r/capetownsingles

I'm 47, living in Mitchell's Plain, and at the tail end of a divorce that should be completed soon. I'm also a dad with custody of my preteen daughter, so my life has responsibilities and routines built into it.

But I miss female company. Quite a lot, actually.

I miss the playfulness between a man and a woman who enjoy each other. Flirting. Having a drink together. Talking nonsense and laughing. A message during the day that makes you smile. Going somewhere occasionally, or doing absolutely nothing together on a lazy Saturday afternoon and being perfectly content with that.

I'm not going to write a shopping list of what you must look like, what you must earn, what your life must look like, or decide in advance exactly what this has to become. I think I did too much of that before.

I'm looking for a woman somewhere reasonably within my orbit who would also enjoy having a man in hers. We can talk first, see whether we actually enjoy each other, and let reality do some of the deciding.

I'm affectionate, curious, sometimes serious, sometimes ridiculous, and my life is fairly grounded around being a dad and working from home. I enjoy a drink, good conversation and people I can be unguarded and playful around.

I'm not looking for someone to rescue me from my life, nor am I auditioning immediately for a new wife. I'd just really like to meet someone and discover what is there without demanding that we know the answer beforehand.

If any of that sounds familiar, say hello. Tell me a little about yourself and what you miss having in your life.

Hey everyone 👋

So I thought I'd put myself out there and see what happens.

I'm a 40-year-old guy from Cape Town, born and raised. I've never really had a proper long-term serious relationship — a few situationships along the way, but nothing that turned into the real thing. No kids and no crazy exes lurking in the background either 😂

I work as a technician in the oil and gas industry, although recently my job has moved more towards a factory/office management role.

I'm about 1.8m tall, fairly slender... although I've started developing a small 40-year-old belly, so there's that 😂

I'm a bit of a mixture when it comes to what I enjoy. I'm a gamer and definitely a bit of a nerd at heart — I love Pokémon, board games and card games. But I also really enjoy getting outdoors, hiking, camping, exploring new places and just being out in nature. I'm a big animal lover too.

I'm also someone who can happily spend an evening watching a good documentary, and recently I've gotten back into reading again, which I'm really enjoying.

I'm a 420 enthusiast and pretty relaxed about it, but I'm not much of a drinker. Alcohol has just never really been my thing.

As for why I'm here, I'd genuinely like to meet someone to share life with. Someone relaxed, down to earth, kind, and just a nice person to be around. Someone I can laugh with, go exploring with, have lazy days with, talk nonsense with and eventually build something meaningful with.

I don't really have a long checklist of what someone needs to be. I'd rather meet someone, get to know each other and see if there's a connection.

So yeah... that's me putting myself out there 😅 If any of this sounds like your kind of person, feel free to say hello.