u/VegetablePhone132

It seems like I'm getting stalked again. This guy made another account to view my Instagram page and my ig story. He keeps sitting in areas near me in my school's cafe. I made it clear that I didn't want nothing to deal with him anymore and confronted his stalking behavior before. I honestly don't know if my college will take it seriously, especially with its history and seeing how other colleges are dealing with current issues, such as SA. Any suggestions

Before I get into my experience, I have a brother with autism. I have some understanding of autism. However, I'm still trying to learn more about autism and how it affects individuals. I try to be as open minded as possible. I'm not trying to be ignorant when I talk about this experience.

I just wanted to know if it's common for verbal autistic people to not talk to people that they asked to hang out with and initiate a relationship with. I had this autistic guy who had a "crush" on me. When he first approached me, he never introduced himself or asked anything about myself. He just asked for my number and Instagram. After that, he would always ask for us to hang out at our school's cafe but will not talk, until I talk to him. He would always run up on me if he saw me from a distance. For two weeks straight, he would always ask me if wanted to hang during the time I had Math class. I had to keep reminding him that I had class at the time he would ask me to hang out. I wasn't use to peers not talking to me and not finding ways to get to know me. I would ask him why he wouldn't talk, he said he didn't know and that he didn't have much to say. This was going on for a few months. I felt very confused, because it's really not hard to talk and socialize with people unless you're disabled or have anxiety, especially if you have known them for sometime.

Eventually, I asked if he had autism, because I felt like he wasn't being transparent. He informed me that he did have autism and that he had feelings. I didn't know what to believe because he went from not knowing why he doesn't speak to confirm he has autism. He also wasn't direct about his feelings about me. Also, told him that I didn't like him not talking to me when we hung out, and he kept doing and lied that he will do better. I wanted to be more understanding, but he was desperate for female interaction. I don't want to deal with men like that. I understand that autism affects social skills. I felt he wasn't open and honest with me. My apologies for the long paragraph.

After I told him that I don't want to do with him because he wasn't respecting my boundaries, he apologized. He also stated that he was desperate for female interaction and had irrational thoughts.

Please feel free to comment, but please be respectful. I'm trying to broaden my awareness on autism