r/bileductcancer

My dad (56) was just diagnosed with stage 4 and im struggling. It feels so unfair. My dad went through kidney failure about 10 years ago and he came out on top after a kidney transplant. That should be more than enough but now this. And the oncologist explained that him being a kidney transplant patient oats basically just going to make this harder because of all the risks between infections and meds. He's also diabetic which is another stroke because the steroids increase the sugar.

It just feels like everything it's fighting against us here. Im putting on a brave face for my dad. I have an almost 2 year old who he loves and wants to see grow up and the thought that likely isn't going to happen is killing me.

This is all new as we just learned 2 days ago. We have hope chemo will work but I fear I also need to prepare myself.

I just found this sub and have read most of the recent threads. The information helps but also hurts my heart reading everyone's stories. I just wanted to vent to others who understand and so I can continue to put on a brave face for my dad and my family.

My heart goes out to everyone who is dealing with this ❤️

Someone close to me has been diagnosed as of yesterday. He went in with jaundice, grey stool, and pain a week ago and imaging confirmed suspicions. I believe it hasn’t spread but I don’t know too many details yet. His wife is 30 weeks pregnant with their second baby. I feel absolutely sick to my stomach. How do I support him and others? What should we be asking? Is there hope?

I don’t know if I should even be writing this here, but I lost my mom to this disease in November and Syd continues to show up on my TikTok FYP. I know she is remaining positive, so I try hard not to comment on her posts, but I guess I’m looking for others who have lost a loved one to cholangiocarcinoma who might understand how I feel.

I don’t really like seeing her content, or other creators content, but I can’t look away. The way social media algorithms work, they just keep pushing me more and more of this content, but all it does is make me relive the end of my mom’s life. It makes me so sad, and then I read the comments and there are so many people who have no idea what they’re talking about and it makes me so mad.

I know I’m still in the anger side of grief, but I just can’t stop. My mom basically had me make all of her medical decisions for her after she was diagnosed because she was paralyzed by indecision and I’ve spent months wondering if I made the wrong decisions and if she’d still be here if I’d made different ones.

Anyway, I’m just trauma dumping and not wanting to comment anything negative or speculate on her videos, but her most recent content has just left me in tears.

My dad just got diagnosed with stage two 4 days ago. He lives in Korea and I in the UK so I’m planning to travel as soon as I get a replacement of my tenancy.

The operation date is 15th June. My mum is following the best diet for him.
But I’m worried about his age and his negative attitude which is probably the cause of the cancer.

Also I’m worried about high recurring rates.

Please share with me any tips. Just joined to find a story of someone who has beaten damn this nasty cancer.