r/crossdresscommunity

Hello! Just a giddy newcomer here, wanting to share their story.

I recently allowed myself to crossdress for the first time. It was a simple white sundress that I pulled from my spouses side of the closet. It barely fit. But when I put it on, everything immediately changed. This immediate blissful rush. I just felt like me. The real me, not the usual boy filled with depression and regret. Just standing there, in front of the mirror, twirling in my sundress, feeling a happiness I've never felt before. Smiling ear to ear. Absolutely wonderful.

Looking backwards, this subtle urge to wear women's clothing has always been there. I remember browsing the women's side of the catalog as a child, feeling the titillating rush come over me at the thought of wearing the clothes. Quickly shut down by taboo fears, anxiety, and not wanting to be different or cause problems. Ultimately, I repressed it, and chalked it up to interest in women, instead of being a woman.

Anyway, now I'm here. I put on the dress, and I'm completely obsessed. Yet, I have zero idea what to do next. I want to feel beautiful. But, I have no idea how to start. I've been searching online but feel like I'm going in circles. I'm hoping someone here can point me in the right direction.

Where can I learn how to put on makeup properly? Where can I shop for clothes (safely) and experiment? Can I buy a wig? Is that allowed? I'll keep searching online, but I would love to chat with anyone that can point me in the right direction.

Taylor ❤️

Been married 10 years and recently been wanting to wear my wife's clothes and see how it feels to be feminine. Chats are welcomed

What's one crossdressing-related goal you have this week? It could be trying makeup, buying your first outfit, or simply building confidence.

Currently just a feminine body suit under shorts and t-shirts kinda person; switching to panty house under jeans when the weather gets colder. Just like the way they feel.

Not sure I’ll ever go all in, but I do like the way you all look when you do.

Hey y’all I have always had a lot of shame for the desire to dress. Maybe it was my religious upbringing or just knowing that my friends and family wouldn’t get it that has contributed to that. Do any of you feel that this was a stepping stone for realizing that they are a trans woman? For some reason this scares me, I don’t know why but don’t think I could ever have the courage to live out even if this is what I am repressing. I love the feeling of being made up and dressed and feels really normal when I do. I feel that even going out dressed would have people judging me. How have you all become comfortable with presenting publicly and is it performative or would you dress all of the time if you could?

My Facebook Feed is full of adverts for strappy heels and sandals. Do you think it has sussed me out 🤭

​I have a lot of female friends and spend a good deal of time in female-dominated company. Over the years, my friends have learned that they can comfortably talk to me and around me about "girl stuff." None of them know about my crossdressing.

Over time, I’ve heard plenty of complaints and put together a short list of things women vent about that are actually extremely enjoyable for me:

​"Tights/ pantyhose are so uncomfortable" – Girl, I could wear them 24/7 every single day. That one I hear a lot and makes me want to shout "just give them to me" 😅

​"Stockings keep slipping down" – Oh, how I love pulling them back up.

​"My bra strap keeps falling off my shoulder" – Adjusting a bra strap is one of those movements that feels incredibly feminine to me

​"My feet hurt so much from these heels" – You’ve clearly never worn heels that are a size too small just because your dream pair doesn't come in large sizes!

​(Just to be clear, this post is meant to be lighthearted and humorous! I'm fully aware that women deal with these everyday nuisances far more often than I do.)

​I'm curious if any of you have a list like this, too! 😊

Tell us the story of how you first discovered crossdressing or a memorable experience you've had along the way.

Hi,
I was a teenager when I first started dressing-up, trying on my mum's clothes when everyone was out working. This continued secretly after I was married, wearing my wife's clothes when she was away on business trips.
One night, in bed after a heavy drinking session, I asked her if I could try her panties on. She was horrified and told me never to discuss this again. We never did.
As the years progressed, the opportunities for exploring my feminine side grew less and less and it has now stopped.
I love to read about the experiences of other cd's and I'm especially interested in how people divide their lives between masculine and feminine personas, so please let me know if you would like to share your experiences with me.

Hi there girls! Guess the answer is "no" and anyone, me included, who really has concerns about their identity being disclosed shouldn't do that.

As many of us girls, I'm fully closeted and almost paranoid about someone finding out about Judith. It's really tempting to show my face with full makeup without the need to hide behind filters and censorship. Especially that make-up itself makes me look less like me 😊

What I'm curious about, is whether any of you even experienced or heard about someone being found here on Reddit by someone IRL. Or any other, more bothering cases like being blackmailed?

When I was little I saw Fran Drescher as the Nanny on my TV and she was everything my feminine side wanted to be. She was hilarious. She was loud. She was stylish as hell. I'm hardly the only person. There have been accounts on every social media platform thats come along honoring her greatness. Recently I get the same influence from Keke Palmer. Gorgeous. Stylish. Funny. Bold. They both provide asymptotic goals.

WHAT ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE? (Not just telly.)

Movies? Music? Shania? En Vogue? Spice Girls? Gaga? Britney? Selena? Salma? Billie? Pam Anderson?

Edit: cant believe i forgot to type Beyonce, Diane Keaton, Pam Grier and Di. They are right there for me

Who informed your feminine personality & style goals?

I had thought enlisting back when was I was 18 would cure me of my desires to dress.

What's one crossdressing-related goal you have this week? It could be trying makeup, buying your first outfit, or simply building confidence.

Have you ever dealt with a cop while dressed? Years ago I was driving to a party in a rental. Got lost driving and pulled a wrong turn in front of a cop car that I wasn't aware of. Instantly pulled over and found it was a female officer. I gave my license and rental car form. After she cleared me she gave me a ticket and sent me in.my wa I tell ya my heart was giving off seismic level activity.

Another time, I was at another party wearing skrayper high heels. Took a spill and ended going to an ER waiting hours in drag. Had to get some pain meds and a boot splint for 2 months

Hey y’all, first time I dressed/makeup was at 13. Suppressed the urge until 45. I love the feeling I get and am eager to post a picture but am really weirded out by all of the creeps lurking. I am not out here looking for any hookup it just makes me feel good to dress and some part of me wants some sort of acknowledgment. Is there any subs recommended that are just for conversation more than exhibition?

Sorry if this has question has been asked before but where do people shop online I shop on SHEIN because I can get it delivered to a pickup point and nobody knows what I’m up to. And the second question is has anyone suggested using an online shopping website or app so people could help each other with ideas a sort of virtual group shop trip.

I love the fact that when i want to i can change how i look and feel simply by putting on some different clothes than what i normally ware, now it dose feel like playing dressing up, but thats exactly what it is, its a way to escape the normal day to day and have that sence that actually you are someone else even if its just for a short while, I like that when im kat i feel whole and the world dosent bother me, for me kat is a escape away from it all, my depression and anxiety just seems to melt away, after a day of working or doing guy things, to be able to put on my make up, put on a dress then the wig and then turn to the mirror and see kat staring back at me every time i smile without fail.

I also enjoy the community i have found on reddit for years i've been alone dressing and taking selfies with nowhere to go with them just in my folder on my phone, now i can take pictures and share with a community of like minded people we all have our quirks and i love it, we are weird on that place where the norm is challenged and different and you know what, i will never change this stay weird and feel Fierce

Hey everyone! I am 47 and married, and I am looking to make some genuine friends here. I am strictly looking for platonic connections, so I am not interested in flirting, meetups, or anything like that.

I consider myself gender fluid, though I lean much more toward the feminine side of the spectrum. I would love to find people to have fun girly talks with about fashion, crossdressing, makeup, nails, and general style. In my free time, I love to draw, paint, and write, but I rarely get the chance to dive into my creative hobbies lately. My 4-year-old daughter is the light of my life, but as you can imagine, raising a toddler is as intense and demanding as it is wonderful!

If you want a friendly chat partner to talk about makeup tips, outfits, or just daily life, feel free to send me a message.