r/WomenAdvise

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some honest perspective from the guys here. My partner (M) and I have been together for two years. Lately, we’ve been getting into massive arguments about what I wear, and I’m starting to feel suffocated.

Today, it hit 85 degrees outside. We were getting ready to leave the house to go do some delivery driving together, and I put on a standard summer outfit: a basic tube top and biker shorts. As we were walking out the door, he stopped me and said my outfit was "too revealing." Things got heated, and I ended up just leaving the house on my own to get some space. He later left me a voicemail saying his exact issue is that I’m not “leaving things up to people’s imagination.” This isn't an isolated incident. A while ago, I wore a crop top paired with high-waisted, long jeans. Even though my torso was barely showing and I literally carried a cardigan with me in the summer heat just to keep the peace, he still made a massive fuss about it. He claims that by dressing like this, I am "putting him in uncomfortable situations" when we are out in public.

Here is the thing: neither of us has the money to support a completely new wardrobe for me right now. I haven't purchased a single new piece of clothing since the very start of our two-year relationship. These are the clothes I have always owned and worn.

I’m literally just trying to stay cool and comfortable while working in hot weather. I’m not trying to invite attention, but he acts like my body belongs under lock and key. Guys, am I actually putting him in a bad spot here, or is this deep-seated insecurity on his part? How would you view this if your girlfriend was just dressing for the weather?

Outfit : https://imgur.com/a/ZVcEcRC

Why I’m doing this

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how different my experience with IC and endometriosis would have been if I had seen more honest and encouraging stories from women who actually understood what this felt like.

At one point, my symptoms were so bad that I genuinely didn’t think I was going to make it through it, and one of the hardest parts was feeling completely alone in it.

So now, I decided to ditch my job and started school to become a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner specifically for women with IC and Endo. I know how many women are silently carrying this kind of pain and don’t feel seen or understood.

What I’m collecting
I’m starting to collect real stories and reflections from women with IC, endometriosis, chronic pelvic pain, or related experiences, especially things like:
- what you wish you had known earlier
- what helped you emotionally
- what you’d say to someone currently struggling

I am doing this to create a community collection of stories and to help spread awareness for what we all go through. Stories can be anonymous or shared with a first name.

Link
If you’d like to share your story privately, here’s the form:
link to share your story