Feeling like my little is only interested in expensive get togethers. Should I get rematched?
Hey guys,
I was thinking my connection was going alright, it’s still fairly new. I was paired with a 14 year old and we’ve done things like go on hikes, and I took her to a popular mall around us, and a color me mine.
Though out the past month (maybe two months?) I’ve been trying to schedule a more relaxed hang, something that doesn’t cost me too much money. Going to the nearby mall, taking her to a nearby ramen spot, doing tarot in the park with a charcuterie since she voiced interest in doing that, going to the gym together since she had also voiced interest.
We had planned three different times to go out with her actual older sister and her older sisters big, for dinner and walking around a popular shopping area. The first two times the other “big” canceled last minute, and the last time the girls canceled last minute.
She’s completely ignored all of the attempts I’ve made to plan something with her- and then out of the blue texts me and says we should go to a concert together to see an artist she likes.
I’m not sure if it’s just her age but these experiences paired with the fact the person who matched us literally told me essentially that she “she tries to get gifts out of her bigs” has me feeling a bit weird. From what I’ve gathered, her mom is usually too busy to drive her around places around the city so I get the feeling she’s using me to go to cool places her mom isn’t able to take her to- as opposed to needing or wanting mentorship or a supportive adult in her life. Although yes, all kids need that.
I don’t have a bunch of money to blow. I told the match supervisor my issues with her not responding, and they said they would reach out on their end, but they haven’t gotten back to me.
Not really sure how to respond to my littles text, was kind of hoping to hear back from BBBS before.
Thinking it might be better to be paired with someone else, but not sure. What do you guys think?