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32 year old guy looking for a deep connection that can last. I have a romantic side but I don’t open up easily. I am more on the reserved side i would say. Though, i’m not fully introverted so it doesn’t enable me from having a decent conversation or a genuine connection. I am long term oriented but i believe it takes time to build trust and connect on a solid base.

Hello there ,

My name is Kevin and I am looking for something long term and serious. So here is a little about me

Name : Kevin

Age : 25

Height : 5'6 (168cm)

Hobbies: Gaming , working out , swimming , hiking , watching tv series and more.

Who am I looking for ? I am looking for someone who can match my vibes , I've been described as a " golden retriever" human with the looks of a bad boy (LoL).

I am looking for you who lives in EUROPE and is ready to start as a friendship and explore where it can lead.

Let's not be afraid to travel and meet up IF everything is going into the right direction.

Ideally it would be fun to find a gamer+ gym kind of guy

I am into masculine guys so no femboys here please and thank you. Age required is 23-29.

•Vers• if needed to know

Feel free to dm and start with a selfie

Hello, I hope you’re doing well ❤️☺️
As the title suggests, I’m looking for an *actual*, *strictly committed*, loyal relationship with someone who is also seeking a life partner.
If you’re only interested in online sexual stuff or casual hookups, I’m 100% **NOT interested** 🚫🚫—messages with that undertone will be blocked. I just want to make that clear from the start 🥹

Also, if you’re not intending to move toward a real relationship, then I’m definitely not the right person for you. I’m genuinely here to see if we’re a compatible match for something serious.

I know I sound repetitive, but I really want to emphasize this: my intention is a real relationship 😭 I just don’t want to get hurt anymore. I’ve had bad past experiences, but I truly believe this time will be different 🥹🙏🏼💞

• A little more about me:

As you can probably already tell, I believe in **dating for a life partner/marriage**.
I don’t really see the point of dating if it’s not leading toward marriage or finding a life partner.
My name is Warren, originally from China. I’m currently working after graduating overseas, and I’m 21, almost 22.
I’m 176cm (around 5’9), and I weigh about 58kg. Physically, I’m quite weak and a bit meek—I don’t really have much strength 😿
I think I’m underweight. I used to struggle with anorexia and being unhealthy, but I’m all good now 🤞🤞
(My upper body is quite skinny, but my lower body is a bit disproportionately fat. I honestly don’t know why…)
I wear nerdy black square glasses 🤓👓 and have long, messy hair. I know I’m not very good-looking, but I’m trying to improve myself.
I also look quite feminine? 😅—sometimes even kids or adults call me “auntie” or “madam” at work 😅😭
(Though honestly… I do want to settle down and be a full-time housewife someday hahaha)
Clothing-wise, I’m very um well... I wear old, baggy clothes, mostly from clearance sales 😅
I rarely buy new clothes and often get worn ones from people I know (you know… the economy 🥲😅)
I also have zero fashion sense, even though I studied design—which is kind of ironic 😭

• My Hobbies & personality:

I love being cozy at home watching movies.
I also enjoy listening to conspiracy theories and wild history topics.
I like designing and drawing random, silly things too.
(I don’t drink, smoke, or club or do any of that, so I'm looking for someone who doesn't do those as well.)
(I do have more hobbies—I’d love to talk and discover shared interests together!)
Personality-wise, I can be bubbly and a bit clingy once I’m comfortable with you 😅 (it might get annoying sometimes haha)
Most of the time, I’m quite passive and go with the flow. I’m not the best at making decisions for myself for some reason… but at the same time, I really like sticking to routines. I know—it’s a bit contradictory 😭

• What I’m looking for: 💗💗

A **loyal, strictly monogamous relationship** that will grow into something lifelong. Something Vanilla and Romantic at first okay..
I know it might sound cringy, but I want something deeply intimate, close, and emotionally connected—where both of us are invested in each other.
A relationship where we learn about each other every day, support each other through good and bad, communicate openly, and simply *stay*.
No disappearing, no abandonment… (yes, a bit of trauma there lol 😭)
I do have a type (I’m sorry, I can’t help it 🥹): I’m really drawn to masculinity and self-discipline—okay maybe like the “alpha male” stereotype haha, just someone strong, grounded, and dependable. A man who is self-assured and likes to take the lead. Stern and serious when it comes to serious things.
Someone whose personality and strength I admire, look up to, and can learn from.
Maybe more conservative, masculine, but still kind, caring, and soft-hearted deep down.
I will always be emotionally present for you, and I don’t think it’s wrong to hope for the same in return.
I want us to take care of each other and give each other the emotional support we both need.
Personality-wise, I’m attracted to someone intelligent, mature, and in control of their life and decisions.
Physically, I prefer someone taller than me or with a bigger build/frame.
And someone self-disciplined, healthy, and well put-together….
Then please be my Prince Charming haha🥹
I promise I’ll be the best boyfriend/partner/wifey material (lmao 😭) if we’re together—that, I can swear on.

Things will get better, and the right person will come—for me and for anyone reading this 🫶🏼❤️
Take care, and I wish you love and happiness too.
If you’re interested, feel free to reach out with an introduction of yourself and a picture. Thank you ☺️

Hello everyone,
I'm Aiden.
I'm 30 years old and I love in the Bay Area here in Northern California. Trying this out since dating apps have been unsuccessful, I'm looking for a genuine connection that leads to something serious. I'm not looking for casual relationships or hookups. Ideally looking for someone around my age, nobody younger than 29.
Things I like; Pop music, Mexican / Italian food, the beach, working out, long drives, wrestling, horror movies and crime documentaries.
I'm not opposed to long distance, as long as we have equal effort. For compatibility purposes I mainly am a bottom when it would come to intimacy.
Feel free to message me, please have photos.

I'm 19 and into writing, music, gym, gaming, and skateboarding. Im into all ages so feel free to dm! I like meeting and learning about new people. I have few limits so feel free to be blunt! Im currently looking for an online long term relationship. Im currently in school studying psychology.

Hello every one :)

I am 30, gay, 1m71/5'7" tall looking for a serious relationship. I live in France, but I also lived in London and Athens. Totally willing to relocate for the right man.

I have many interests, such as reading, writing, cooking, history, philosophy, video/board games, nice walks in enchanting places, hopefully with a charming and special man by my side hehe

Take care of yourselves 😊

Hey!
My name is Ron i moved to thailand 4 years ago and started an online dream business of mine last year, as my business is growing i always dreamt about creating a family in a farm self sustainable lifestyle I know thailand is far, but so is my passion to create this family thing with running kids and chickens

I will prefer middle eastern / African manly guys
Please when u message show urself.

Hello, im looking for someone around my age and preferably living in Brazil too (not against LDR either but I feel it would be easier, but if you think it can work let’s try?) I tend to like guys who are more into the masc side BUT with a soft personality (im not into “macho man” aggressive masculinity). I also like guys who are confident about his sexuality and like cuddles, being romantic, nature, amusement parks and art.

A bit more about me: almost graduating from architecture school and i’m also an artist (paintings and ceramics)

Hii, first of all, this is probably my 4th post in 6 months and I think some of you are tired of seeing me... Anyway, I'm 19, I'll be 20 in September. Accepting my identity wasn't easy because of the culture I live in, but I finally accepted myself. And I've been looking for a serious relationship since I was 17. I've always wanted a man who loved me very much. I don't know if that's a weakness, but I still want it. And now I want to talk about all my weaknesses. I didn't tell you before because I didn't want people to pity me, but I don't care anymore. At 17, I had my first epileptic seizure due to stress (I think), and I've had acne problems since I was 13 and have acne scars on my face. I used Accutane twice. (I hated mirrors) I'm also tired of pretending to be happy, I always pretended to be happy because I didn't want people to pity me and I'm tired of it now. Anyway this was a very negative post. I'm just going through a tough time. Normally I think I'm a positive person. If I were to introduce myself, I enjoy writing things that express my feelings, listening to music, spending time outdoors with animals, and learning new things. If it's important to you. I'm 1.74 and my weigh 70-75 . I'm a little hairy and a bit thin. I think I prefer emotional things like cuddling and sleeping together...

(The purpose of writing this isn't to evoke pity or seek approval, I just wanted to be honest. Thanks...)

Hey, I'm Herman, 26 — Russian, currently in Buenos Aires, open to relocating.

I'm a calm, homey guy with a soft side: deep conversations, cozy evenings, gaming, and good music. I have a naturally feminine energy, and I'm not shy about it.

I'm looking for something real — a strong, grounded man who knows what he wants and is open to building a life together. Family, stability, and genuine connection matter to me.

Physically I'm tall (184 cm / 6'0"), slim, and fit. I'm most drawn to confident, masculine men who take care of themselves.

I have no ties holding me in one place, so distance isn't a dealbreaker. Online is a fine start.

If any of this resonates, say hi. A photo is always welcome. 😊

Here's a playlist if you want to get a feel for me before writing.

Single dad. In Oklahoma.Gamer. Builder of a quiet life instead of chasing chaos.

I’m at the point where I want something real — not situationships, mixed signals, or people who disappear when things get serious. Loyalty, honesty, effort, and actual connection matter to me. If we click, I’m the type to invest fully.

Outside of work and dad life, gaming is one of my favorite ways to unwind. Whether it’s grinding through an RPG, surviving co-op chaos, or getting lost in a good story-driven game, it’s part of who I am. Bonus points if you game too, but it’s not required.

Distance isn't a huge issue but nothing to far please and within the USA.

I value depth over surface-level perfection. Dark humor, late-night conversations, emotional intelligence, and someone who can be both soft and strong all catch my attention fast.

If you’re looking for casual, we probably won’t match. If you want consistency, chemistry, and something with actual potential, maybe we should talk.

Hey hi!

So, I'm just your boy-next-door from Calcutta, India who's looking to make connections and see where it goes. I'm a postgrad university student and life can be quite hectic at times, but I just wanna have some good conversations and more. It's hard to make friends because of social anxiety so I'm here looking for people I can click with. I'm also open to moving onto other apps as well, however, I'm NOT on Snap.

I don't wanna give away too much as I'm saving that for the chats, but I hope to hear from you if this caught your eye. My DMs are open, let's get talking :)

Hope to get to know someone.
Kinda a boring sad chubby little man, not many interests.
I’ve been recently watching This is Us and playing Baldur’s Gate. I could do Leagues of Legends also.
Is anyone interested in a voice chat? I’d love to talk in voice. Accents are my fetish.
Been to many places but only for work.
Don’t really like to go out, even on holidays I’m always at home, mostly because I don’t have anyone to go with.
If anyone here is from Shanghai and willing to meet, that’d be awesome! :)
And hope this is enough for 50 words, I’m not really good at describing myself.

So, hi, this is my first time posting in here, i think i´m ready to open my heart again.

about me, well, i´m a filmmaker, gemini, loves skincare and fashion, i´m a huge nerd for sci-fi and kaijus! i love Ethel Cain and i´m a pretty sensitive guy.

I guess i´m into bigger men, maybe what people call -bears or wolves. idk, but i´m pretty open, i´m not into casual stuff, i´m looking for someone honest, mature and secure of himself :3

Hey there, I am hoping to find someone who also speaks german around here :)

To give you an idea who I am, I got a big passion for gaming and of course would love to share this passion with others. Currently I am once again attempting to play Baldurs Gate 3 till the end :D
I also got an affection for anime, eventho I take regular breaks in watching anime myself, I still quite like to talk about it and enjoy the community.

In generall I am a relaxed and grounded kind of guy, and I am looking forward to meet nice new people :)

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I’m a 29-year-old doctor, easygoing by nature, and I live a pretty healthy lifestyle — no smoking, drinking, or drugs. I’m originally from an Afro-Arab country, so I guess my features are a mix of both cultures.

I spent about 18 months in Ireland 🇮🇪 trying different apps and ways to meet other people, but nothing really went anywhere. I’ve now moved to Scotland, hoping a bigger and more diverse place would improve my chances — but so far, not much has changed.

Personality-wise, I’m quite sociable and (I’ve been told) funny. I enjoy conversations that go beyond small talk — I like discussing cultures, religions, the world in general, nature, even space. I travel regularly and really enjoy it. I’m also into running, hiking, gym, music, and long walks. Staying healthy is just part of my lifestyle, not an obsession. I do a bit of gaming too — just a couple of games for a few hours each week. My job is demanding and involves a lot of studying and exams, but I’m nearing the end of my training and should be a consultant soon.

What I’m looking for is someone grounded, thoughtful, and self-aware. Someone who can hold a conversation, challenge my perspective, and has their own life together. I’m not looking to “complete” someone — I believe in two whole people choosing each other.

I’m not overly focused on body type, but I do tend to prefer someone who takes care of themselves and falls somewhere in the middle. I’m also open to long-distance. My career is flexible internationally, so if things felt right, relocating in the future wouldn’t be off the table. However, if you are going to be wanting a long distance you need to have a job and able to actually afford flying back and forth as I would do as well but you have to be somewhat financially independent.

Note: Ideally looking for someone 5 years older or younger but it is not a must there are always exceptions :) If you are sliding to my DMs send me a small intro about you and a picture of yourself, what do you like and what you are looking for so we can have something to work with :)

I have been in two relationships (4 years and 2 years) and don’t mind to talk about them with the right person.

PLEASE DO NOT ASK FOR NUDES I AM NOT LOOKING FOR THAT AT ALL & THANKS!

If any of this resonates, feel free to message — would be great to see where a conversation might lead.

Looking forward to hearing from yous :)

Hey, I’m 20 from Chongqing, China. Looking for something real, so if you’re just bored or looking to mess around, I’m probably not your person

I like traveling and I’ve been to a few countries already, so distance doesn’t really scare me. If we click and things feel right, I’d totally be open to meeting someday

I’m usually into more masculine guys. Bonus points if you’re chill, confident, and easy to talk to. Preferably 19–35

Just hoping to find someone genuine and see where it goes