r/StalkingandVictimHelp

Details will be censored for my safety and to follow community rules. If mods believe some details would be too far, please inform me.

I've been stalked by a ex-friend online for a little more than 2 years. And now its progressed so far that I may have to press legal action.

Little context, we we're only friends for a couple months and not that close. I have no idea who this girl is or any details about her, she has transitioned and detransitioned, changed names constantly, changed user names, even lied about her age for convenience sake. I will not reveal any personal details so any names and ages you will see names that aren't accurate to my story.

If anyone had been named it is purely coincidentally.

It started when she decided she no longer wanted to be friends due to difference of politics in the communities that we were in and she had unfollowed me for a good bit. I had blocked her because of this and this had started a string of behaviors.

This post is organized in 2 parts, one is the situations the other is where im at and where i will be legally.

[The situation]

Massive trigger warning for topics of CSA, animal abuse, child grooming, gang stalking, online harassment.

1. she started vague posting about me right away to a bunch of followers, spewing very exaggerated and false truths to make me out to be this really bad person. I was told this is refered to as "poisoning the well" where before she had even revealed who I was to her following she had already labeled me as a bigot without naming me yet. That also makes it so anyone who knows me can't rebut against her because they can't confirm that the posts were about me. But I assure you, the convenience of her post and the anger she felt against me to cut ties are very much linked to her vague posts and later, very targeted label posts.

This is not an isolated case. As in this story she will continue this behavior.

2. She started stalking me on an alt account that shared similar names to her main (for example she will be "emily0z" on her main her alt would be "em0z-lily"). I discovered this 4 months after i had blocked her. Tiktoks profile view features only apply to those under 10k followers and at the time i had an alt account that had 20 followers as it wasn't yet used. The profile views will only show to those who had visited their page within the last 30 days of their visit. So she had to have been stalking that page at least a month before i caught her account and blocked it.

3. she will delete accounts I had caught and blocked and make new ones I had not known about to stalk me. This has made this situation incredibly confusing as being someone who has 10k+ followers I get messages and comments from faceless accounts all the time.

Nothing bad but sometimes I will get an account that had to have been made a couple weeks ago being aggressive in my comments or dms sometimes spouting the same insults or sentence structures as my stalker.

Some users I cant tell were hers, some that are meant to be obvious.

If my friends found one of her alt accounts stalking their pages as well they usually inform me of them. However, I am almost always blocked, and tiktoks report system doesnt take my reports of harassment seriously.

4)She will send videos she had posted vague posting or harassing towards me either being sneaky or outright aggressive. She will do this whenever a post of my gets a lot of eyes, so it just confirms to me she or someone she knows has 24/7 eyes on me.

She will send them to my friends and family and any of my followers.

Unfortunately these posts are usually very defaming in ways where it would be socially unacceptable to play devils advocate i.e. calling me a predator or an animal abuser and funny enough shes even called ME a stalker.

And unfortunately I have had ex friends take the bait and completely cut ties with me, either out of fear of looking to be supporting an abuser or out of anger that they believe I am one.

She will almost always never post evidnece for these allegations and sometimes will post out of context screenshots or cropped videos and posts of mine to strawman as proof.

5. She will gang stalk me.

Its never just her when she stalks me, usually its followed by a bunch of other accounts that are friends with her spewing the same insults on my page completely unprompted. If shes not the one sending harassment, its usually her friends. And all of them tend to be minors, which is worrying because shes in her 20's if im not mistaken.

6. The allegations had gotten worse.

Ive been given advice by some friends who had also been stalked by her that I should just ignore it since giving her a response always goads her to up the harassment. However, this has never stopped her.

As of december of 2025, she had upped the anti on her allegations, first it started as "shes a delusional mentally ill freak"

Then it turned into "she's racist and transphobic"

Then it was "she likes monsters and werewolves in romance so she must be a dog fucker"

To "shes a dog fucker bc she now works at a vet"

To "she no longer works at a vet probably bc she was fired for touching them"

To "shes into pet play so she must also be into children"

To "shes okay with people having sex with children"

It always ALWAYS GETS WORSE. If an allegation doesn't get eyes on it or people start to get suspicious of the validaty of her claims (since she never provides actual evidence) she lies and makes the rumors worse. First it started as "shes a pup, shes into dogs" then it was "if shes a pup then shes okay with age players" then it was "shes okay with children having sex with adults".

She'll never provide any actual evidence or details and if she does like i said they're wildly exaggerated and/or missing very important context.

This part of the stalking has honestly broken my heart. I'm an adult in the pet play community to cope with CSA trauma, and being accused of the very thing that had happened to me makes my heart drop to my ass just thinking about it. It also hasnt helped with my OCD like thinking and makes me walk on eggshells whenever I post about something personal.

[Where I am emotionally]

I am trying to keep my head up since I know im being watched, I know I have to keep a stoic facade to give my stalker the idea I am not faltering to her assaults.

Inside, I am so exhausted. Anytime I get a notification of a comment or message my heart starts beating too fast. This doesnt help me with my diagnosed PTSD since my PTSD already gives me paranoid thinking, I have to ignore years of advice from therapists to ignore these thoughts and instead follow them and my instincts. This is insanely retraumatizing.

I am someone who loves psychology and invest so much time and energy into learning about our brains. From what I know about stalkers they usually do it out of emotional fascination or hatred. She has stalked me for 2 years as punishment for me speaking against her. As you can guess, im not the only person who had been stalked as she has been in contact with children and from what ive heard from her victims, had also been grooming them in some way, she would also stalk the child victims who has spoken out against her.

Or in one case a child who had spoken out against being raped by one of her adult friends...

Some stalking is caused by mental illness however I am not here to speculate the mental state of a stranger. Some people are just evil because they choose to be.

And legally I have to let readers here know that these are allegations that for my safety and the privacy of the child, who is pursuing legal action against her, i will not be providing ss proof for.

However, there is online a document made by the child victim mentioned.

For a while I had been against the idea of fighting her legally, as defamation lawsuits are hard to prove in a court of law, especially if the allegations and harassment had not effected me financially in anyway.

However as of July 2026, she had been friends with and in contact with a child in our community of over 200k followers, and had proceeded to lie to this child and their friends to curate posts and spread rumors about me to thousands to see.

I have announced publicly to these individuals and in private that if these accusations of no evidnece do not cease then I will have to file a legal complaint against them. Unfortunately, this bluff had only effected one of the children from posting about my name however that makes 4 more children I will have to send a cease and desist to.

For my stalker, unfortunately, I will have to take her to court. I have screenshotted evidence of her harassment taking place for the past 2 years with ss evidence of her friends sending me threats of violence, rape threats and black mail of information that only she could have.

Unfortunately because the 4 children I have to send a cease and desist to, I have to get a lawyer to sign off on 5 different cease and desists all citing laws from different countries. Which depending on the lawyer will cost 400usd....each.

I dont have a job at the moment. I dont have a consistent income, I work from home with art that I sell online and even then there are times in the year that I will have to take out a loan on loved ones to make ends meet. I am in no way shape or form equipt to go to court against 5 different people.

However, I do have the funds to go up against one. My stalker. I will file a defamation suit against her and hopefully by the end convince a judge to file a protection order against her for good.

Good thing with the resources I have and a private investigator I had hired, I know exactly her name, her face, her college, her work place, and her home. So that saves me hundreds of dollars in discovery court fees.

I'll be discussing details with a lawyer this week, however I am unsure as to whether or not I will update this post.

This post was made with the intention of getting advice from other stalking victims (no legal advice please). I want to share my feelings with anyone who feels isolated. Being stalked feels like the end of the world and that no one can be trusted no longer. But I want to fight against this because this is what our stalkers want; is for us to feel alone, helpless, hopeless and isolated.

Just about 5 minutes ago I was just informed by my grandma and aunt that someone invited my aunt to a TikTok live and when she joined they started threatening my whole family and mentioning full names, names of family friends and distant relatives, ages, exes my aunt had, and general town location.

They also knew specific information: for example that my child has autism, something I don’t tell people, they knew everyone’s ages, they knew my mums ethnicity, my aunts exes names, and that my brother has autism. And they completely name dropped EVERYONE !! Full name and everything. This is really scaring me. I don’t pick fights or even talk to anybody. I know my aunt has had a lot of drama with her exes which I’m assuming this is where the stalker has come from. But they seem to know all of her kids as well, and all of her exes, which means it has to be some kind of spider web where everyone is connected and knows each other? I’m so confused and just scared. It’s weird.

Anyone know what I can do here? They said some very vulgar and disgusting, malicious things specifically about my kid and my aunts kids, saying they would use rope on them, and they know where my aunt lives, and they’re not scared to fight anyone. Their account is completely private and definitely a throwaway kind of account.

Throwaway (Even though I had little understanding how to do it I privatised the account as much as possible for privacy reasons) for obvious reasons.

Before my boyfriend and I got together, he shared some private videos with someone he used to be close with. Those videos aren’t really intimate, but they were meant to stay private. That person (who is from Russia) is now uploading them on TikTok without his consent, and he’s being harassed over it.

The TikTok account also has a link to a Telegram account that tells people to message them, but it’s not my boyfriend’s.

For some background: the person who is posting the videos had been lying about being abused. That is the reason my boyfriend left them. Another friend of the person posting later confirmed those claims of abuse were not true.

We’re not sharing or linking the videos anywhere and I’m not going to describe them. We’re mainly trying to figure out how to get the content taken down and support him.

So far we’re thinking / planning to:

Report the videos on TikTok

Use StopNCII.org

Possibly involve the police / cybercrime unit (noting the uploader is in Russia)

Has anyone dealt with private videos being uploaded on TikTok without consent, especially when the person uploading is in another country and the account is linking to Telegram?

Any practical advice on:

How effective TikTok’s reporting is for this kind of thing?

Whether we should go to law enforcement right away (and how cross-border cases usually work)?

Other resources that actually help with removal?

How best to support him through this?

Thanks in advance for any help.