r/dating_apps

What features are you guys looking for ? like a mini game that matches can play with each other ? who wins will message first ?

As the title says, I’ve never really dated. The first person I dated proposed and we were engaged. 90’s. I broke up with him because I didn’t feel a connection. I then ended up with the person I would end up marrying for almost 30 years. I never felt I missed out on anything and he was the love of my life. He died unexpectedly over 5 years ago.
This year I decided I really wanted to find a fwb and found a man who really scratches my itch. Unexpectedly, met on Reddit and when we first started chatting, it was with zero intention of having a fwb. I really enjoy my time with him, but it’s not as frequent as I’d like. From the start I clarified I wanted just a fwb situation, not a relationship and no dating. He wanted the same. Sadly and unexpectedly, I started to really like him, but I cannot tell him. All clues point to he doesn’t feel the same way so I’m definitely not setting myself up to be shot down and he’s not willing to be exclusive.
I’ve decided to dive into the dating pool but have no idea where to start. I’m in my 50’s and fortunately inherited some decent genes so I’m not hard to look at.
My question is, what dating apps would be the best ones for me to start with? I have zero interest in ever remarrying and for now I want someone I can see on a regular basis for friendship and exclusive adult fun.

I live in the UK but I am interested in meeting someone from the US. No, I absolutely don't want to move there, I would be interested in the other person moving here. Are there any websites tailored for this?

Dating for corporate ppl

All of the working professionals, they'll update their company, and LinkedIn for verified users, like this is less risky for getting catfished and also chappris will be lesser, most of them will be educated

Hello, my fellow conspiracy theorists in this subreddit.

I present to you The Dating App Paradox™.

Here are my three totally reasonable premises:

1. Every private company exists to make money.
2. Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, etc. are private, for-profit companies.
3. They make a good chunk of that money from subscriptions.

Now for the conspiracy.

If a dating app actually helped you find your soulmate quickly... congratulations! You're deleting the app, cancelling your subscription, and riding off into the sunset. Great for you. Terrible for quarterly revenue.

So... is it really in their best financial interest to help you find the one?

Or is it more profitable to keep you in an endless cycle of:

• "This one has potential."
• "Never mind."
• "Maybe the next swipe."
• "Fine... I'll buy Premium."

I'm not saying they're intentionally matching incompatible people... but I'm also not saying they aren't. 😏

Imagine an algorithm whose real goal isn't "find your perfect match," but "find someone just compatible enough that you'll stay hopeful, but not so compatible that you'll leave."

The perfect business model is one where customers believe success is just one more swipe away.

Coincidence? Probably.

...Unless?

Andreste mai ad un appuntamento al buio organizzato da un'app che fa matchmaking sulla base di caratteristiche/interessi in comune?

I’m a 22-year-old male. I’ve gotten about 15 matches in the last month and around 30 matches total since joining Hinge about three months ago. Because of that, I don’t think my profile is the problem. The problem is that almost none of those matches turn into dates.
Here are just a few examples. I have plenty more, but they almost always end the same way—they stop responding as soon as I try to move things toward a date.

**1. Tennis**
Her: “Hi.”
Me: “Hi, so when’s my first tennis lesson?” (She had tennis in her profile.)
→ No response.
**2. “Knows what he wants”**
Her prompt: “I go crazy for a man who knows what he wants.”
My comment: “Good, because I want to take you on a date this week.”
She matched.
Me: “Hey.”
Her: “Hey.”
Me: “I stand by my last statement. When are you free?”
→ No response.
**3. First date**
Her: “Hey, how are you?”
Me: “Great, just picturing our first date.”
→ No response.
**4. Number exchange**
I asked her out, and she said she was busy because her family was in town but free the following week.
Me: “Okay, text me so we can set something up.”
She texted me.
When I actually tried to schedule the date the next week…
→ No response.
**5. Ice skating**
Her prompt was about going ice skating instead of drinks.
Me: “I’m down for ice skating, but it has to be a second date.”
Her: “Haha, don’t want to fall for me too fast, I get it. So how good at chess are you? Need to figure out how badly I’ll lose.”
Me: “Guess we’ll have to play on the first date so you can find out. Also, are you against drinks for a first date?”
→ No response.
This seems to happen over and over. Sometimes they stop replying as soon as I suggest meeting, and sometimes they even unmatch me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I asking for the date too quickly? Am I coming across as too forward or too assumptive? Or is this just normal on Hinge? I’d really appreciate honest feedback because I feel like I should be converting more of these matches into actual dates.

What app was it? What's your biggest frustration? What would have made that better? And did you switch to another app or just give up? I can't seem to find a good app these days. Is anyone out there trying real life dating? The fact that birth rates are down isn't reassuring....

Apart from here and the more obvious ones (thank you Grindr) any suggestions for decent apps to meet other bisexual men and couples? I’ve tried Feeld but find it too glitchy and a bit hit and miss

Edit: This is another attempt of a post I made. The bot stated the first post was deleted. Now it’s not, idk…

Greetings, this is quite alien to me. Asking for advice on the internet.

I'm a 24M, and new to the dating environment. I'm seeking a masculine women for a life partner.

Someone who has.

* The short hair
* Piercings
* Androgynous clothing
* Tattoos
* Independence
* Active lifestyle
* Banter
* Confidence
* Genuine love
* Etc.

These aspects of one's autonomy is critical to me. I believe it's a great measurement for longevity. Because it perpetuates the idea of viewing each other as equals. Rather than, "I'm in charge" or "She's in charge." Any who, I don't wish to advertise myself here. Because, I want to be respectful with this forum's rules. Could anyone provide knowledge for which dating apps I should utilize? I'm open to hear alternative options too.

Much appreciated.

Met this guy and he asked me on a date. I said yes. He wanted to meet at the park. I said no because it was a trail and secluded and I DONT KNOW YOU! He said ok he will plan again. He kept planning all parks! Kept sending me different public parks and I am so turned off and confused. Im n older woman and ive never experienced dating in this way. My first dates have always been dinner or a planned activity (water park, zoo, botanical gardens…etc)…i told him i wasnt comfortable meeting in the places he was picking and he didnt suggest anything else. Just kept picking and looking at other parks. Im so tired of dating

What is this new dating culture??????!

i put a profile on Bumble about 3 weeks ago, and i’ve only gotten one message in my chat. i’m using it free, so even though it says i have 150+ likes and a shifting number next to “Really into you,” it says that next to its Pay for Premium link, so i’m not considering those real, and it’s not letting me access those profiles in any way.

BUT i was under the impression i could use this app for free and still make some matches and have access to chats with them. am i doing something wrong?

(this post doesn’t seem to allow me to attach pics, but i’ll try to reply a screencap of my photos there if anyone wants to give me pointers! i don’t have a ton of pics of myself on my camera roll, but i’m not a troll lol)

I currently have no dating apps at the moment but I’m wiling to invest in one again. I had tinder in the beginning of the year. I tried out the one month subscription. I got a couple matches but didn’t really get anything going. So what’s a good current dating app that successful at the moment?

yo guys. so i want to use datings apps im kinda socially awkward talking to people irl and my parents won't let me download any dating app plus i don't wanna hide it from them because if i got caught accidentally its over for me. So i have decided to create a dating app that is parents approved. it does not promote flings hookups and all that kinda things.

i wanna market it in indian colleges around major cities but idk how to i have never went to college thus not have such experience.

if y'all have any ideas im open and thrilled and excited to hear them.

I found this guy I’m dating who just asked me to be his girlfriend last week back on the dating app that we met on. He told me he deleted it, we are long distance. He changed his location from where he met me in California now back to his hometown. I’m not even sure how I even bring that up. I went back onto the app to see if he actually deleted it like he said and nope, still on there. He also just told me he loved me last week too and wants to see me in August. But changed his location back to his hometown even though he’s moving here to California in a few months.
How do I address this?

"This is just for indian location" Do you know what happened today?

I thought let's see what girls' experiences are like on dating apps. Created a female profile, no proper photo, no effort on the profile. And dude, within a minute, there were already 15+ matches and messages.

That's when I realized how overwhelming dating apps must be for girls.

The funny thing is, the people messaging were mostly decent. Nobody was weird or creepy. The problem was that so many messages were coming in at once that they all started to feel the same.

And then a realization hit me.

We guys think we are competing with one or two people. In reality, you might just be one conversation out of 50.

So when replies are dry or seem to lack effort, it doesn’t necessarily mean the other person is bad. They might just have so many options that they don’t find a reason to invest in one chat.

My conclusion isn’t that all girls on dating apps are looking for attention. But it definitely felt like the app's structure makes it difficult to form genuine connections.

Some people come out of boredom, some after a breakup, some for validation, and some genuinely looking for a relationship. But when so many options come in at once, it becomes hard to take any one person seriously.

My personal observation is that if someone has a strong social circle and finds a person that matches their vibe, they usually tend to choose that person. Dating apps often become a second or third option.

I myself never reached a point on dating apps where there was equal effort from both sides in a conversation. It always felt like I was pulling a truck. But with the people I connected with naturally, the conversations were effortless.

So if you're looking for a serious relationship, just see dating apps as a tool, don’t build your entire strategy around them.

Meet people in real life. Join events. Pursue hobbies. Connect through friends.

Because on the app, you're not matching; you're competing in an ocean of attention.

That was just today’s observation. Everyone might have a different experience.

Hello everybody, first of i would like to apologize for my english, not my main language and take that straight out of the way, second of all, i am developing a dating app, where its exactly like tinder and all the other regular well known apps, with the difference of it having weekly challanges, every week users will have casual dating challanges, where they would need to go on a beach, draw a hearth and take a pic togheter, or build a small roman arc where the "head" stone symbolise their new relationship, every week there would be 4 different challanges, and 4 couples who would win a prize, for now the prize is 100$ each so 200$ per couple (so 800$ weekly giveaway)

the whole point of this is to actually give couple a genuine goal, something that might bond them togheter, a motivation of actually going on and meeting someone in order to achieve something togheter, that will be the main drive and one of the "special features" of the app, of course this app will need a donation system, so it will have premium, however it will be about 3$ a week and even less if the user decided to buy a monthly or annual plan (800$ a week is money you need to somehow maintain)

thoughts?

Was at a wedding last week and watched someone literally panic when an aunty tried small talk with them. Like visibly froze, gave one word answers, escaped to "get water." Same person has 200+ matches on Hinge and texts strangers all day without breaking a sweat.

That's when it hit me, we've optimized for swiping, not talking. We can judge someone's whole personality from 6 photos and a prompt in under 2 seconds, but put us in an actual room with an actual stranger and most of us short circuit.

Think about it: our parents' generation had way less "choice" but somehow could hold a conversation with literally anyone , let that be neighbor, shopkeeper, random person at a function, doesn't matter. We have infinite choice and somehow can't talk to the cute person in our own friend group without overthinking every text for 45 minutes first.

does anyone else feel like they got worse at talking to people the more they used these apps? Or is it just me.

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