r/infedility

I have evidence my husband has been seeing sex workers. At the very least he is searching them out online. I’m assuming he’s also seen some. Should I text him the screenshots of the evidence I have and leave? I feel like that would scare him and I’d love that for him. Or should I confront directly and see how he reacts? I’m extremely upset, we have two kids. He sought them out 11 days after I gave birth to our 2nd child and again when she was 5w old.

Update: he’s been confronted. Admits to going on these sites but claims he just uses them as porn. Says he just looks at the pictures. I would love to believe him but I don’t. Should probably include that this is the second time something like this has happened. Idk what to do. I’m in such a difficult position having young children. I’m a SAHM and am totally dependent on him currently. What a shit show. If we didn’t have children I’d be gone.

So here's the background. Been married 16 years. Most of it very happy and to a wonderful wife. We have 2 kids and a good life. About a month ago i was on our computer and found all these gchats from wife to all her GFs etc etc from 2008 on. I know this is invasion of privacy so i don't want to go into that here. I learned a lot about who she was that i didn't know. Kind of hurt me a lot more than i thought it would. She was a Club girl, with many sexual partners etc etc. Learned through her chats she was seeing like 5 dudes on and right when she met me. Found out she continued for a few months afterwords but they all ended. I trust her to not cheat (except maybe a little less when she drinks to much and out with her gfs) but i don't think she has cheated on me during our marriage. Long story short she really liked this guy when i met her but i think he knew she was a party girl and didn't want anything long term. Fast forward few years later we married in 2011 and i found out that guy moved a few streets over from us. I find another chat with him and her talking about them having some dog dates, it had a little flirtatious wording and induendos. She has no reason or business talking to some guy she use to bang who ended it with her. I thought someone doing that a few months after she got married was beyond disrespectful and hurtful. So then a few months after i found another gchat with her and her gf saying did you here so and so broke up (the guy). Wife says to her I've been walking by his house wanting to go in and see him.( had an angel emoji with halos) at end of sentence. I confronted her and she totally denied nothing happed and i was just being jealous and over reading it. I want to ask yall your opinions. Thanks.