r/ciyaalsomali

I want relive summer of 2025 and 2016 I had so much fun and met great people. How about you guys? I Only want relive summer 2025 for a one reason 😂😂😂💅🏽

I’ve been talking to a potential for a couple months and I’m struggling to figure out if we’re emotionally compatible.
On paper he’s honestly great. He has a stable career, good family, deen-oriented, goes to the masjid/halaqas, works out. He’s also very introverted and keeps to himself.
But socially/emotionally I feel a disconnect sometimes. He doesn’t really pick up on emotional cues or unspoken things, and he can come across a little self-centered or unaware without intending to. Personality-wise he’s quirky and awkward at times. Nothing terrible, but sometimes I cringe a little lol.Another thing is that early on he told me he doesn’t believe in buying flowers/gifts or doing romantic gestures. In his mind, pursuing a woman is basically taking her on dates and paying for them. The issue is I I want emotional closeness. I want to feel pursued, considered, emotionally supported, surprised with flowers sometimes, checked on emotionally, etc. I want a husband who is emotionally available and naturally thoughtful.Part of me wonders if he might be neurodivergent/high-functioning autistic because of the social unawareness and rigid/thinking style. But I also don’t want to unfairly label him. Would it be wrong to bring up my emotional needs directly and see if he’s willing/capable of meeting them? Or am I ignoring compatibility issues that will become much bigger in marriage?

Omggg I need people to discuss this with. istaahil dheeman has completely lost it. Today, she has done a pregnancy test in the bathroom in a tik tok live showing her bu** and peeing in a cup. The day before she got beaten by her man because she cursed badly out a certain tribe and she claimed a video that was recorded of S*x as her😭😭😭…

Hey guys, isthaail dheeman and her man are back together he posted her hugging in tik tok. after he beat her up many times and leaked a S*x video of her. I knew those two toxic can’t never be separated. Omgggg I can’t stop talking about them because this is an interesting case in our Somali community😭😭😭🥹🥹

She just asked me if I wanted a snack after her shift 🥺 she might be the one yall 🤞🏾🤞🏾

I got cold sore from a fucking hair salon because the thread was in her mouth while she was threading my face. She smelled like shit. I am devastated. I have to check the STD box for the rest of my life. This woman’s saliva was all over my face. F this, I am so scared. I live in an Arab country and herpes infection is a stigma.

I am stupid and dumb af, I know.

I joined one of those anonymous Discord dating servers and this might be the most dangerous form of dating ever 😭
You’re talking to someone for 3 hours thinking “wow she’s literally my type” just to realize y’all have completely different vibes once pictures drop 💀

It’s basically emotional gambling 🤣

One minute you’re planning matching outfits in your head, next minute you’re staring at the screen like “ah… so personality really is what matters” 😭 waa yaab

Idk if I’m bored or actually interested 🤷‍♀️. Last night I was thinking about this guy I recently chatted with he wasn’t bad or anything. The thing is he was talking about his brother, and the brother is my type to a T 😭. I started asking more questions about him and things got awkward 😬. Now I’m confused because the first guy seems fine, but I want to know more about the brother. Should I ask? Aaaaaa idk what to do 😩

Might delete because this feels too identifiable lol (hence throwaway account). I started getting to know a guy last October. Both diaspora and late 20s. We texted daily and called often for 3.5 months, went on in person dates like twice a month, aligned on marriage and values, and by the second month already agreed to introduce families after Ramadan.

Then in late January, I posted a picture with my third cousin on my story. He saw it, recognized her, asked me about relation to her. He said he was also related to her, and connected the dots that we were distantly related and from the same tribe. The next day he called me sounding very serious and ended things because he was uncomfortable and grossed out with any relation at all or being from the same tribe. I was blindsided, embarrassed, and honestly pretty hurt. He had never once mentioned caring about tribes before. The "breakup" hit hard during Ramadan but by April I had fully moved on, gave up hope on us rekindling anything, deleted our messages, and removed him off socials.

Since beginning of this month he has been trying to get back in contact. Like attempting to follow me again and even asking my cousin about me. I ignored all of it. Then just recently he sent a long voice note apology saying he was being immature, that we are wayyyyy distantly related then he thought about it and being from the same tribe is actually not weird, and that he wants to talk again.

Part of me feels validated and but I don't know if it's because I still have feelings for him or if it's because of the ego boost. The other part is bitter and not very trusting. I feel conflicted, I don't know if I should hear him out or leave things alone.

Sonnet 4.6

Help y’all. I need to get serious and lock in but for some reason I can’t. I always chicken out and self sabotage and destroy all my good relationships. I have a man I actually really like now and I fear I might repeat the same pattern and end things with him as I have done in the past.How do I fix this?

How do you make your summer fun?

For me, I make my summer fun in America by going to Weddings, events, traveling, and hanging out with friends. But what’s a way to make your summer more fun?