i wish my mom didn't move around so much.
i'm 18 and don't know which country i want to settle down in, both have cons and pro's, this is even harder now that i've started going to a church and actually made friends for the first time in my life.
anyone experiencing this or has experienced it?
Just today I remembered a village in the Himalayas that I really loved. It was a deodar forest. It was about a 23 mile (38 kilometer) hike one way to get there.
It was so quiet, and smelled so good, and I have such good memories of camping there. There was a little waterfall you could use as a shower in summer. Even though I didn't go there often, just knowing it was there when I wanted to go was such a great thing
Another major part of my life was in the NE India lowlands where there were forests of huge bamboo. I loved it so much. I planted timber bamboo here at my house in the USA over 20 years ago, so I have some tall bamboo here. It's nice enough that I don't miss the bamboo forests as much.
I live at a town in indonesia. At east java. I don't like norm of politeness, passive aggressiveness here. The indirect speech to maintain politeness. But i also say passive aggressive thing when i get offended. Bcs direct talk will escalate conflict. idk now bcs i've been social isolating, but when i was at school, it has "saving face" culture. I've read non violence communication too, but afraid of doing it irl especially when dealing with stranger, bcs afraid to be judged as weird. I did practice it before at home, but recently has stopped bcs i feel tired. I need more mental space to do it.
I perceive indirect speech as manipulative and a way to avoid accountability and honesty. I experienced more eased talking with germans. I have tck background in japan too, but also feel not quite liking japanese communication style of politeness, but can't be sure if it was genuine or performative. Indirect speech often irritate me, as i need extra brain work to guess what they meant actually.
Do you have strategy to deal indirect speech when you prefer direct talks, and living in indirect speech country?
As you’ve seen your kids grow up in your new country, how, if at all, have they changed and become more like the natives?
To what extent do you feel like they retained who they already were and just lived it in a new context?
If you feel your kids changed significantly, how did you feel about their being culturally different from you in some way?
We are considering moving to a new country that potentially offers many upsides, but there is an emotional flatness and dullness in the people that we fear seeping into the kids.
If you don’t mind, if you respond to this post could you say how old your kids were when you moved here, how long you’ve been here, and whether one of the parents is Danish (since to a certain extent the kids will already have a Danish cultural upbringing).
my accent always feels like im just mirroring whoever is around me and its making me conscious and like an imposter, anyone else get that? i accidentally do too much sometimes and i cant help it.