r/WhatShouldIDoWithIt

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This is a throw away acc that I don't want traced be to me. Ill try to respond as soon as I can. Sorry if this explanation seems repetitive.

I have a childhood friend (F 25) and she has been dating this guy (M 29) that the friend group has grown to hate over time. She initially did not like him since she didn't know him on a personal level.

I will clarify:

- I am married

- I have other "girl" friends that believe she should leave him

- I was initially happy for her relationship and now I'm concerned for her happines

- As conservative it may seem, we are all religious in this scenario and believe in marriage before intercourse

- I have a feeling she felt pressured into starting a relationship with him due to the religion and the people apart of it spreading rumors about them doing something scandalous

A little bit of back story, he was always know as a laid back, go with the flow type of person. He always liked to say and portray himself as a ladies man, irresistible, high end or has class to all his guy friends. He would like to keep all his "situationships" low-key, so unless you were part of the guy friend group you would never know. He lives with his uncle's family, his parents aren't in the same sate, he owns a old work truck, and essentially has never had any real "adult" financial burden that helps you learn and mature. The way that his guy friends say the things he has said about women is typical and disgusting. Ever since he has been in a relationship with my friend he has been showing his true colors.

He has admitted to his cousin that he does not like me at all as a friend of his girlfriend, and word has gone around about his distaste for me. He has told my friend that she pays too much attention to me at times and that it is not her burden to cater to me when "my husband is not with me". He always calls her everyday and every minute even when nothing is being said on call. He constantly manipulates, guilt trips, gas lights, and puts my friend in uncomfortable situations/positions as long as he gets the outcome ge wants. She has cried to me several times venting about how she has to completely explode, break down, and cry to make him understand her or to find some kind of compromise over small insignificant issues that he blows out of proportion. It hurts me to see her so upset and think she is insane for having an opinion and then made believe she exaggerated.

My friend acts like she has pink tinted glasses on and excuses most of his behavior no matter how terrible he makes her feel. I'm not the most amazing friend in the world I admit it, but I recently found some more concerning information about her boyfriend that has rubbed me the wrong way.

One of his old close friends mentioned this was prior to the relationship with my friend.

He revealed that my friends boyfriend admitted to having a crush on a married woman with a child and would smack talk the husband claiming he was not man enough to to have a woman like that and that he would get with her.

He has been asked on multiple occasions how long until he proposes or he seems himself getting married to my friend. The response I have personally heard was that he was not sure, and he has given everyone else a different response of 3 or more years. Which in the religious group a long relationship that does not lead to marriage is pointless and leads to temptation to sin.

Lastly, I had a one on one convo with my friend genuinely asking her if she thinks this is the one and if she believes she will be really happy with him after a few months into the relationship. I told her before asking that i was concerned for her happines since I began to realize what kind of a man child he turned out to be. She told she has grown to really like him and she is happy.

I really don't know how to bring this up to her without sounding like a bad friend or someone who's jealous of her happines. I don't want her to hate me but if that's the outcome I'll accept it. Every information i found out about this man eats me alive as I watch her belive his every word. Plz help, should I also tell her about this or is it not worth bringing it up anymore?

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My dad recently passed away (well I guess not so recent as it's been just over a year though it doesn't feel like it to me) but in his passing he left me with his enormous collection of that he collected through his life but also constantly would purchase so there's more newer tools than there is older tools.
But I'm talking about a collection that's significantly larger than you'd find in a typical workshop's worth of stuff.

The collection covers pretty much every trade you can think of — plumbing, electrical, general construction/building, welding, woodworking, tile work, etc.

There are both hand tools and power tools, like table saws, tile saws, many many grinder tools that are different sizes, hole saws and more attachments than I've been able to count yet,

along with all of the smaller stuff that typically goes along with tools like boxes of different screws and nails, nuts and bolts, drill/driver bits, blades, staples, tape measures, accessories, hardware, all types of plumbing materials like pipes and fitters and joints plus the tools to go with.

Not to mention an entire outside shed full of brand new wood like 2x4 /2x8/ etc plus large sheets of wood at different thicknesses/types of wood material.

Theres multi panels of new sheet rock, multiple large new rolls of pink insulation, all types of tool boxes and bags, and multiple workbenches that range in sizes from small up to so massive it consumes half of the two car garage

There's a bunch of things I don't even know the proper names for yet or what they even do and I could go on and on listing more and more but I think you get the point.

So I obviously don't work in any type of trade and so for most of the tools and materials I won't use because I don't know how to use.... so I'm here trying to figure out the smartest way to go about liquidating most of it...

Ideally I'm wanting to get rid of large portions of it together rather than spending months listing every item individually. I'm a woman who lives alone, the thought of selling everything one piece at a time having to meet with strangers at my house when trying to sell the larger things just doesn't sit well with me

I'm not looking to advertise the collection here. I'm really looking for advice from people who have either bought/sold large tool collections or work in the trades and know what these things are actually worth.

If you've dealt with a similar situation where you inherited a large collection, what did you do?

I'm in North Carolina if that info may be useful to anyone who may be able to help direct me with where to go or look.

I appreciate any advice as I'm going at this 100% on my own and to say I'm overwhelmed would be an understatement

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Hi, I’m not a jealous person—or at least, I thought I wasn’t.

I’m currently in a serious and happy relationship with my girlfriend (F29).

Early in our relationship, she told me that she was still talking to someone she had matched with on a dating app. She said it was just friendly conversation and that she only gave him dry replies. She had also shared her social media with him, and at the time, I was okay with it.

Now, there’s another guy she previously matched with on a dating app who has started messaging her through social media because he is going to our city. He knows she’s in a relationship, but he still sends her racy and suggestive messages.

She told him that she has a boyfriend and to end his unsolicited requests go meet her, she told him she would only meet him if I were with them. The guy replied, “No thanks, Im not s cuck”

I’m not comfortable having this guy still connected to her on social media, especially considering that he knows she’s in a relationship and continues to flirt with her. I asked her if she could block him, but she initially told me she wouldn’t.

She said she wants to “leave something for herself.” For context, her previous boyfriend cheated on her, and she gave everything to that relationship. Because of that experience, she says she wants to keep something for herself this time around.

She told me that she has already set a boundary with these guys: she won’t respond to their sexual or suggestive messages, and I appreciate and respect that. However, I’m still not at peace with the situation because, from my perspective, these guys don’t respect the boundaries of our relationship.

I told her that my mental peace is important to me and that I’m genuinely uncomfortable with her maintaining a connection with people who have romantic or sexual intentions toward her.

She eventually blocked them because of my explanation about my mental peace.

Now, for the third time, there’s another guy she previously matched with on a dating app. She told me that they were just friends and that nothing ever happened between them. They’re still connected on social media and occasionally exchange memes, but there’s no flirting or anything sexual between them.

They actually met before and clicked because they share similar hobbies. Unlike the previous guys, there were no nudes exchanged and no physical intimacy between them.

This guy currently lives far away but will be returning to our city next week. He asked her if they could meet for coffee, and she said yes.

Honestly, I don’t want them to meet, but I also don’t want to be controlling or tell her who she can and cannot see. What scares me is the possibility that they might meet in person again, reconnect, and realize there’s still some kind of chemistry or “spark” between them.

I know that this fear might be coming from my own insecurity, and I don’t want to make decisions for her based solely on that. At the same time, I can’t pretend that the idea of them meeting doesn’t bother me.

Now I’m wondering: Am I being unreasonable or controlling by asking her to block these guys, or is this a reasonable boundary to have in a relationship?

I’m not asking her to cut off normal male friends. My issue is specifically with guys she met through dating apps who still flirt with her and send suggestive messages despite knowing she has a boyfriend.