r/ageregression

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Something I’ve noticed as a nonbinary little is how often people will ask your gender, get the answer “nonbinary” or “neither,” and then keep pressing for assigned sex at birth anyway. And honestly, it gets exhausting.

Maybe this is partly a US culture thing and I’m curious if nonbinary littles from other places experience it differently. I can understand if sometimes there’s a language barrier or cultural misunderstanding involved. But even then, the respect part still matters. If someone already answered your question, pushing for a “more specific” answer can make it feel like their identity wasn’t accepted in the first place.

And personally, if someone is that worried about what’s in my pants, whether those pants are overalls, a skirt, or giant puffy pajama pants, that starts feeling uncomfortable really fast. You shouldn’t need to know a child’s gender to care about them in a caregiving dynamic. If anatomy matters that heavily to someone in a non-romantic caregiving space, it can come across as creepy instead of caring.

Being a caregiver also does not automatically mean romance, attraction, or sexual expectations should be attached to the relationship. I think that’s where a lot of the gray area between age regression and age play starts getting blurred online, because not everyone enters these spaces for the same reasons.

When I’m little, I’m not worried about whether my cg is attracted to me. I’m worried they’ll think I’m weird for still needing comfort items as an adult, like a pacifier, stuffed animals, routines, cartoons, or in some cases diapers. And honestly, diapers personally gross me out for myself. But you don’t see me shaming regressors who need them or saying they can’t be my friend because of it. I don’t need to know whether someone is wearing one to care about them as a person. All I need to know is: “Hey, I’m little too and I wanna be your friend.”

I apply that same mindset to caregivers. A caregiver should care about making a little feel safe, understood, comforted, and accepted. Not hyperfocus on categorizing them.

For caregivers who accidentally do this, I genuinely don’t think all of you mean harm. But I do think it’s important to stop and ask yourself why you need that information so badly if the little themselves clearly doesn’t connect their regression to gender. Some littles strongly identify with gendered roles in little space, and that’s valid. But a lot of us don’t. For some of us, little space is about emotional safety, not masculinity or femininity.

Putting too much importance onto labels is what can hurt relationships in the long run, because gender is a social construct with a ton of personal nuance behind it. Every individual experiences themselves differently. If you actually care about someone, you should be learning them, not trying to sort them into the closest matching preset box.

I thinks triangles taste the bestest! 😋

I so happiii i love ittt

I AM OBSESSED!!! I really am— omg look AT HER?!! She’s SPARKLY even!!!! Omg I’ve never been so so in love with a toy… to be fair it isn’t even a toy cuz it seems a bit fragile… BUT PERFECT FOR CUDDLES HEHEHHEHE UGHHH I LOVE HER 😭😭😭

I dunno what to name her tho… I though about Lilac? Noodles was an option too lol cuz she has wriggly limbs hehe

Mph anyway… bye bye!!!! 🩷🫧🐶

I made noodlezzzz!!! N tea heh I waz a bit messy cuz I dropped sugar evrywer uh ohhhh 😝 BUT LOOK MI NEW SPOON!!! Prettiiii!!

Heh it waz yum yum!! 😋 I ate evrythin !!!

I’ve had so many terrible, traumatizing experiences as of late regarding needing a safe trusted person not to sexualize my regression. It’s taken me 6 years for that special person to find me. I know how hard it is not having a CG or a trusted person who can keep you safe when small. But I finally found her, and after I confessed to my girlfriend that I am an age regressor, she proudly took upon herself to be in a “Mama” role for me when regressed. I didn’t even need to ask her. She didn’t and doesn’t force me to call her anything, do anything I shouldn’t, and she doesn’t sexualize me. I’m just… so very grateful for her. ily harvey 🥺❤️🦋❤️🦋

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Fluttershy and pinkie iz my fav