r/PositiveHerpes

First off let me say that I had no idea whatsoever that I was hsv2 positive. My bf and I were dating about 6 mos, took a break for 4 weeks (I didn’t see anyone), then we’ve been trying to get back together. At our “reunion date” on Tuesday 9/29 he suggested that we should get tested before being sexually active again. Me being cocky and overly confident, I went straightaway Wednesday (9/30) to get tested. Well to my horror, HSV2 came back “Abnormal”. Went for a follow up and more thorough test on Thursday 10/1, and I saw him that night. I didn’t have sex bc I was so hoping it was a mistake.
Well fast forward to late evening Friday 10/2 and new test comes back, no question I’m positive for HSV2. So now I am dying inside for all the reasons. I would NEVER withhold this information, I can’t believe I may have put him at risk or worse that he has it now bc of me! I love him and I have no idea how to tell him this. We are just getting back together and I’m just gutted at how he’s probably going to look at me when I share this news. My friend says “maybe he gave it to you” but I just can’t imagine that to be, mostly bc I just can’t wrap my head around anything other than I’m a perpetrator of sorts. So, does anyone have any advice here? I just have no idea how to broach this conversation with him.

TLDR- I didn’t know I had hsv2 and now I have to tell my bf who I unknowingly put at risk and potentially could gave it to

Hi guys, need your help . I am stressed out as i got to know that i have hsv-1 as i recently got cold sores and its incurable. So i have few questions, if anybody know and can help me . I would appreciate alot.

1. i have heard that while we have cold sores , we cant be intimate with our partner and i understand that. But once i am completely healed , like no visible cold sore . Can i still kiss my husband like usual 😔 . Feels like my love life is gona change due to this as i dont wana transfer anything to him especially genitals hsv.

2. even if i dont have cold sore , we cant anymore engage in oral sex as their is still chance ,he can get it from my mouth?

So it means , if we eliminate oral sex , and use condom will it be fine. Can ut prevent him from getting genital hsv.

3. what precautions can we take and still enjoy our love life as usual . My husband is very supportive and he doesn't care and just loves me . But i dont him to suffer . Please help me . How can i prevent any genital hsv as i just have hsv-1 from cold sores but i dont wana give him anything on his genitals or anything very serious.

I hope everything gets fine soon 🙏