r/SexOffenderSupport

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Haven’t been on in awhile. Can someone tell me how long an RSO can visit NY before having to register? For some reason, I can’t access the wiki. We are traveling this week. Thank you in advance!

Kansas has a new “technology” fee they’re adding on to the regular $20 fee to be paid quarterly. It’s $10 and so it’ll be $30 now every 3 months.

This is from Kansas Senate Bill 487. It basically says registered offenders must pay an additional $10 “technology fee.” It takes effect on July 1, 2026.

When I read the Bill, I couldn’t fully understand the purpose, so here’s what Google said:

The technology surcharge goes into a dedicated Offender Registration Technology Fund managed by the Kansas Bureau of Investigation. The proceeds are used to develop, procure, and maintain a new, centralized statewide offender registration system designed to improve real-time tracking and information sharing between law enforcement agencies.

Level 1 - Misdemeanor. Live in New York State.

Traveling to Europe. Schengen country.

Gave my 21 day travel notice to my local precinct. They said "thanks" and that they "aren't aware of the need to notify anyone but them".

I went straight to the post office and sent a letter to the NYS DCJS as well. Haven't heard anything back from the local precinct or DCJS.

Has anyone had issues with the local precinct or state government not processing your information in time for your trip?

Hi everyone,

I’ve been following this group for the past few months since my boyfriend’s arrest, and I wanted to thank everyone here. This community has been an invaluable source of information and support during a time when I felt completely lost and overwhelmed.

I’m hoping to hear from people who have personal experience with, or have supported a loved one through, a state CSAM conviction.

What were probation, treatment, and registration requirements like in practice? What were the biggest challenges during the first year? How difficult was it to find and maintain employment? Were there restrictions that caught you by surprise? What helped you or your loved one successfully move forward and rebuild life?

As a partner trying to understand what the future may realistically look like, I’d be grateful for any experiences, insights, or advice you’re willing to share.

Thank you all.

Convicted 10 years ago life as been rough haven't been in a relationship since. Family members living there on life's. Only good thing been able to find work after many reactions. I have become antisocial fear of being noticed. Guess I'm bond to finish life alone.

Does anyone know the law when visiting California regarding registering? I've heard it's anything over 5 days in one spot and you have to register? does that mean 5 days in any one county or what?

if I went for two weeks but changed locations 3 times then what?

I've been waiting for a court date for months to hear my petition to be released from Parole Supervision for Life.

Last week, I got a letter saying my motion had been filed and my lawyer requested a hearing date next month.

I missed a call from him yesterday, didn't even see there was a voicemail, asking about a court date tomorrow (which was now today). I called immediately, but there wasn't much I could do at that point. I had no clue what had happened.

Turns out the prosecutor called my lawyer and said they weren't opposing it, and could we just get it done today. My lawyer appeared on my behalf and it was done.

Still need a few dominoes to fall to get rid of my registration obligations, but this is a huge step.

Does anyone know of smaller businesses or jobs or direct positions that are willing to hire a felon that would pay more than 20.00 an hour with full time benefits? I'm struggling to find anything and am really wanting to advance in work. I've been in retail for over fifteen years(menards, bed bath and Beyond, taco gringo, penn Station) and I have a bachelor's degree in computer science. Any leads would be appreciated.​

Hi friends havent posted in awhile but everyone is always so helpful here. I have a few questions. My son was attacked last week and stabbed. He is ok but currently in the hole so no communication. I have a few questions, how often can you use the phone in the hole? The warden’s secretary emailed me and said we are starting a possible transfer. What is the likelihood that he will actually be transferred and how long does that take. Thank you in advance

Can anyone tell me what the registration laws are for TN? I have found conflicting information and am under the impression that if I move from Florida to there I will only have to register for the first 5 yrs. Or is it 5 yrs from conviction date?

1. If an RSO moved to Virginia from another state, where would they go to register?

2. Does the time spent on the registry in another state, count towards the time you're required to be on the registry in VA?

Has anyone been capable of landing or continuing Analytics role ? Not sure if should I just stay in doing Freelance but I would like to work for an employer?

Hi all, longtime lurker, i think the registry does more harm than good.

A family friend's son is on the registry and worried about how to find work. I'm not sure what level he is, maybe one or two as this is his first offense in this regard.

Is there anyone here in the Central NY area that might have some tips or knowledge of the job situation for SOs in this area?

Thanks in advance.

In the last year my older brother was arrested for alleged online sexual offences involving children (police posing as minors). He hasn’t been charged yet, so everything is still uncertain, but it has completely destabilised my life.

I’ve been in therapy but I’m still stuck with the same core questions and overwhelm: what do I do now, and what place, if any, he has in my life going forward. I have paused my therapy as I don't feel it is helping me get anywhere with this.

I feel torn between compassion for him and protecting my own children and stability. I also feel pulled into supporting my parents, who are taking most of the burden. But I can't look after him more just to help them - I feel they need to make the decision to do less for him if they can't manage it.

I have my own family and responsibilities, and I’ve reduced contact to occasional texts just to keep things from fully breaking.

I feel angry, hurt, and like my family has been shattered. I don’t know if things can ever feel normal again. I also feel isolated because I can’t talk about this with hardly anyone in real life.

The hardest part is the uncertainty and the lack of clarity about what I “should” do. I know nobody can make those decisions for me, but I feel stuck between forgiveness, boundaries, and protecting my children. I don't believe he is a risk to them but I feel that my kids would feel uncomfortable if I kept him in their lives and when they were older they found out what he had done.

For context, our relationship was never strong, and he has a long history of addiction, though he is now engaging with support and therapy.

Does anyone have any advice for navigating background checks and career advice?

My husband is an experienced electrical planner with over 15 years working in the oil industry. He is a highly skilled instrument technician.

He is a convicted sex offender- tier 3 in CA. He was incarcerated and therefore lost his job. He has been home for 6 months and has been applying in the same industry.

He recently had a job offer rescinded. He went through a series of interviews and even an exam before being selected. I believe there were a few dozen candidates. This was his dream job. He prepared a packet with letters from family, friends, his parole officer, mental health specialists and social workers and fellow members of a 12 step recovery program. He provided transcripts with certificates of rehabilitation. He was even able to obtain a waiver for his TWIC card to work in the ports. (This took months to achieve and from what I’m told felons are typically disqualified until 7 years have passed). I’m not sure what he could have done differently.

Emotionally- this taken a huge toll on him. While he takes accountability for the consequences of his actions- he’s grieving the loss of his career and ability to provide. It can be frustrating and challenging navigating all these rules and restrictions. How can he be expected to reintegrate and become a functioning member of society when there are so many roadblocks? Is this just something his has to accept?

Without knowing the details of his crime- people are quick to make assumptions and treat him as less than human. It’s disheartening as his wife to watch.

I’m writing this post to see if anyone has had similar experiences. I think it would help him to know that he’s not alone.

Are there any industries in his field that might be more flexible in the hiring process? Does anyone have suggestions or ideas on how he can position himself better?

Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.

I'm in San Diego county and it seems like there has been a surge in background checking even for temp jobs and even though my charge has nothing to do with basic warehouse work or making airplane parts or whatever, I cannot pass a background check. I've even gotten my charges dismissed and the court just flat out didn't file the motion and my lawyer is looking into it now, but I'm getting anxiety that it will even make any difference. Does anyone know where I should go? Or what I should do? I'm going back to community college, but it's not going to help with rent.

I am on the registry living in Florida. I've had my CDL class B liscence for almost 30 years, drove motorcoach in central florida for the last 20 years without incident and now I'm finding it difficukt to find work period. Any ideas? It's affecting bills/rent/food. I can't find any.job right now because of this barrier. It's really hard out here. I gave up on amazon dsp. No luck there. MO for usps? Box truck? Any job? It's worse now than It's ever been. 🤷‍♂️

Anyone on here went to trade school while being on probation? If yes what was your experience like. My boyfriend is done with treatment he just has probation for another year. He wants to enroll this month and start in September. He has a schedule tour next week after hours. TIA!

Also yes his PO knows about this and approved !

Offender Watch is being used to input registry information.

What is anyone's experience with it?

What rule or law made this a thing where a 3rd party is being used to collect private information for law enforcement?

I just do not like a 3rd party collecting private information for law enforcement. Who knows who gets access to that data that is not related to police.

If they are so overwhelmed with the amount of work maybe they should look at a real deregistration process. Instead of just adding to the numbers every day.

Any input would be appreciated. I am going to write my state senator and representative on the matter and ask for a meeting with them or a member of their staff to discuss.

Thanks.