r/ThePatternApp

Are we allowed to drop user names to find friends on this subreddit?

i'm contemplating buying premium after checking the app after AGES and realizing it's changed for the better in a lot of ways. (in depth analysis, shared experiences (!!!), etc) i'm now curious if premium would be worth the price. so if you have it, is it worth it for you compared to the free version? and why?

I was recently in love with my best friend (we’re both women) and she is a Soulmate, according to the app. I say “recently in love with” because once I recognized my feelings and shared them with her, we went through a period of a few months where she didn’t share any of her own feelings with me (except to say that she loved me as more than a friend, but didn’t explain what that meant for her) and where I waited expectantly for something to happen between us. Our connection feels incredible but also fraught and potentially destructive to our friendship if we ever became romantic and it didn’t work out.

Just because she is my soulmate, doesn’t mean she is a) comfortable with her attraction toward me as another woman, b) comfortable with desire versus safety and predictability, and c) emotionally available.

Meanwhile, to get over her, I met a woman on an app and we’ve had an easy and intuitive connection so far. Our bond is Meaningful. It doesn’t feel as heavy and powerful as my Soulmate connection with my friend, but it does feel deep, intimate, fun, and clear to see. I’m beginning to rethink how I approach relationships as a result of meeting this woman.

I have typically been drawn to closed off, complicated Soulmate types but truly think these people might serve better as romantic lessons instead of stable and solid life partners. Has anyone else had this experience?

Scorpio man here! I married and had two beautiful children (boy and girl) with a Libra. At the time I think I took for granted what I had and the women that was by my side. I also had an addiction with alcohol and we did it a lot together. Needless to say, by the time I decided to get help, she was on her way out. She filed for divorce and I went into treatment. Fast forward 4 years and I’m still the single dad or two. My kids are my world! I’ve learned to be happy without alcohol. She moved on and got engaged, moved away, had a little boy with said guy. 3 years later (14 months ago) them two broke up, she then got her own place and we were able to start co parenting the way we always should’ve. Well 7 months ago she told me and our kids about another new guy she was seeing and within 2 months she was pregnant by him. Seems she just moves extremely fast and got pregnant really quick by both guys. As much as I hate to say it, even after all that’s happened, I still love the girl and think about her all the time. But I’ve kept my focus on my two beautiful children and stayed single, just trying to better my life for myself and the kids. Hopefully I do meet the right one someday because it’s starting to feel like I won’t. Lol turning 36 in Nov. time flies and I don’t understand why my hearts still so set on her.