r/gaybrosindia

I just got to know few days go that I'm bi(top) so honestly I need few advice about how to date & how to build a genuine friendship & how to be part of this community please guide me & I'm looking forward to connect with fellow verse & bottom etc

I (25 M) am in a 6-month long relationship with my partner (23 M). Since the starting we knew we had subtle differences because we grew up v differently- i grew up in a city and he grew up in a town 100 kms off of Rajasthan. However we both fell for each other and I think I have never been this physically compatible with someone. However sometimes I feel like for me its easier to talk to my friends like just doing bakchodi here and there than my partner. I know that sounds bad- I have known my friends a long time- sometimes i will just have a conversation with them for 40 mins and i would not even realise it. I dont wanna burden my partner with such a heavy expectation but I see this going ling term and I dont know how to navigate this. Any advice would be very helpful.

I was a introvert guy since childhood. And gay.

Lost my parents when I was 16-17.

It was dark times of my life.

Looked for a support, love and someone to understand me.

I really looked for a guy to love. ( I know many of you won't understand and lecture me to be self sufficient, but I had always been lonely I don't wanna be lonely anymore it scares me)

I realised it's so hard to find love in gay community.

I am 28M, I have been living abroad since 1.5 years and recently heard that gay matrimony exits in India now. I am curious if anyone has ever used it and how's the experience?

I am tired of kissing frogs I want my mom to find the prince charming now lol.

Its like searching since 2021. Some are time passing, some are like attention seekers, some look for physique and apparence, some money and all, most of them are just for fun. Idk its not Happening,

Im 25m from thiruvananthapuramm, i would to love to connect with Someone from thiruvananthapuramm or kerala, tamilnadu or if your Someone working or studying in kerala like to connect (guys its not like i dont wanna connect with Someone who is from other parts of india location is because can meet frequently spending time together matters )

Im top(just for info), see i dont have energy to fight with Anyone, im looking for Someone stable mentally, I need a space for myself, Also please above 30 and married, below 20 dont text, fems plus dont text me.

Thank you in advance

I'm a 25-year-old Tamil guy from a middle-class family in India, currently working in Chennai. My parents live in a village and are not formally educated. Our household has always been emotionally reserved — we care about each other, but we don’t really discuss personal or sensitive topics.

My elder sister is married with children. My elder brother is married with a child, but he is currently living separately from his wife and their situation is unstable, which has already caused a lot of stress in the family.

I am financially independent and do not depend on my parents.

The main issue is something I have never discussed with anyone in my family: I am not attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men. I have known this for several years. I have never been in a sexual relationship with a woman, and I do not feel attraction in that direction.

I also don’t fit any visible stereotype — I present and behave like a typical man, and I don’t think anyone around me would guess this about me. Because of that, I often feel like I would not easily fit into either my local social environment or LGBTQ spaces.

In my family and village context, there is strong stigma around anything related to sexuality, and I don’t think my parents have much understanding of concepts like sexual orientation.

My parents have started asking about marriage. I haven’t refused directly and have just delayed the conversation by saying “maybe after a couple of years.” Since my brother’s situation is currently unstable, I haven’t been pressured further yet, but I expect that to change in the future.

Where I am stuck is this:

I care about my parents and do not want to cut ties with my family. At the same time, I am unsure how they would react if I told them the truth. There is a real possibility they may panic and push for an immediate marriage, but I also cannot predict whether they might eventually understand.

I am also concerned about what I could lose:

• My relationship with my siblings and extended family
• My role in my nieces/nephews’ lives
• Social standing in my village/community
• Friends and general support system
• My relationship with my parents

At the same time, I do want children in the future and want to be a responsible father and take care of my parents as they age.

However, I also feel that marrying a woman in a traditional heterosexual marriage would not be fair to her or to me if I cannot provide emotional and physical compatibility.

At this point, I see three broad paths:

1. Stay single for now and figure out my personal life and relationships over time
2. Consider a mutually understood arrangement (for example, a lavender marriage with someone in a similar situation)
3. Proceed with a traditional arranged marriage, which I feel would likely lead to long-term issues for both partners

I am not looking for reassurance, but for practical perspectives. If anyone has gone through something similar — whether staying single, coming out, or entering an arranged/lavender marriage — I would really appreciate hearing about long-term outcomes and what they learned.

TL;DR: 25M financially independent gay man in India facing future marriage pressure. Unsure whether to come out, stay single, or consider alternative arrangements. Looking for practical, real-world advice on long-term outcomes.

Hi family,

I'm a 27 M from a very orthodox brahmin family from south india raised in a remote area.

I always had confusion about my sexuality.

Now I'm in Bangalore from last 2 years, the confusion is haunting my mind. I don't know how to make a discussion.

Suggestions needed.

So, this question came to my mind because i chatted with a lot of men and everyone was different in their own way but after 1 or 2 days they will simply ghost you , ignore you.

Just a night before they will make you feel like anything and the next morning its like nothing

Is it just me or has someone else also felt or experienced the same.

Hello, I'm a huge fan of gay guys here.

So my Ex was a Gay Top and he really liked me, although our relationship was LDR but still we connected quite well, and I did ask him like does he really likes me , because im an MTF.

And he always said yes, so I am like a bit confused, or is it true that some Gays men can like femboys and MTFs who haven't transitioned?

Any gaybros in consulting, finance, law, medicine, tech, or other demanding careers?

How do you balance work with dating, friendships, fitness, and having a life outside your job? I’m in consulting, and it sometimes feels like work takes up all of my free time.

I am interested to hear how others have managed to build a fulfilling personal life while still progressing in their careers. Especially guys in late 20s / early 30s

I donno why india lacks top males

Any gaygamer here? What kind of games you guys play?

Virgin guys. Why did you never?

Hey! I'm 16, turning 17 soon, and I'm from Delhi. As I get older, I'm trying to embrace my sexuality and prepare for adulthood.

Older gay guys, what's one piece of advice you wish someone had given you at my age? It can be about coming out, dating, confidence, relationships, staying safe, or life in general.

I'd especially love to hear from people in delhi , but everyone's welcome. Thanks!

Imagine you live in a flat with your gay fwb.

And he brings up his hookup to the flat.

Do you also join them?