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I want a boyfriend so bad please manly one that’s more feminine tho

Hey, so I am In a bit of a dilemma. I am 20, gay and a virgin and I met this guy on Grindr and we hit things of great. I added him on snap and we talked a lot online and obviously we jerked off together. He invited me to come over we live in the same building to go and do more stuff together. But I am a bit hesitant, I am still in the closet and atp our entire university lives in my building so I am cooked if anyone says anything. At the same time he is very hot and I would love to get more physical with him but I am also scared on losing my virginity rn. Any recommendations or suggestions

I’ve been on here for a while, and I’ve talked to a ridiculous amount of people (guys mostly). Anyway every time I meet someone we have a really good conversation (at least by my standards) and talk for a few hours sometime we exchange goodbyes and others the conversations just ends which is fine. But what I really wanted people opinions on are just straight ghosting people. Obviously no one owes you anything and I’m not really mad about it, I’m just kinda confused. Why spend so much time talking to someone and then just kinda leave them hanging for weeks or days on end. It’s really annoying for me personally cause you know, you think you’re moving the right direction just for you to realize this random person could not give less of a fuck about you. (It’s kinda funny when you think about) also why do people think it’s ok to just ask you for dick pics. Obviously I’m an adult I can decide who I send shit to and accept the risk that come with it but Jesus Christ I thought people had a little more respect for others the amount of guys that ask me is wild. Anyway that’s my rant, feel free to criticize me.

I honestly think I need it or maybe share some bullshit that’s also mildly irritating for you. Lol sometimes I hate the internet lol.

Just basically about anything gay lol.

This is pretty old.. in middle school i was dating this guy who made me realize i was actually gay and we broke up later and kept things as fwb😭 he says im the only guy hes attracted to but i doubt that i think hes in denial.. also hes an asshole he did so many bad things to me and now he claims hes straight what do you guys think??

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So i had sex for the first time,the guy had a condom but didn't usd lube ,however theh guy was kindz agressive (i told him i was a vergin) but he went deep without any build up .also i was scared bc he got tested négative last month but i google and u can get HIv znd other viruses by contact .So over all bad- good 😭???

I'm 22 and since lately I find it so difficult to find any opportunities to actually even 'try to find' boyfriend or increase the likelihood. Like in my city there's only one event for queers at a young age, it's fairly a small group, and the rest are just bars/clubs with old people, drunk people, loud music and generally not safe to go alone. And I've been going to a theatre group and the student community, but I found nobody interesting. I feel like it's a huge issue for me (I don't know if it makes sense to call it an issue) but I just don't find most guys on tinder and online attractive enough, I just feel zero arousal.

Sometimes I feel it but that happens rarely and usually it's not someone who's single, living in my city and who wants to go on a date. I'm just basically spending my time sitting in the library, studying algeba and around me are either girls or guys I don't imagine flirting with, and even if I wanted, neither library or any public space is a good place for it.

I just don't really see any opportunities in the upcoming future. Sometimes it's hard to make friends in real life (I'm in Germany,no offense, but most people here aren't the most open, funny, social) but it's even harder to imagine that someone I will not only vibe with, have a good time, but also really fall in love with his looks. It sounds so unrealistic to me, especially because currently I have nowhere to "go" to look around, except my library, and some very casual random events in the city.

FYI I'm not that upset by it just kinda frustrated. So anyways a couple of months ago I somehow snapped my leg in half and I've been bed ridden ever since. What I'm going through does suck but what's really bothering me is that I want to start dating but how am I supposed to do that when I'm stuck in bed 24/7??? Should I use a dating app? I know that most gay dating apps are super shitty. Any suggestions?