r/PositiveBLK

I know how Reddit can be about race so apologies in advance or whatever lol but please do not sully this and respect I want a cultural, personal, and racially informed/experienced perspective on this and be okay with that. It’s not minimizing whatever culture or race you are.

Black people with this, it is an incredibly stigmatized thing in our community.

Please tell me how disclosure went for you or if you did or just have abstained? I’m curious of age, sexual orientation, gender, and what ya said/how you did it?

I hope our day comes I pray a cure comes💛 trying to get through the ideations daily.

I’m a 33yr old, black - African American female in nyc looking for a guy in the area to connect with , with hsv1. Prefer a black, Hispanic or Caribbean man👨🏾. if you’re around send a message ( looking for 30-45 age range with hsv1 ).

22f from NY 🙂

To keep it as short and sweet as I can: I’m 26F and since February this year, I’ve been dating and now in a relationship with a 32M. Things have gone so well, we’ve integrated into each others lives, friends, families and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been in a relationship!

About 2 months after we starting being intimate, I began having issues down there that multiple doctors told me was vulvar dermatitis and general irritation. I’ve been open with my boyfriend the entire time about that process and much to my surprise (and the doctors), at my last dermatology appointment a few days ago, I was diagnosed with HSV2 via swab.

Now, I have to navigate the conversation of telling him this information and I am terrified.

I realise that there is a chance he’s asymptomatic and has passed it to me since this all begun after sleeping with him / he might know he has it and never communicated, but in the UK they don’t test unless you’re symptomatic (and I don’t think he is the type of person to hide that information) so we have to work under the assumption that he’s negative.

I’m stressed about getting the words out of my mouth, and the potential of losing someone that I love out of it. It feels like the universe is playing a practical joke on me lol

If anyone who found out about their diagnosis while in a relationship would like to share their experience / lend some advice, I would be so grateful 🥺 I just want the ground to swallow me up

(We’re both also Black and it feels like the stigma is even louder in our communities)