r/AskAutism

Hola! Recientemente he tenido curiosidad por saber si la gente neurotipica (personas que no padecen ningún tipo de trastorno neurodivergente como vendría siendo el TDAH,TEA etc) saldría con una mujer (mi caso) o hombre con autismo?

Como contexto

No me gustan los lugares ruidosos ni llenos de gente ni fumo ni bebo porque no me gusta (lo que me impide conocer gente en ese ámbito) no me gustan los ruidos fuertes,

soy poco habladora normalmente pero me gusta que me saquen tema de conversación y de verdad que me esfuerzo en ser sociable,no sonrió mucho entonces suelo verme muy sería y mis temas de interes son bastante reducidos (animales,libros,anime,videojuegos, música)

aunque no tengo problemas con el contacto físico no me gusta que me toquen sin avisar y suelo ser muy tímida con los desconocidos,no entiendo las indirectas y las bromas de doble sentido (lo que me lleva a no saber ligar ni entender cuando alguien podría estar ligando conmigo)

El problema es que cuando cojo confianza suelo ser bastante directa y pegada (me gusta dar cariño a la gente que me importa) lo cual aveces me impide ver los límites físicos de la otra persona y necesito que me los digan

Mi duda es que como mujer autista me aterra de que por culpa de mis dificultades sociales mi problema con las multitudes y mi falta de capacidad para iniciar conversaciones me impidan conocer a alguien que vea más haya de mi trastorno

Tengo muchos defectos me fijo en los detalles soy directa y me cuesta mucho tener filtros suelo preferir cosas sencillas (un paseo por la playa caminar por el bosque encontrar un lugar nuevo donde estar tranquilos) y cuando me pongo a hacer cosas mi mundo desaparece (puedo pasar horas pintando y se me olvida responder mensajes)

Me encantaría poder decir que no tengo crisis ni me sobrestimulo pero sería mentir (otra cosa que no sé hacer porque mi cara es un libro abierto)

Como autista de grado 1 soy funcional y capaz de vivir sola pero sigo teniendo dificultades y tengo miedo de que no pueda gustarle a alguien porque no pueda ver más haya de una chica autista con dificultades sociales

A si que para la gente de reddit

Saldrías con una persona como yo?

Pdt:no es una descripción para buscar pareja es una duda real.

This shit gets to me a lot sometimes

My son is in the first year of high school. Although he says he loves it, I can see increasing evidence that he’s being bullied. I can also see that he’s not maintaining friendships that have been established and that those friends likely think he’s disinterested. He’s an introvert with high rejection sensitivity dysphoria and an only child. He has said that he wishes he was more of an extrovert and he ‘wants to want’ to make plans with other kids.
But it seems very painful for him to talk about friendship difficulties.
Over the years we’ve done a lot to provide him with opportunities to socialise but that hasn’t seemed to make the road any easier for him. In fact, it now seems to have put him in the company of boys who want to hurt him.
My question now; are ‘classes’ going to help, or will they encourage him to mask and exhaust himself pursuing relationships that will likely be unfulfilling anyway? Do we actively try all we can, or do we just let him be and help him accept who he is?
Thanks!

Hi friends,

I (31M) have been learning about my own autism and how it has shaped my life over the last several years. I have not “come out” to my parents yet, but looking back on my childhood it feels like it should have been incredibly obvious that I needed extra support due to neurodivergence.

I’m hoping to broach the subject with my father specifically in a fairly subtle manner, as I anticipate some considerable defensiveness and denial if I am direct about it. I feel fairly confident he is also autistic, but he is so deeply masking and steeped in ableist culture that this all will come as quite a shock to him.

I’m hoping to find a book, preferably either fiction or a memoir, that is from an autistic point of view or features an autistic protagonist without directly mentioning autism in the title or, ideally, in the first several chapters or the blurb on the back cover. I’m hoping to build some understanding and relatability with an autistic character before it is made known they are autistic.

Obviously a conversation with my dad directly is going to need to happen eventually, but our relationship is fraught enough that I’m hoping an outside resource will pave the way for a conversation that is actually productive and builds understanding without him putting up his guard or disengaging. Any other advice on strengthening our relationship, getting him into therapy, and unpacking past trauma with him would also be appreciated; I’m working with my therapist on these strategies as well.

I’ve considered The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, but I have some concerns about the author’s perspective as a neurotypical who hasn’t done a ton of research, plus the tension between the protagonist and his father might get the wrong message across? Please let me know if you’ve read this book and if you think it might be a good fit. I’m also shying away from books about nonverbal and “high needs” folks because the difficulties they face feel less relevant to someone who has passed as neurotypical for a lifetime.

Thanks for any and all advice, and good luck out there besties 💛

My son turned 5 on May 30th. I did not send him to school in August as I planned to homeschool. He has done minimal ABA as we didn’t see a benefit. He is very smart about his interests but we still struggle with numbers, abc & attention. He does not know how to write his name. Our dev pediatrician says we are going to probably look at AuDHD. He is very busy and stims a lot. He used to elope but does not now until today we went to visit the school he will go to. Gen ed classroom for now with a 504 in place and awaiting IEP. He is pretty okay unless he gets bored and during transitions which is why we did the 504 first to give extra time for transitions and such. He is potty trained minus stool sometimes as he deals with severe encopresis that we have been addressing for months. I’m worried I’m sending him
Too early due to his inability to stay still and follow directions well but my husband thinks he should go and that he adapts well. The new special education director seems to be pushing me to wait til next year but the old special education director who just left this year after 10 years there says to send him & that his teacher he was placed with is phenomenal and will be good for him. I’m just scared and my mom heart is so torn. Today he tried to run out of the main doors from my hand when leaving. We do have angel sense. I’m also worried since it’s a big class around 23 that he will be overwhelmed. It’s a long day 7:30 bell and 3:30 dismissal. He’s never done that and they don’t offer any transitional time/days. I’m torn because he wants to make friends but how do I know if he is ready?

I’d like some advice for my 14 yo autistic son. He encounters people every day including family who I know don’t like him. He knows too and we often joke about how so and so is a jerk. But I would love to hear some laungauge or thoughts on how you or your kids deal with the people in uour lives who have no tolerance for your autism. The ones where going no contact is not possible. How are we dealing with these folks?? Any thoughts would be much appreciated.

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A young person I know had a bottoming out, super depressed and hopeless return to high school.

At end of summer he had a very scary SI incident and subsequent week in a day program with mental health support. As an outsider, he seems like someone who has been through a physical trauma or illness. I imagine he needs a ton of rest and support and a slow return to "normalcy." But senior year has a ton of pressure to be planning for college and that whole process which is overwhelming on a good day.

Has anyone here had a very rough spell and recovered? What was the most helpful thing people around you did (or stopped doing)? Do you need a ton of sleep? Is exercise helpful? Is more exercise more helpful? When someone autistic is already overwhelmed and frustrated, it looks like asking questions and offering a menu of choices makes things worse. Is this your experience?

I feel like I am asking dumb questions. I hope I can make it clear to y'all and ultimately this kid, that I care, that the adults in his life care, and that we would love to figure out how to do better.

Thanks for any wisdom.