r/butch

So I recently had two very sweet dates with a girl I met on hinge. I’m 41 masc, she’s 35 femme. The dates seemed to have gone well and I was in her city only for the next few days, and I asked her mildly in person if she wanted to stay in touch after I head back to India after a long travel. She said yes ecstatically. After I reached home, I thought I should make it clear that I meant romantically, and you can see her answer in the grey chat, she doesn’t have romantic feelings for me.

I totally get that and respect it so I rested my case and ended the conversation. She later pinged again if I was sure I don’t wanna be friends because she really liked hanging out with me. I politely declined saying it will get messy.

Then my friends told me I had put pressure on the girl with my message just after two dates. Since I don’t even live in her country and we have just met twice, there was no harm in just being friends and see how it goes without adding pressure of “I won’t see other people in that case”.

What would you’ve done?

P.S. I kinda do like her and I’ve asked someone out after 2 years. It feels like I’ve done something wrong already!