r/badpeoplestories

The Mental Health, Wellbeing and Lived Experiences Study

 

Theresia Bedard, a PhD candidate at Lakehead University that is working with Dr. Beth Visser, is seeking participants for her dissertation project.

 

In this study we are examining the lived experiences of people who have experience or victimization from an individual with high psychopathic traits. We are seeking anyone that has this lived experience, whether the perpetrator was or is a spouse, family member, partner, co-worker, friend, acquaintance, neighbour or stranger. We are seeking the lived experiences of men, women, and gender-diverse individuals to share your story.

 

Our research consists of two studies. In the first study, you will complete questionnaires related to your victimization experience from the individual with high psychopathic traits, the potential warning signs, victimization history (e.g., prior physical or sexual abuse), and the impact the experience had on you. Once you finish the survey, you will be invited to participate in the second study (optional), which will consist of 12 questions requiring a written response regarding your lived experience with the individual with high psychopathic traits. If you decide to participate in study 2, please be aware that you will be required to provide us with your email to access it, and you may wish to use an email account that only you have access to.

 

Please be advised that whether you choose to participate in the study, withdraw, or skip questions you do not want to answer, that you acknowledge that answering some of these questions may be emotionally taxing on you. Despite the potential for an emotional toll the survey questions have, you may find the process of sharing your experience is therapeutic for you. In addition to the resources we provide, you may want to consider following-up with a counsellor for further support.

 

You are also encouraged to have your own snacks and drinks while you take the survey, and be aware that they are estimated to take 45 minutes to complete.

 

If you are interested in participating and would like to read or find out more about it, click here to access the survey:

https://lakeheadhbs.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_bKEq1vOVdBJMrjw

So I left my POS abusive husband on July 1st with a destroyed nervous system and moved into an apartment on the main floor of a house, craving peace and healing.

On August 1st a couple with a kid and a dog moved onto the top two floors, and from sunup to well past sundown they stomp, scream, slam doors and bark, and I can hear their conversations through the complete lack of a sound barrier. Twice now their dog has barked nonstop for more than seven hours straight in one day.

My landlady has lied to me and brushed off my totally reasonable and polite requests that she does SOMETHING.

Bylaw will do nothing.

I left said neighbours a bottle of wine when they first moved in and a note saying welcome, and just a heads up about the lack of sound proofing. They ignored both the gesture (no "thank you") and the request.

I have texted them.

I have spoken to them in person.

I have decided to move out. I shouldn't have to, my stress is beyond reason, but this is bullshit.

Being a woman who has attracted abusers all her life, I obviously have had a hard time standing up for myself in the past. But I am extremely proud to share that in the past couple days I've made a playlist consisting of exceptionally harsh, annoying, grating, obnoxious music and am playing it at full volume when they get extra loud from my speaker on top of the kitchen cupboards, which is as close to the ceiling as I can get it.

So far the playlist consists of Easy Street (the version from The Walking Dead), Raining Blood by Slayer, and Tiptoe Through the Tulips by Tiny Tim.

I'm open to further suggestions. 🔥