r/WomenAdvise

Hello!
I don't know how to deal with this type of things. But first let me say sorry in advance because of my English (I'm not native).
So what's happening right now is that my boyfriend started to have doubts about his looks. Which is weird cuz he always accepted the way he was, and sometimes he even love it. But a few weeks ago, he started to ask me if I still find him attractive. I said yes ofc, because I'm really in love with him, and for me he is the most beautiful person in the world. And maybe thats the problem, maybe he changed something in him that I can't really notice if it makes him less attractive or not.
And sadly it's not just a drama that fades away after a few days. He seems to be really sad about it, it dropped the confidence he used to have, like drastically... I hate seeing him like this, and feel like I'm useless cuz I can't do anything about it. Im so desperate that I'm even considering posting his photo all over Reddit so I can get some feedback from other people, I a way that maybe they can spot something that I'm missing, because I really find my boyfriend attractive, but I'm up to do what it takes. If you recommend doing the photo thing I will ask his permission ofc. Any other advice is appreciate it. Thank you so much for your attention!!

About a few months ago, I(19f) noticed that whenever my cycle would arrive, so would small red bumps on my breast. I’m kind of a hypochondriac so when I asked my mom, she told me not to worry about it and that it’s probably just my hormones changing. These rashes/bumps are itchy and only show up on my left breast. They don’t really get in the way, but they do stress me out. Also, sometimes it is coupled with a pain inside my breast, but sometimes my breasts are tender during my period and it almost always happens during my period period. They also usually go away as well, but resurface when my cycle comes around again.

Also to give context, I’m a black woman and it’s been hard to find good representation and images of what I could possibly have. Right now I am thinking mastitis or inflammatory breast cancer. I know I shouldn’t stress myself out too much but in my family I always get check ups and appointments because it’s very hard to calm me down when I believe that there’s something wrong with me.

I just came on here to ask any other black or brown women if they’ve had any of these symptoms and what those symptoms turned out to be before I spend a band trying to figure it out.

I shaved my bikini area and went to a campground pool with my kids and took a dip not more than my waist.

2 days later I felt like I had cut myself shaving on my left vagina lip to my thigh. I didn’t think much of it because I had been hiking and I did check for ticks but thought maybe I got a little poison ivy?

Two days later I had pain in my lymph nodes in my groin only on that side and I fever with flu like symptoms. I went to my primary and she said it was probably a bartholin cyst but not big enough to do anything about, just bath, hot compress and topical antibiotics.

The next night was brutal I was so fever raged the blankets hurt my body. By the morning my entire left side of my vagina was like someone had overstuffed it like a sausage and I was in extreme pain.

I called my primary and she prescribed me oral antibiotics and said to go to urgent care to get it lanced if it got worse. I read a lot of things online about how painful that was and decided to self medicate at home with epson salt, hot rice in a sock and popping Tylenol rapid release and ibuprofen.

That was Friday. I managed over the weekend and the swelling went down but it left abrasions where my skin had stretched so much it was cracking and the baths were making the skin peel away.

I went to urgent care where they tried to give me lidocaine, that was the worst pain I’ve ever been in in my life. I’ve given birth, broken bones, nothing touched that pain. They then tried to lance it afterwards and I almost passed out. They didn’t get anything out of it.

I now have no skin on that side of my vagina, extreme anxiety about getting it treated again and worry I’ve got MRSA or staph instead. Any advice? I have an apt at women’s health in 2 days and one with my primary tomorrow but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Okay so I need help. Me and my husband have been struggling with anything related to sex. I’ve had two kids under two my youngest is 5 m old. I’m a very clingy touchy feeling person. I’m a book reader. I want more spice action.

My husband in our whole relationship hasn’t been able to go very long he goes way before me. And also has a lot less interest in sex than me. He says he used to Master b8 so often and for so long that he got sick of it but now that he has me he wants to be able to but needs me to be patient.

He isn’t very interested and open to foreplay. So I hardly ever get satisfied. And am always left feeling frustrated and tense that just stack and makes me want sex ALL the time.

And recently I’ve been going through a period where every single little thing my husband does make me want to just climb him like a tree. I want to fuck him all the time. And I want such aggressive passionate sex it’s disturbing.

Just some more information, he works two weeks on one week off so very little time spent.

I also feel guilty if I sit there and orgasm myself when he’s gone. He can go long periods of time without needing to get off while I’m stuck feeling like I’m going to explode and want to fuck all the time. I’m going crazy and am extremely confused frustrated and I’m trying to learn how to be a supportive partner but don’t know how to be content when I’m not satisfied and constantly have this tension of need and desire.

Hi everyone,
I’m Cookie, a 45-year-old woman from Australia and I’ve joined Reddit looking to connect with other women who have lived experience with PMDD, surgical menopause and women’s health.
A little about me: I have ADHD, (pre diagnosed) love yoga and Pilates, work as an executive leader in financial services, and I’m also a Marriage Celebrant. Like many women, I wear a lot of hats and spend a lot of time looking after everyone else.
I had a total abdominal hysterectomy 2 years ago due to Adenomyosis and balanced PMDD with SSRIs until my pre diagnosis of ADHD and now treating with a magical herbal concoction from my Natropath and one pump of Estrogel for my perimenopause.
After a recent trip to India I came back with terrible abdominal pain and discovered a cyst growing rapidly on my left ovary.
My father is also in stage 4 of his prostate cancer journey and discovered BRCA2 positive.
Last week I had surgery to remove both ovaries and be tested for BRCA2. During surgery, they also found and removed adhesions, which I wasn’t expecting.
Right now I’m recovering physically and emotionally. I’ve got the shoulder pain from the gas, pelvic discomfort, numb emotional feeling and a head cold courtesy of my daughter, and lots of questions about what comes next.
I’d love to hear from women who have:
• Had an oophorectomy for PMDD/BRCA2
• Experienced surgical menopause
• Stayed on or adjusted HRT afterwards
• Found unexpected changes (good or bad) after surgery
What surprised you most during recovery?
Thanks for having me here. Looking forward to learning from your experiences and hopefully supporting others along the way.