feels like he always wants to decompress more than spending quality time together. To the point he’ll spend some “quality” time with his son for about five minutes and as soon as he gets bored he’ll just be back on his phone scrolling. It feels like sometimes I’m living with a zombie. I’ve tried mentioning it to him and I suggested he could have set time to decompress and I can give him space and then after we have some quality time but it just always ends up where the phone / screen time always bleeds into quality time. Even when we visit my mom and my family people make comments about how much it must bother me when he’s on his phone so much, so it’s not just me who notices. It feels like an unhealthy escapism? He’ll spend hours just in this static type state doom scrolling. We don’t have any hobbies together, I try to get him out to go hiking or do things and he will and seems to enjoy them. I don’t know. It makes me so sad because even often he won’t be present with our son and I feel like these are the best days and he’s just checked out for half of it. I guess I’m just looking for any thoughts or suggestions either what I can do differently or if anyone’s experienced something similar and how to navigate it.